Seems harsh to me @Juliane They wouldn't know how you are, I get that, but they do it with good intentions. To be surrounded with negativity usually doesn't serve you any good.
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If you weren't thinking positively already you'd be dead
Hmmm sorry to hear.. and to be honest it reads kind of interesting to me. I've struggle too with "just trying to be positive". For me.. what helps.. is the idea of naturaless.. if we have natural & healthy bodies.. can say it just feels pleasant and at ease. My t is caused by extremely unnatural high volume of sound.. so it saddens me that the insight of naturalness for body mind and soul has come so late.
So well yeah... now it's hope for recovery that gets me through.. and trying to live naturally from now on.. sorry if this comment comes accross a bit self centered, but well.. it's just sharing...
I can't force myself to think positively with all the anxiety and brain fog caused by multiple loud variable tinnitus sounds. People that don't have it or have mild cases won't get it.
Making an effort to be happy or positive sucks for me. It's more beautiful when it comes naturally. Possibly one day we will feel that way. Forcing it …. Not so sure. They have zero idea. When we get there we will have an authentic reason for it.
If the friends still talk to you at all consider yourself fortunate. Mine stopped. Well one was, but is dealing with mother's cancer now. Maybe I will hear back from him. The rest? Nope. Ran away. Too bad, because I'd appreciate something simple. Just a phone call, or invitation for a tea.
@gameover - I was told something by a friend the other day that I do not want to repeat. Rips a hole in my gut every night. I am so sorry that happened to you. I feel it happening in my life too. This is a harsh, harsh, harsh reality. A nightmare beyond belief. We are only as valuable as what we bring to that table. My heart is broken.
@MindOverMatter I know how it may sound, and I might not have explained myself well enough, but what I meant was that some people seem to think that suffering from T is linked to how you think (positively or negatively) and that simply is not true. I had bad T before, and I never thought anything positive or good about it, and it improved anyway.
Now it has worsened significantly and I know from experience that what you think about it has zero impact on the symptom. It is purely physical. And therefore I cannot accept so-called friends insinuating that my depressive state can impact a purely physical symptom.
Sorry if this sounds harsh but that is my reality. No one would ask people with a broken leg to think positively either because that would have zero effect on the outcome. It either heals or it does not. You could be the biggest pessimist in the world, if your body decides to heal, it will do so regardless.
Medical science seems to claim otherwise, that there is mind-body connection, and the mental state/attitude influences somatic healing outcomes. I think there is lots of real evidence for that. T is much harder as this is physical damage in the brain, literally or effectively (if damage is in the inner ear). So all bets are off.
I get where you are coming from @Juliane , and I understand and agree in some ways. Positivity certainly won't heal you alone. But having a positive outview of/to life, in spite of daily struggles, is to me a force for the better.
T is complex, and there are many facets to it - its not comparable to having a physical damage, like a broken bone, that would eventually heal. Dwelling in negativity feeds anxiety, and to my experience this makes handling t and h more difficult. So in turn this has an impact. You could ask any audiologist about this that has qualifications within the field of t and h.
Totally agree @Juliane , i know for myself that my t came from severe acoustic trauma. It is a physical damage, and i agree with the analogy that its not like "think positively and you can walk again without having legs". It just doesn't work like that.