I Hate the Weekends :)
- Thread starter fishbone
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Member- Jul 9, 2017
- 337
- Tinnitus Since
- 04/2017
- Cause of Tinnitus
- ? neck injury/unknown
Fishbone gives a lot of great advice. You are strong as well, Red, give yourself more time. Fishbone has had T and pain for a long time; he is a good inspiration.
I understand chronic pain is extremely difficult to live with, and to have T on top of it.....I could not imagine how awful it is for you. Does medication help with the pain at all? What about warm baths, massages, stretching? I am not sure where your pain is, but I hope you can find some relief.
I hate weekends because I realize how lonely and pathetic i am, how pathetic my life is. I cant go out anywhere without fearing of getting a spike. Life is sh*t now and it will be forever. What kind of life is this when you are confined to being in your home, when you cant go out to a café with your friends, when you cant go hiking.
Tinnitus is a PRISON, it is a PRISON and we are all trapped, some pay their dues quicker others are confined for life. You cant be in silence because you hear the damn thing, but you cant be in moderate to loud sounds because you can exacerbate it.
Tinnitus is a PRISON, it is a PRISON and we are all trapped, some pay their dues quicker others are confined for life. You cant be in silence because you hear the damn thing, but you cant be in moderate to loud sounds because you can exacerbate it.
I love the weekends, gives my ears a chance to recover a tiny bit from my loud ass job, play some games, go fishing, camping, be lazy, fix stuff, drink to much.The weekends are so boring for me, tinnitus doesn't help either. I sit here watching tv (cannot even fully hear, what is said on it) and I'm bored out of my mind. I feel like going to somewhere that people, hangout at. The only issue is that for the last 2 days the tinnitus has been way louder (spikes are intense) and I have no need to hear loud noises, at all.
Does the weekends, get you guys down at all? My weekdays are filled with martial arts, lifting weights and I see some people. On weekends it's so boring and a bit lonely. What do you guys do, on your weekends... to make the time pass by?
Take care
PS- I do go out, if there is something to do, but there is nothing to do right now....
Yeah that's bad .. mines louder than the car going up the motorway but I put up with it too, spikes are awful... going to ENT next month hopefully get trt started ASAP
This gives me hope. I am new to T. There are days when I feel there is no light at the end of tunnel. Especially on weekends.
My weekdays go by very fast. Weekends I have to make plans in order to avoid addressing T. Distractions are what keep me dealing with T better. Since 2months everyday after work I workout or cook. On days when I don't feel like doing anything but do not want to sit home and listen to T. I go to a mall and walk around (can't walk outside as it is winter)
Before T I used to love my weekends wait for them to binge watch netflix series or sleep more. Now I can't sleep more because the moment I am a little awake I hear T. So, I have to get out of the bed immediately. I am around 28years I keep thinking probably God did not want me to be a lazy ass even on weekends so I can't sleep more than 6-7hrs even on weekends I have to get going somewhere or do something. Took this T as a motivation and studied last 3weekends for interview and got a better job. Now that is done. I have to find something for the next few weekends
I used to paint a lot in a quiet room before T over the weekends. Now silence.....is my enemy.
I am trying to listen to T for few minutes every day without getting panicked. Max I could do is 5-7mins.
I know it looks like am complaining but I miss my precious weekends. I miss the way I used to relax as my work is pretty hectic. Now everyday I have to make sure to have plans to be distracted. Probably I will achieve more in life with T but its a bit tiring to always have plans.
You can't always have people to hangout with. Everyone is busy everyone has their own plans. 1st month of T I had a lot of friends around and in-laws kept me busy. After a while you can't keep repeating the same story or can't expect to catch up or make plans with everyone every weekend. Before I used to enjoy my solitude now I hate being alone because I address T when I am alone. When I am around people I just don't talk about it and I am really happy and forget about it.
I started hosting a lot of game nights this 2nd month with friends... but after a while everyone has their own plans. I live away from my family all my relatives and parents are in India. I just have friends in US and they are new friends. I can't expect them to be my shoulders when I am going through T.
Its a bit of a work to deal with T in a positive manner. I am crying a bit less than 1st 4-5weeks. I realized I have to help myself. No one can help you from T. I have seen many people not care about T after habituation it becomes a background noise. Probably I have to have weekends distracted and busy until the habituation happens.
As of now I go out to movies or board game nights or go to a coffee shop and study.
Praying makes me a little less worried about T and how I am going to deal with it. So, I end up going to temples a lot than before.
T has made me reevaluate a lot of things in my life as I can't be lazy and it makes me hear T more so I keep focusing on my To-Do list always. but...there is always a but I do miss my lazy weekends
and silence and painting in quiet room alone.
- May 5, 2016
- 2,594
- Tinnitus Since
- 1988
- Cause of Tinnitus
- loud noise and very bad sickness
This gives me hope. I am new to T. There are days when I feel there is no light at the end of tunnel. Especially on weekends.
My weekdays go by very fast. Weekends I have to make plans in order to avoid addressing T. Distractions are what keep me dealing with T better. Since 2months everyday after work I workout or cook. On days when I don't feel like doing anything but do not want to sit home and listen to T. I go to a mall and walk around (can't walk outside as it is winter)
Before T I used to love my weekends wait for them to binge watch netflix series or sleep more. Now I can't sleep more because the moment I am a little awake I hear T. So, I have to get out of the bed immediately. I am around 28years I keep thinking probably God did not want me to be a lazy ass even on weekends so I can't sleep more than 6-7hrs even on weekends I have to get going somewhere or do something. Took this T as a motivation and studied last 3weekends for interview and got a better job. Now that is done. I have to find something for the next few weekends
I used to paint a lot in a quiet room before T over the weekends. Now silence.....is my enemy.
I am trying to listen to T for few minutes every day without getting panicked. Max I could do is 5-7mins.
I know it looks like am complaining but I miss my precious weekends. I miss the way I used to relax as my work is pretty hectic. Now everyday I have to make sure to have plans to be distracted. Probably I will achieve more in life with T but its a bit tiring to always have plans.
You can't always have people to hangout with. Everyone is busy everyone has their own plans. 1st month of T I had a lot of friends around and in-laws kept me busy. After a while you can't keep repeating the same story or can't expect to catch up or make plans with everyone every weekend. Before I used to enjoy my solitude now I hate being alone because I address T when I am alone. When I am around people I just don't talk about it and I am really happy and forget about it.
I started hosting a lot of game nights this 2nd month with friends... but after a while everyone has their own plans. I live away from my family all my relatives and parents are in India. I just have friends in US and they are new friends. I can't expect them to be my shoulders when I am going through T.
Its a bit of a work to deal with T in a positive manner. I am crying a bit less than 1st 4-5weeks. I realized I have to help myself. No one can help you from T. I have seen many people not care about T after habituation it becomes a background noise. Probably I have to have weekends distracted and busy until the habituation happens.
As of now I go out to movies or board game nights or go to a coffee shop and study.
Praying makes me a little less worried about T and how I am going to deal with it. So, I end up going to temples a lot than before.
T has made me reevaluate a lot of things in my life as I can't be lazy and it makes me hear T more so I keep focusing on my To-Do list always. but...there is always a but I do miss my lazy weekends
You are doing fantastic! Keep up the good work. I have very loud tinnitus but I do not let that limit me and take control of my life. I will go and sing karaoke at my friend's house once in a while, I live a normal life. I don't go to pubs or bars or very loud events anymore.....UNLESS i carry my ear plugs. I can stand on the side of the freeway and my tinnitus is louder.
There is no way and it is impossible for me to not hear my tinnitus. I am very disciplined and let my distractions handle my tinnitus issue. You have to remain mentally strong. Use caution, but still live a life you can enjoy. Tinnitus is horrible, but we can still live a good life.
It all depends on the person and their frame of though/mindset.
Keep up the good job, really be proud of yourself
Lying here sweating like a pig on sunday night/monday morning with ears screamin can't get to sleep, 12.30am and still 31°C (88 °F) here, been 13 days in a row of temps between 34 - 44°C , so yeah i hate the weekends and the bloody hot weather.
Personally I enjoy football and get a lot of fulfilment out of coaching the younger generations. Gives me something to get out of bed for on a Sunday. Do you coach younger children martial arts? If not I'd thoroughly recommend getting involved. Impossible to be sad around kids who are learning and having fun.
- May 5, 2016
- 2,594
- Tinnitus Since
- 1988
- Cause of Tinnitus
- loud noise and very bad sickness
You make a good point. I know there are yoga sessions and tai chi sessions around where I live. I might teach some martial arts around my community. Kids are amazing and It would be awesome to coach them.
Having loud constant intrusive Tinnitus, as @fishbone does, he is the guy I look to as a mentor.
I struggle to know quite how he stays 'on top' but I am so pleased he is there for me to observe as an example.
I do write to quite a number of people on social media, and know that 'being head busy' and concentrating on correspondence, makes me far less aware of the noise.
I am retired from daytime work, but still perform as a jazz musician, two or three evenings a week.
(Very cautiously and with ear plugs.)
Fishbone - I was intrigued with your story of the dinner dates, with four women friends, and particularly the one you were working your magic on.
How is it going.....?
I struggle to know quite how he stays 'on top' but I am so pleased he is there for me to observe as an example.
I do write to quite a number of people on social media, and know that 'being head busy' and concentrating on correspondence, makes me far less aware of the noise.
I am retired from daytime work, but still perform as a jazz musician, two or three evenings a week.
(Very cautiously and with ear plugs.)
Fishbone - I was intrigued with your story of the dinner dates, with four women friends, and particularly the one you were working your magic on.
How is it going.....?
The weekends are so boring for me, tinnitus doesn't help either. I sit here watching tv (cannot even fully hear, what is said on it) and I'm bored out of my mind. I feel like going to somewhere that people, hangout at. The only issue is that for the last 2 days the tinnitus has been way louder (spikes are intense) and I have no need to hear loud noises, at all.
Does the weekends, get you guys down at all? My weekdays are filled with martial arts, lifting weights and I see some people. On weekends it's so boring and a bit lonely. What do you guys do, on your weekends... to make the time pass by?
Take care
PS- I do go out, if there is something to do, but there is nothing to do right now....
As long as I focused on my sci fi writing, I could pass time quite easily. But entering an extrovert phase, I'm having similar problems.
During the weeks, I work some, go to the gym, and have a minimal amount of social life. My weekends are stone deserts.
I'd like to activate myself more, but the problems I have with loud noises gets in the way, so I end up sitting alone in front of my computer instead. T has messed up my social life for real. Things have become more meaningless, basically.
- May 5, 2016
- 2,594
- Tinnitus Since
- 1988
- Cause of Tinnitus
- loud noise and very bad sickness
This gal is beyond confusing. She sends me a valentines text message that she loves me, gives me a small valentines gift and then plays with the emotions. I have given her a royal thumbs down, on the vote and have moved on. Tinnitus can be quite an emotional rollercoaster and I am not in the mood for childish acts....
I am a good guy, and I will not tolerate anyone playing with my mind and emotions.....
I'm not done yet, still have plenty of motivation to find that special gal....
- May 5, 2016
- 2,594
- Tinnitus Since
- 1988
- Cause of Tinnitus
- loud noise and very bad sickness
I totally understand your post. I have intrusive/severe tinnitus and it can be quite hard at times to be social and to not stay in the house. Depression can set in for me, if i don't do something though. I have no family support, so I force myself to go out and do something....
I guess it boils down to self discipline in the end.
After all, there's always something one can do even if it feels so-so exciting.
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