Frustrating

Cassie Thompson

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Jan 25, 2016
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10/27/15
I feel as if the ringing and thumping are never going to stop. I'm twenty four. I can't live with this forever. My husband keeps telling me it will pass, but its been four months now. I feel as if the muscle relaxer im on is not helping very much.

I feel hopeless.

I've been to two different ents and they don't seem like they wanna help me.
 
I have empathy for your frustration. Most of us have been where you are and understand the feeling of frustration and hopelessness, especially when T is relatively new. Four months are still a short time for T habituation. Have you tried any masking? If you haven't here are some suggestions:

TT's audio player: https://www.tinnitustalk.com/audioplayer/
or download free sound generator 'aire freshener': http://www.peterhirschberg.com/mysoftware.html
or make your own rain sound: http://mynoise.net/NoiseMachines/rainNoiseGenerator.php
or search youtube with words like 'tinnitus masking sounds', 'white noise', 'rain sound' etc.

Try to be patient & give it time. Read up as many success stories as possible and try to learn how others get better. A few years back I was in your same shoe and worse, as I also had severe H besides ultra high pitch T. But today I live a normal and absolutely enjoyable life. If my success story helps you, here is the link to it. So don't lose heart. You will get better. Believe it. Take care. God bless.

https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/from-darkness-to-light-how-i-recovered-from-tinnitus-hyperacusis.3148/
 
I have empathy for your frustration. Most of us have been where you are and understand the feeling of frustration and hopelessness, especially when T is relatively new. Four months are still a short time for T habituation. Have you tried any masking? If you haven't here are some suggestions:

TT's audio player: https://www.tinnitustalk.com/audioplayer/
or download free sound generator 'aire freshener': http://www.peterhirschberg.com/mysoftware.html
or make your own rain sound: http://mynoise.net/NoiseMachines/rainNoiseGenerator.php
or search youtube with words like 'tinnitus masking sounds', 'white noise', 'rain sound' etc.

Try to be patient & give it time. Read up as many success stories as possible and try to learn how others get better. A few years back I was in your same shoe and worse, as I also had severe H besides ultra high pitch T. But today I live a normal and absolutely enjoyable life. If my success story helps you, here is the link to it. So don't lose heart. You will get better. Believe it. Take care. God bless.

https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/from-darkness-to-light-how-i-recovered-from-tinnitus-hyperacusis.3148/

Billie your success story is amazing. You are such a strong person! I am very glad you are doing better! Your post just made my night.

I will try some of the sounds. Maybe they will help relax me.

I hope all kedps going well!
 
I feel as if the ringing and thumping are never going to stop. I'm twenty four. I can't live with this forever. My husband keeps telling me it will pass, but its been four months now. I feel as if the muscle relaxer im on is not helping very much.

I feel hopeless.

I've been to two different ents and they don't seem like they wanna help me.

Have you tried other medication to help you relax and cope with the tinnitus? I'm not a fan of anxiety meds but they do have there place at times. Same with antidepressants.

Also, have you gotten any counseling yet? A good counselor can teach you relaxation techniques that will help you to calm your mind down. -- And believe me, calming the mind is a big help when dealing with tinnitus. (I know you have muscle relaxers but your mind needs to be relaxed also. After all, what the ringing and thumping you are experiencing have just as much to do with the brain as they do with your ears.)

Hang in there Cassie. It often takes a long time to start feeling better and/or habituate to tinnitus. I know four months seems like a long time but unfortunately it can take longer than that. Keep in mind that many, many people achieve some sort of relief and are able to continue their lives after awhile. And who knows, there's a good chance that a year from now you could be feeling tons better. So, again, hang in there. We're here for you. (y)
 
Thank you much Zorro. I haven't gotten any anxiety meds at all. Both doctors I've seen have kind of just pushed me along. The last one I saw wanted me to give the night guard more of a chance (I clench and grind my teeth at night), so I thought I'd give that a little longer before going to something else.

I'll look into a counselor! That's a great idea I never thought of that.
 
I found the attitude of Docs, both GP and Specialist in Australia is one of "woah I don't even want to go there".
 
I feel as if the ringing and thumping are never going to stop. I'm twenty four. I can't live with this forever. My husband keeps telling me it will pass, but its been four months now. I feel as if the muscle relaxer im on is not helping very much.

I feel hopeless.

I've been to two different ents and they don't seem like they wanna help me.
It's time to take action.
This works.......
https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/back-to-silence.7172/
 
I've been to two different ents and they don't seem like they wanna help me.

It's not that they don't want it's that actually cannot do anything about it. You can't expect them to come up with the solution that research scientists don't have.

There's a lot of misdirected discontent towards ENTs regarding tinnitus and I feel most of it comes from unrealistic expectations, from both sides.
 
Thank you much Zorro. I haven't gotten any anxiety meds at all. Both doctors I've seen have kind of just pushed me along. The last one I saw wanted me to give the night guard more of a chance (I clench and grind my teeth at night), so I thought I'd give that a little longer before going to something else.

I'll look into a counselor! That's a great idea I never thought of that.

Even if you just go to someone for meditation instruction and/or biofeedback it can be helpful. After getting some instruction in breathing exercises to help me relax I found that, after a few weeks, I was sleeping better, my appetite has returned (in fact I'm eating too much now) and I'm not freaking out with anxiety anymore. The tinnitus and hearing issues are still there, but I'm handling them much better. Just FYI.

Best wishes always of course. :)
 
It's not that they don't want it's that actually cannot do anything about it. You can't expect them to come up with the solution that research scientists don't have.

There's a lot of misdirected discontent towards ENTs regarding tinnitus and I feel most of it comes from unrealistic expectations, from both sides.

Agree that doctors cannot provide solutions that don't exist. However, telling us to learn to live with it without giving us any clue as to how we can possibly learn to live with it......frustrating. Doctors seem to assume that everyone's tinnitus is the same and that everyone should have no problem habituating.
 

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