How Can I Make My Friend Stop Shouting?

[Apocalypse77]

I hate one of my classmates who talks with really loud noise. I was sitting next to him last Thursday and he shouted two times near my ear. I am so pissed now.

I really hope my spike will go away but I don't think it will.

I hate him, how can I make him stop shouting. I will never talk to him again.



I had 2 nights when I almost did not even notice my tinnitus then this asshole comes and f***** everything up. Sorry for my language I am so pissed right now.

 

[Kolisar]

I was sitting next to him last Thursday and he shouted two times near my ear. I am so pissed now.

This may seems like a dumb question, but does he know about your tinnitus? If he does, and continues to shout when you are better off distancing yourself from him. It is hard to be forced to give up a friend, but if he knows that loud sounds cause you get discomfort and spike your tinnitus and he continues to act that way he is not much of a friend. Friends are supposed to protect you and care for you.

I would find some articles on tinnitus that explain your particular symptoms and reactions to sound noises. Ask him to read them in the hope he will understand. He may not believe you when you tell him, but perhaps if he reads articles he will realize that this is a real problem and not just you complaining. Sometimes people will only believe something when they hear it from someone they do not know (strange, but it happens).

 

[Apocalypse77]

He does not know that I have tinnitus. But I don't walk around the school like "I have tinnitus don't shout near me." I have told my closest friends about my condition but I will not tell this "friend."

 

[Apocalypse77]

@Kolisar Is it possible that my tinnitus will be worse now because of this incident?

 

[Sean]

@Kolisar Is it possible that my tinnitus will be worse now because of this incident?

I would tell him in private that you have medical condition and request him not to shot near you . I know we don't want to tell every one but in your situation you should .
Are you wearing ear plugs at school ?

 

[Sean]

@Kolisar Is it possible that my tinnitus will be worse now because of this incident?

One idiot had spoken about 2-3 inches from my ears 3 years back and I had spike for few days .
I hated his guts for few days !

 

[orbiter12]

if he doesn't know you have tinnitus then you can't blame him. Most people shout at times becsuse most people don't have tinnitus.

Some noises like this are unavoidable.

Try wearing noise reducing plugs to class?

As I can see from your posts you have a lot of incidents like this, they'd all be avoided if you wore plugs.

I still struggle greatly with my tinnitus and am probably in no way veteraned enough to give you advice but one thing I do know is that wearing plugs in potentially dangerous environments has saved me many of spikes.

Most people say don't over protect,but if you're going to be in an environment where the chances of being exposed to loud noises is high (it's happened a lot to you) then just wear plugs?

You're in school so probably don't want to look out of place wearing earplugs, but having a spike is 10x worse than the opinion of irrelevant people. Anyway you can get some discrete plugs.

Just my 2 cents

 

[Starthrower]

Ugg LOUD talkers.....

This is one of those situations that is hard to control. I had this friend who always LOUD talked and it drove me nuts and caused a lot of tinnitus/hyperacusis issues. I stopped going out to lunch with her because it just wasn't worth it to me and I really didn't like her all that much.

For me however, I would tightly roll up a cotton ball (so the fibers do not get lose in your ear canal) which helped absorb that LOUD talk noise better than ear plugs which was strange to eat or talk while wearing them. I hated when I could hear myself chewing and my voice would bother me because I would talk softer and everyone would say huh?

 

[Apocalypse77]

@Starthrower Are these cotton balls that you used easy to spot in ears? I don't want to wear earplugs in school because it looks stupid and also your own voice sounds too loud.

I will stop going to lunch with this friend and if we ever eat at the same time I will make sure I am as far away from him as possible. This may sound a little cruel but I did not choose this.

 

[Kolisar]

I will stop going to lunch with this friend and if we ever eat at the same time I will make sure I am as far away from him as possible. This may sound a little cruel but I did not choose this.

I am willing to guess that there is a reason you do not want to tell this particular person about your tinnitus, but @orbiter12 is correct, if you have not told this person you really cannot blame them for anything more than talking loudly (as many people do). I would like to think that most people would not intentionally cause harm to someone.

 

[canuhearmenow]

The possibility exists your friend has a hearing problem himself and isn't aware of how loudly he's actually talking.

 

[PaulBe]

But I don't walk around the school like "I have tinnitus don't shout near me."

God, Imagine if you did. Schoolkids are merciless destructathons. Safer for you to stay quiet about it.

 

[jjflyman]

Is it possible that my tinnitus will be worse now because of this incident?

I know how you feel. Most people with T keep it private, for a lot a reasons. There are "High Fidelity" earplugs that are clear, and would be much less noticeable than foams.
As far as you spike in the T volume, it should calm down in a few weeks.
Was your T improving from your original trauma?

 

[Apocalypse77]

@jjflyman I ordered Alpine earplugs. They shouldn't be that noticeable in ears, but even if someone saw them I wouldn't care, I have H and need to protect my ears. If someone comes up to me laughing and asks "Why are you wearing earplugs? hhahahaa." I would say "I have Hyperacusis (maybe explain this a little to them), would you laugh to someone who doesn't eat normal bread, because they have Celiac disease, you wouldn't right, so you shouldn't laugh at me neither."

 

[TheDanishGirl]

I hate one of my classmates who talks with really loud noise. I was sitting next to him last Thursday and he shouted two times near my ear. I am so pissed now.

I really hope my spike will go away but I don't think it will.

I hate him, how can I make him stop shouting. I will never talk to him again.



I had 2 nights when I almost did not even notice my tinnitus then this asshole comes and f***** everything up. Sorry for my language I am so pissed right now.

I know how you feel....That's my whole family. My family are loud and all talk at the same time....I think a family gathering would be hell for me right now.

 

[Markku]

@jjflyman I ordered Alpine earplugs. They shouldn't be that noticeable in ears, but even if someone saw them I wouldn't care, I have H and need to protect my ears. If someone comes up to me laughing and asks "Why are you wearing earplugs? hhahahaa." I would say "I have Hyperacusis (maybe explain this a little to them), would you laugh to someone who doesn't eat normal bread, because they have Celiac disease, you wouldn't right, so you shouldn't laugh at me neither."

Way to go. Never ever feel ashamed by protecting your hearing. If anyone makes fun of that, it's their loss at the end...

 

[jjflyman]

@jjflyman I ordered Alpine earplugs. They shouldn't be that noticeable in ears, but even if someone saw them I wouldn't care, I have H and need to protect my ears. If someone comes up to me laughing and asks "Why are you wearing earplugs? hhahahaa." I would say "I have Hyperacusis (maybe explain this a little to them), would you laugh to someone who doesn't eat normal bread, because they have Celiac disease, you wouldn't right, so you shouldn't laugh at me neither."

I still wear my Rave High Fidelity ear plugs at restaurants. I figure most people will just think they are hearing aids or something. Nobody has ever asked. I don't even think they notice, and if they do, so what? Everybody has issues and deals with something.

 

[UpDownAround]

Stigma is stupid, but like most stupid things there is a lot of it in the business world. I tell very few people in the office and I have put up with some loud talkers to keep from standing out as someone with a disorder. The tough one is H with startle response; if someone notices that they are likely to think (correctly in my case) I am "on the spectrum".

 

[IvanRus]

I hate one of my classmates who talks with really loud noise. I was sitting next to him last Thursday and he shouted two times near my ear. I am so pissed now.

I really hope my spike will go away but I don't think it will.

I hate him, how can I make him stop shouting. I will never talk to him again.



I had 2 nights when I almost did not even notice my tinnitus then this asshole comes and f***** everything up. Sorry for my language I am so pissed right now.

Hello, how's your splash? Have you come to your previous level of noise? Through how much it happened?