*sigh* Gentlemen, gentlemen. It seems we have started out on the wrong foot. Allow me to attempt to mend some fences.
John G, I'm sorry you have been struggling with T for twenty years and have not gotten to the point where it doesn't bother you anymore. Perhaps you have more going on in your life than just a bad case of T, and the T is simply just another added trouble that remains unconquerable. I don't know, because one can only glean so much from a few short sentences on an Internet forum. In any case, I wish you nothing but the best, and for you to one day find peace with this terrible affliction. This is not meant as sarcasm, I mean it.
Telis, I don't think anyone should ever have to suffer in silence. I also don't think people who have been suffering for decades should be expected to pretend that it's all sunshine and rainbows right around the corner. I just happen to believe that maybe the best place to vent these frustrations is not in a newbies post. I know that I, and I believe many others, first came to this forum after my initial onset of T. And I would troll the forums for hours, reading what seemed to be horror story after horror story, which in turn fueled my negative state of mind and reinforced my focus on the T. Looking back, this was the worst thing I could do. There's a reason why there are threads that include the caveat "positivity only, please". For the vast majority of those suffering with T, the anxiety and stress WILL reduce in time. But reading about worst case scenarios on the Internet WILL delay that mental healing.
I'll end this by saying that I truly wish nothing but the best for you both, and I apologize for having upset you. I can hold these sentiments while at the same time still believing that my initial comments are still valid - that there is nothing positive gained by telling a new sufferer of T that life will still be hell 20 years down the line.