Drilling isn't really a problem, usually it takes only a few minutes. Also pulling is a very bad idea because you will need replacement or else your teeth will start shifting in your mouth so either way you will need procedures to close those gaps and those won't be quieter than a regular filling. And I guess from the 1987 in your name that you are only 26/27.Hi nick, totally sympathize, I have just come back from the dentist an hour ago, I went because I had a painless lump on my upper gum...not good news, its an infection in the tooth root! She basically said they could try a tricky root canal which probable won't work, so I've booked in for an extraction on Friday! Its the third tooth along so I will have a gappy smile....great! That's not all either...she found 3 teeth that need fillings.....3 fillings! I refused...too much drilling, just having the tooth pulled out, sucks!
Sorry I can't give you any advice, I'm in the same situation.
So please don't let her pull out the teeth that need a filling and just get those done. For the root canal I guess you can't save that tooth anymore which is sad...