I'm Going to End It

[dan]

Funny you mention this because I got T and yesterday my girlfriend said although she hates to see me suffering...she feels we came more closer togetter and our relationship is stronger than ever. For the most part I will agree with you.. but it just happens to be that in my case it just isn't so. But it is a fear that is in the back of my mind though so that why I agree with you most of it

My friend, I really hope this is true for you, but experience tells me never to take what women say at face value. It all depends on how bad is your condition and how it affects your relationship vs how well you are off financially and stable.

 

[dan]

Well, nobody has disowned me for having tinnitus...Everyone has been supportive. She must've been an horrible person simple as that.

Perhaps nobodoy disowned you because nobody "ownded" you in the first place?
You are actively looking for a girlfriend right now right?

 

[Danny Boy]

Perhaps nobodoy disowned you because nobody "ownded" you in the first place?
You are actively looking for a girlfriend right now right?

Nah, not really...They don't want me lol.

 

[dan]

Nah, not really...They don't want me lol.

And why do you think they "dont want you" exactly ? lol
I think you are about to prove my point haha

 

[Chelles]

I was not talking about the lust and romatic feelings we experience when we first "fall in love".
I am talking about what happens long term - i.e. what holds the relationship together....cerainly it is not "love", but that co-dependence on one another. The woman has biological obligation to bear child and the man has obligation to provide food and shelter. Yes I know that women are now equal to men in the workforce but nature is still nature and the woman will have to take years off to care for the baby, so she will be looking for that man to be able to provide her with all her needs as comfortably as possible, while she is off work. This repeats itself as she bears more babies.
So if tinnitus has put a man out of comission, it is most unlikely he will find a woman for marriage.
This is why I am guessing the OP's girlfriend just up and left him, even giving up a nice vacation. She just realized and made an executive long term decision to end it.

You make it sound so romantic how can you possibly be single?

 

[Danny Boy]

And why do you think they "dont want you" exactly ? lol
I think you are about to prove my point haha

I don't know? Must be something? I could be my looks, or something else lol

 

[dan]

I don't know? Must be something? I could be my looks, or something else lol

Its not your looks, I can assure you.
Do you have a job?
Are you in school for a lucrative career?
What are your goals at the moment?

 

[Danny Boy]

Its not your looks, I can assure you.
Do you have a job?
Are you in school for a lucrative career?
What are your goals at the moment?

I'm 24, I finished school and college ages ago. My goals, don't have any. I'll start looking for a job when I'm not depressed anymore. But even then women won't be wooed lol

 

[dan]

You make it sound so romantic how can you possibly be single?

See this is a perfect example of women mentality and not taking the at face value....lol. What you see is NOT what you get haha.
What exactly does this question mean? Is it baiting me to divulge my personal relationship status?
Is it just being sarcastic?

 

[Chelles]

See this is a perfect example of women mentality and not taking the at face value....lol. What you see is NOT what you get haha.
What exactly does this question mean? Is it baiting me to divulge my personal relationship status?
Is it just being sarcastic?

Don't over think it Dan I was just messing with ya

 

[dan]

I'm 24, I finished school and college ages ago. My goals, don't have any. I'll start looking for a job when I'm not in a depressed anymore. But even then women won't be wooed lol

I beg to differ! Women will be lining up once you land a good job.
Why are you surprised right now? You just said yourself you have no goals and no job and not even looking! So if this is what you gonna answer on a first date to where you are in life right now, you can kiss getting laid goodbye lol.

 

[dan]

Don't over think it Dan I was just messing with ya

Yes I realize that, but thats what women do! they mess with ya ....

 

[Danny Boy]

I beg to differ! Women will be lining up once you land a good job.
Why are you surprised right now? You just said yourself you have no goals and no job and not even looking! So if this is what you gonna answer on a first date to where you are in life right now, you can kiss getting laid goodbye lol.

I wish! Used to have a job but they still didn't care lol!

 

[dan]

I wish! Used to have a job but they still didn't care lol!

What kind of job?
Also you must know how to present yourself (i.e. make you interesting and attractive....like a shiny new fishing lure)
Its all very complex. There are many factors and variables. There should be a computer program written for this. But my point I was trying to make is as a whole, those things I said matter most in a long term prospective- not talking about just getting laid here. How to get laid is another topic....

 

[attheedgeofscience]

See this is a perfect example of women mentality and not taking the at face value

Agree. But I would take it one step further and generalize it to both sexes and the majority of people in this world who have no clue about the true mechanisms that underpin many aspects of our lives. My own directness often leaves people annoyed. I tend to think of the following quote when that happens...

The reality of the human being mindset is that it is more convenient to view the world through rose-tinted glasses.

Apparently.

attheegeofscience
20/MAY/2015.

 

[dan]

Agree. But I would take it one step further and generalize it to both sexes and the majority of people in this world who have no clue about the true mechanism that underpin many aspects of our lives. My own directness often leaves people annoyed. I tend to think of the following quote when that happens...

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The reality of the human being mindset is that it is more convenient to view the world through rose-tinted glasses.

Apparently.

attheegeofscience
20/MAY/2015.

The Schwerer Gustav has rolled out. I am a cap gun compared to the almight ATEOS!

 

[Danny Boy]

What kind of job?
Also you must know how to present yourself (i.e. make you interesting and attractive....like a shiny new fishing lure)
Its all very complex. There are many factors and variables. There should be a computer program written for this. But my point I was trying to make is as a whole, those things I said matter most in a long term prospective- not talking about just getting laid here. How to get laid is another topic....

Well, I worked sales representative. And women didn't find that interesting lol Anyway, getting laid isn't my goal having a family is.

 

[Chelles]

@Danny Boy maybe is because you talk about keppra all the time lol jk

 

[Danny Boy]

@Danny Boy maybe is because you talk about keppra all the time lol jk

Lol, must be.

 

[Martin69]

Funny you mention this because I got T and yesterday my girlfriend said although she hates to see me suffering...she feels we came more closer togetter and our relationship is stronger than ever. For the most part I will agree with you.. but it just happens to be that in my case it just isn't so. But it is a fear that is in the back of my mind though so that why I agree with you most of it

My wife runs her own business. She and her family have much more money than I have.
It would have been so easy for her kicking me outside of her house - although I did everything for her and my family , and T was probably a result of that (burnout). She said we promised each other being there in good and bad times, and this will be until we die. So this is true love. In the meantime she needs me for her struggle with cancer, too. We are both "damaged". I really don't know where this all ends. Me with severe T and depression, her with cancer.
Life is tough. Sorry for going off-topic.
I think that people must be there for each other - in good and bad times. The big problem with T is, you don't know when and if at all the bad time ends.

 

[dan]

Well, I worked sales representative. And women didn't find that interesting lol Anyway, getting laid isn't my goal having a family is.

Even so! The things women look for family man material are the things I said.
Keep in mind that you are now only 23 years old. I think age plays an important role.
I mean how many 19 year old girls are thinking about starting a family? lol
Your age is really the getting laid age lol.

 

[dan]

. In the meantime she needs me for her struggle with cancer, too. We are both "damaged".

Symbiosis.

 

[Martin69]

My friend, I really hope this is true for you, but experience tells me never to take what women say at face value. It all depends on how bad is your condition and how it affects your relationship vs how well you are off financially and stable.

Agreed. Also if your wife/gf cannot see you suffering 24/7.
Than it becomes difficult for everyone. People must protect themselves.
So I try living as normal as possible with a dentist drill in my head.

 

[dan]

Agreed. Also if your wife/gf cannot see you suffering 24/7.
Than it becomes difficult for everyone. People must protect themselves.
So I try living as normal as possible with a dentist drill in my head.

That is the best strategy to keep shit together.

 

[Martin69]

Symbiosis.

Could be. But is not much helpful for depression if you suffer with T, wife has cancer and you have two young kids.
But I guess you know what I mean.

 

[Martin69]

That is the best strategy to keep shit together.

Question is only how long this works and when the next shit hits you.
I cannot take more.

 

[Danny Boy]

Even so! The things women look for family man material are the things I said.
Keep in mind that you are now only 23 years old. I think age plays an important role.
I mean how many 19 year old girls are thinking about starting a family? lol
Your age is really the getting laid age lol.

Well, maybe a lady the same age will be better.

 

[Danny Boy]

My wife runs her own business. She and her family have much more money than I have.
It would have been so easy for her kicking me outside of her house - although I did everything for her and my family , and T was probably a result of that (burnout). She said we promised each other being there in good and bad times, and this will be until we die. So this is true love. In the meantime she needs me for her struggle with cancer, too. We are both "damaged". I really don't know where this all ends. Me with severe T and depression, her with cancer.
Life is tough. Sorry for going off-topic.
I think that people must be there for each other - in good and bad times. The big problem with T is, you don't know when and if at all the bad time ends.

Totally agree...She must've not loved me surely. Nobody she leave when he's at his weakest.

 

[dan]

Could be. But is not much helpful for depression if you suffer with T, wife has cancer and you have two young kids.
But I guess you know what I mean.

I am sorry she has cancer, it is very sad to hear. I hope her treatment is working.
Also I must add that the new generation of young people have different values and mentality than the 60's generation of "thru thick and thin"....and it is only getting worse as our economy crumbles and times get harder to earn a good living.

 

[dan]

Well, maybe a lady the same age will be better.

Look from my experience, as another poster mentioned, having a sharp sense of humor and be able to make a woman laugh at a whim, is the BEST ammunition. If you dont have that, you are going to have to make it up in otherways hahahaha....
Ironic isnt it? That laughter is the best weapon but tinnitus is friggin depressing as heck.