same, my mom gets fustrated and angry when i talk about my pain. They really don't understand what we're going through because they aren't experiencing it, i think, and they themselves can't do or really know how to fix our conditions.
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That's fucked up, I am so sorry. If it wasn't for my wife's compassion I would not be still here. I mean seriously. Get the fuck out of there.
@Tryn2BHopeful Sorry your wife was not empathetic. Do you have any other friends or family members that might meet you with more compassion?
@gameover I am not gonna go, I got my kids and where would I go, I would just be alone anyway, I don't have any family nearby. I don't think its intentional per say, but some compassion would be great.
Really sorry to hear that. Not cool at all :-(
@Tryn2BHopeful Sorry to hear. It is a real tough place to be. Can't imagine. And so crazy you started just after a couple of pills. I have at least myself to blame.
@gameover Believe me.. I blame myself every day for taking those pills. I shouldn't but I do. I blame myself for ruining my life, and altering the life of my family. I had a choice, I thought I made the right one. I just didn't understand the consequence. Now i live with a constant reminder of what I did.
My husband decided to turn to weed in the beginning of May because "he couldn't handle how shitty our life was". Problem is weed sends him into mania (family hx of bipolar) and he has been in a manic state since July. He set fire to our marriage, family relationships, etc. He filed for divorce against me 3 weeks ago. This person was supposed to be my protector and life companion, now he's gone.
@ErikaS I am so sorry. I keep forcing myself to do the normal things, to "hide my condition" Its exhausting. This condition is a gut punch, I was always the strong one the protector and was prepared to be such until the end. Now I dont even want to get out of bed. I understand my wife's frustration, I wish she understood mine. Seems to be a common thread with T sufferers.
So sorry @Tryn2BHopeful and @ErikaS my heart breaks for you both. Just as my major tinnitus problems started I'd split with my long term partner of ten years about 6 months prior. I've had to rely on my elderly parents for support and without them don't know if I'd have still been here at times.
@GG_Ear My mother might be the only one, but she has her own issues at her age. Not to mention she just lectures me. Never made a lot of friends outside of work, and the one I had died about a month ago unexpectedly.
I am so sorry to read all the posts above. @Tryn2BHopeful I feel for you. I am in the same boat. Nobody believes me. I would not believe it if it did not happen to me. Had so many extreme ups and downs.
@gameover T definitely stops one's life in an instant and is a huge hardship and cross to bear, however to say "T ruined him or us", that takes responsibility off of him and what he chose to do and how HE ruined US. I could not control the ear infection that I got and how it went into my inner ear and caused this rare form of reactive multi-sound tinnitus...
I have gone above and beyond to get me better. My sole purpose in surviving this was so that we could get our life back and continue to try to grow our family through IVF, but his decision to self medicate with something that he knew would cause self destruction and harm to our marriage and families, he ruined us. Not me and my T.