Matt
I'm largely habituated but I still use the white noise generators in my hearing aids; however, I can sit in a quiet room and read a book (without white noise) no problem -- even though I can hear my T over almost everything all the time. If my T is real loud at that time (and I notice it) I may say 'gosh, that's loud' but have no real visceral reaction beyond that. I consider the lack of a significant reaction the key indicator of habituation; also, it doesn't stop me from doing anything I want to do and it no longer consumes a significant amount of my mental and emotional resources.
I never thought I would be to this point, but I thank God I am.
How did I get to this point? I not only had to accept my situation (or plight) and objectively understand it as a noise that can't hurt me (that took about 2-3 months) then I had to finally accept the 'idea' of T and its permanence in my life; I found that to be a very difficult challenge indeed -- I HATED the idea of T (that I could do nothing about it, how it affected me, etc.). All during this time (of acceptance) I did the 'one foot in front of the other' routine wherein I slowly took my life back and started doing the things I wanted to do (T and all). How this process works precisely, I don't know; however, after about a year (plus) I simply pressed forward and slowly proved to myself that T is not the boss of me. It took time and consistency. Had someone told me this at the onset of my T I would not have believed them; I would have told them they had no idea what I was suffering, but now I'm living it.
At one point in time I had to make a choice.
Either T was going to be in charge (and have its way with me) or I was going to do as I please (T and all) -- with some adjustments. Although it was a very clear (binary) decision, I must admit that within the first couple months of the onset of T I did not think it was a decision within my reach (I was so overwhelmed and unable to think clearly). That is understandable; however, I believe every T sufferer comes to a decision point at one time in their life. Furthermore, I believe every T sufferer can make the decision to take their life back anytime they choose.
I'm not saying it is purely an act of the will; but the choice must be made before the process can start...
Mark