I Really Feel Stuck!

[Christophe_85]

@Christophe_85 Are you getting CBT...it is key in dealing with anxiety.

I have t and in the past suffered from anxiety, which went away after LOTS of CBT. Our journeys are a bit different, you had some anxiety and t made it worse, I had lots of anxiety yeas ago and dealt with it, t has not made it worse.

In theory after getting T I should be an anxious wreck due to my history, but I am not because I use CBT. I did breakdown when I got T but then got up again using my CBT skills. Left work too like you, then returned (best thing).

I am not fine, I have a bit of anxiety and am tired, frustrated and probably a bit depressed but the PANIC and horrible dark thoughts are not there because of therapy and I function.

Did I take meds when I had anxiety 6 years ago? Yes I've been on Citalopram for 6 years. My T could be the result of that but why 5 years later, seems improbable.

Psychiatrist believe in drugs, psychologist less, in my experience.

What I am saying is that nobody really knows definitively if certain drugs can make t worse, but you are not stuck between drugs or no drugs because there is therapy and is that is what I think alleviates anxiety in any case.

NB Please note if you are taking drugs and decide to come off them do it under supervision.

We're all here for you, we're in this together x

Dear Candy,

Thank you very much for your message...

I am sorry but what is CBT ? Is that a therapy ?

I will stop the neuro and I have already talked with one Psychiatrist about this decision...

Are you doing anything to help you relax and cope with your T ?

 

[Foncky]

Sorry for you about this spike, I hope it will calm down with time...

I also need to go to the dentist, not for a big thing but still I am very affraid of going !

I really don't want my T and H to increase !

I was wondering, when your T increases, do you go to the Doctor or ENT every time to check or not ?

Don't wait too much to go, or the work will be bigger. I can give you useful tips in PM about French dentists.

I don't go to doctors in these cases no. I know their answer : "ok, it's fine, your hearing is still the same", or "come on, it's just a drill !", or "well, take some Prednisone if you want". They don't even know what's going on with the recent discoveries about hidden hearing loss and nerves damage.

There's not much to do when the spike is here : not panicking, taking some magnesium and Nac, sleeping a lot, eating well, exercice, focus on something else...

 

[Foncky]

It sucks man, there simply is no way to protect yourself at the dentist unless you ask them to drill on and off but even then it's a risk.

I was do quite well adjusting to this new life of severe H until that happened, I tried plugs, muffs and even swallowed doses of NAC, Magnesium and Vit B12 before going to the dentist all of it was in vein sadly, I still worsened regardless.

Yeah I asked for pauses.
Was it the drilling that hurt you ? What worsened, T or H ?

 

[Christophe_85]

Don't wait too much to go, or the work will be bigger. I can give you useful tips in PM about French dentists.

I don't go to doctors in these cases no. I know their answer : "ok, it's fine, your hearing is still the same", or "come on, it's just a drill !", or "well, take some Prednisone if you want". They don't even know what's going on with the recent discoveries about hidden hearing loss and nerves damage.

There's not much to do when the spike is here : not panicking, taking some magnesium and Nac, sleeping a lot, eating well, exercice, focus on something else...

I know, actually I would like to go but I am in a very bad shape mentally right now, and I really don't want my T to increase again !

I understand the part with the Doctors and how they can be useless and really not comprehensive... But fortunatly they are not all like that...

 

[Lex]

I've spent most of my life worrying. Even as a kid, I was worrying about this and that. When something goes wrong in my life, I expect the worst. When something goes right, I expect something bad to happen soon to ruin my joy. I think I've convinced myself that I don't have the right to be happy.

Then I got T and H. And as expected, I agonized over them -- actually, I still do. But I also realize that for a person like me, if it's not T and H, it's just going to be something else to worry me.

Yes I have ear problems, but my mental state is fragile as well. I think yours is, too. It's important that you don't give up on addressing your mental health problems so that you can learn how to copw with H and T.

It's hard not to worry about the future, but with T and H, it's better to live one day at a time and enjoy what you still can.

 

[Candy]

Hi @Christophe_85

To calm down you start with breathing excercises, muscle relaxation...
Watch TV, listen to relaxing sounds...

 

[Christophe_85]

At this point I just really would like to stay asleep for ever !

Before having those horrible things, I had plenty of suffering, I cannot do any sport, even tai-chi or walking is too much for me ! My body is completely broken ! And now (since november 2015) I have to deal with that in addition ???

I couldn't imagine that life can be that horrible and the worst point is that I am not going to die ! It is even not considered as an illness !

 

[Florida John]

At this point I just really would like to stay asleep for ever !

Before having those horrible things, I had plenty of suffering, I cannot do any sport, even tai-chi or walking is too much for me ! My body is completely broken ! And now (since november 2015) I have to deal with that in addition ???

I couldn't imagine that life can be that horrible and the worst point is that I am not going to die ! It is even not considered as an illness !

Hi Christophe,
Hey Man I can relate to where you are right now, and its not a good feeling, I get the same thoughts of ending it, I have severe Tinnitus and other health Issues, but lets fight this together, we all will die one day anyways, right now its about suffering and we might say why suffer with this , I know I have, but maybe just maybe we fight and find a way through this, I have read your posts and feel your pain as I am living it, I have everything else in my life that I need, yet so much pain! I think your mindset has alot to do with recovery, not a cure because there is none, a miracle is another story where there is hope, but for now your thinking and mindset is very key, If I were you I would start by changing the suicidal logo with the gun, in fact I think this website should remove it from the chosen logos as it is not funny when alot of us have these feelings, it is a big struggle for us to keep living, but for now take the attitude your gonna fight this, I will give you my take on what else you should do, 1. SLEEP concentrate on getting lots of sleep I know it can be hard but it is needed for recovery I am using a few safe methods for sleep like walking or anytime of exercise, a few safe supplements that help are Meletonin, L-Theanine, there are some others but you have to be careful on some others, if your on a antidepressant which it (antidepressant)alone might help with your sleep. #2 protect your self from stressful situations and loud people or anything that will make your anxiety worse #3 Try to do relaxing things like breathing techniques, meditation which will help calm you, you have to learn how to calm down on the inside of your mind, our minds run wild on us and that makes things worse, I know its not easy, I am still trying to apply all this myself, remember its a long road out of this, we just have to be going the right way on this road, and when you lose ground, turn around and get going the right way again, If your on a antidepressant at this point and you feel its working I would stay with it, sometimes they help, no way I could know whats best in that situation, just get plenty of rest, try to stay calm, get exercise when you can, and remember its gonna take some time, well ears ringing and its my sleep time, wish you the best in this crazy journey we are in. talk again later! PEACE

 

[Bobby]

@Christophe_85 Are you getting CBT...it is key in dealing with anxiety.

I have t and in the past suffered from anxiety, which went away after LOTS of CBT. Our journeys are a bit different, you had some anxiety and t made it worse, I had lots of anxiety yeas ago and dealt with it, t has not made it worse.

In theory after getting T I should be an anxious wreck due to my history, but I am not because I use CBT. I did breakdown when I got T but then got up again using my CBT skills. Left work too like you, then returned (best thing).

I am not fine, I have a bit of anxiety and am tired, frustrated and probably a bit depressed but the PANIC and horrible dark thoughts are not there because of therapy and I function.

Did I take meds when I had anxiety 6 years ago? Yes I've been on Citalopram for 6 years. My T could be the result of that but why 5 years later, seems improbable.

Psychiatrist believe in drugs, psychologist less, in my experience.

What I am saying is that nobody really knows definitively if certain drugs can make t worse, but you are not stuck between drugs or no drugs because there is therapy and is that is what I think alleviates anxiety in any case.

NB Please note if you are taking drugs and decide to come off them do it under supervision.

We're all here for you, we're in this together x

Had tinnitus for over 4 years, and to this day, I still don't even know what CBT is, despite asking many professionals, and seeing professionals to supposedly do CBT, only to be told a bunch of vague BS that I can't understand. I've even asked audiologists and they can't even define it for me.

Can you please go into some detail about what you actually did in CBT, and how it alleviated your anxiety due to tinnitus? I still cannot seem to shake my anxiety reaction to my tinnitus.

Thanks

 

[Ed209]

Had tinnitus for over 4 years, and to this day, I still don't even know what CBT is, despite asking many professionals, and seeing professionals to supposedly do CBT, only to be told a bunch of vague BS that I can't understand. I've even asked audiologists and they can't even define it for me.

Can you please go into some detail about what you actually did in CBT, and how it alleviated your anxiety due to tinnitus? I still cannot seem to shake my anxiety reaction to my tinnitus.

Thanks

Shaking anxiety can be extremely hard Bobby. It's not as simple as wishing it away, so what CBT tries to do is redirect your bad thoughts. Generally, you try to introduce more positive thoughts that promote new behaviours, and get rid of the old ones that promote negative behaviours/energy. Holding onto extreme thoughts will make physical changes to your body over time, so this isn't just all in your head. The stress that these bad thoughts can put on your body increases your Cortisol and Andrenaline, as well as other hormones which are not good for you over extended periods. These hormones are supposed to be short term 'fight or flight' activators, and not long term problem solvers. The slippery slope to dispare can be hard to escape from, and in extreme cases anti-anxiety/depression drugs are probably the best solution we've got.

 

[Florida John]

Shaking anxiety can be extremely hard Bobby. It's not as simple as wishing it away, so what CBT tries to do is redirect your bad thoughts. Generally, you try to introduce more positive thoughts that promote new behaviours, and get rid of the old ones that promote negative behaviours/energy. Holding onto extreme thoughts will make physical changes to your body over time, so this isn't just all in your head. The stress that these bad thoughts can put on your body increases your Cortisol and Andrenaline, as well as other hormones which are not good for you over extended periods. These hormones are supposed to be short term 'fight or flight' activators, and not long term problem solvers. The slippery slope to dispare can be hard to escape from, and in extreme cases anti-anxiety/depression drugs are probably the best solution we've got.

I know this is a tough question, but what medicine? Any that has worked good for you?

 

[Ed209]

I know this is a tough question, but what medicine? Any that has worked good for you?

I've never taken any drugs John.