How Does One Cope w/out Support from Their Spouse or Loved Ones? Struggling Badly

[Lex]

@stophiss I don't want to sound weird but I truly feel You were someone that I was meant to connect with on here, your words have done more for me in these past few days then any dr or any med has been able to since day one, everything you have said has given me peace and the hope I have so deeply needed

I don't know how old @stophiss is, but he comes across like a kind grandpa with soothing words of wisdom. Am I far off from the truth?

 

[KrissyXris]

The earliest days of the first time of getting T is definitely the toughest. I've lived with this for 12 years and remember back when I first got it - all the panic and depression was awful. I thought there was no way I could live years with this sound in my head that would never go away. But with time, I habituated, took precautions with my ears, and I got on with my life. You will too. Yes, it takes time. Yes, it can be an adjustment. But life marches on and you too will be able to move on.

@racerfish I am determined to march on ...I have much more life to enjoy and live ! with the grace of God I plan to do just that it's a struggle but today was much better then yesterday and I pray tomorrow is even better ...I havent had a melt down at all today so I'm thankful for that ...thank u for the support ...people like u give me hope

 

[KrissyXris]

I don't know how old @stophiss is, but he comes across like a kind grandpa with soothing words of wisdom. Am I far off from the truth?

@Lex I so agree ....but I honestly didnt even wonder his age ...but instead I picture him being a breath of fresh air with a very kind soul

 

[stophiss]

@stophiss I don't want to sound weird but I truly feel You were someone that I was meant to connect with on here, your words have done more for me in these past few days then any dr or any med has been able to since day one, everything you have said has given me peace and the hope I have so deeply needed ...there is such wisdom behind your words and everything u have said I'm able to understand ...not once did I have to stop reading and say " what did he mean by that ? " lol I can relate to you and i'm not even sure why ...I don't personally know you but u make me feel like I've known u forever Thank u again for your awesome support !

No Kristy, you are being weird...joking. But I like weird and have little appetite for trite, cliché or mundane.
I like seeking the truth and honesty and I am here to help if I can...not only myself but others on a similar journey. Why else are we here aka alive? I believe for our souls to learn.
Thanks for your kind words. I am glad I struck a chord with you. I guess that is one of the reasons I reach out and in fact have honed my communication skills. I like to relate this journey called life we are all on together. I told you men love bubbly women and you are obviously a pretty woman by your picture and I am probably a male equivalent to you and I feel your pain basically. I was that guy that had a charmed life as well and honestly still do. My tinnitus with each week is fading more into the background and yours will too. People don't or never will understand how others feel. But the community here understands. There is an upside to this Kristy. It gives you wisdom for humanity. Now each of us understand why we can't judge others. Because we aren't inside their skin. Perhaps as a bubbly person you could never understand the anger some have. Me either really. Its because we have never been able to feel other's personal pain. I good thing to a point. Suffering however promotes humility and empathy, two of the greatest of human qualities.

As your acceptance grows in ensuing months...even acceptance of your husband and others who can't possibly understand your travails, you will heal. That is the journey we all seek. Protect your ears as the gift they are. Foremost protect your spirit as possibly as with many here anxiety played a role in contracting tinnitus in the first place. So a time to take inventory of your life and perhaps make some changes to lower stress levels. My path I suppose has always been about the selfish pursuit of fun. I don't see the point of life otherwise unless having a good time. Others are here to work and toil. Not me.
It is even possible...may seem like a long way off, your life will be even better than it was moving forward.
Good luck to you Kristy and all of us here.

 

[stophiss]

I don't know how old @stophiss is, but he comes across like a kind grandpa with soothing words of wisdom. Am I far off from the truth?

I am ageless Alex...lol. It all started when I was little and was so cute that chicks dig me.

 

[KrissyXris]

I am ageless Alex...lol. It all started when I was little and was so cute that chicks dig me.

Ok I totally get it now ...looking at your picture u posted when you were a lil boy ...it all makes sense now ..I totally understand why I connect with u so well your as cute as a damn button lol

 

[I who love music]

My husband has no clue the nightmare I'm struggling with ...he is use to a bubbly wife that is smiling and laughing and enjoying life ...he hardly even talks to me now and tries his best to stay away ...he tells me there is no way it can be so bad and that I need to just get on with my life ...

I've only had the ringing for 11 days now and I say "only" because I know some have been struggling with this much much longer ..but mine came on out of the blue in both ears non stop and i'm struggling to hold myself together and without the support from my husband I'm not sure how i'm going to do this ..... All my loved ones r in another state and they r all so busy with their own lives I dont dare try to put this on them to help me deal with .....

I always thought I was a strong women , mentally and physically until this happened to me ...things I cared about and was looking forward to 11 days ago don't even matter to me now ...I just want peace again ....

https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/back-to-silence.7172/

 

[Lex]

@stophiss That's one little charmer there. You started out really young.

 

[Morg]

I think what you're going through is common--I was suicidal the first week, quit caring about things for weeks, didn't see a future, etc. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, that was the most important thing that helped me the first month or two. The other things that helped were engaging in anything that requires enough concentration that it helps get your mind off it a bit. Hobbies, ping pong, playing guitar, engaging in conversation with friends, exercise. Be good to yourself. I also made sure to have background noise all the time around me. A super quiet environment is a killer.

Tell your husband it's a combination of nails on a blackboard, and somebody poking you randomly on the shoulder trying to grab your attention 24/7, every second, non-stop. Unless people experience it themselves, or have experienced some other bad chronic pain, they just "don't get it."

I think, especially initially, your brain is treating the sound like "something's wrong internally, danger!" It's like you really just have no choice emotionally when you're hit with it, and it will take time.

Hang in there!

 

[stophiss]

@stophiss That's one little charmer there. You started out really young.

Alex,
Yes, it starts when you're young. There is a parallel universe in life as it turns out. I always got away with much more than I should have and always pushed the boundary as well. A risky combination as it turns out as I am a bit of a bad boy. I was probably a bit pretty for a boy and as a result, fat ugly guys would test me and want to fight. But they found out, I didn't mind fighting and so they left me alone.

Speaking of which...when I was little we had a pool in the back yard. I grew up swimming competitively because I swam so much and was competitive by nature.. Of course when summer would come around, we had the usual contingent of fair weather friends show up and want to go swimming. Later in life some of my childhood friends confided in me that they didn't come over to see me, but rather all had a serious crush on my Mom in her bathing swim.. My mother was quite beautiful as it turns out and I guess why I have always had such appreciation for pretty woean. For example if I had a scary female teacher in class, my grades would always fall, seriously....lol.