It's Been a Hard Time for Me. It Can Only Get Better Now.

[glynis]

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

 

[TuxedoCat]

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

Dear Glynis, I am so sorry to learn you are on that emotional roller coaster. Keep in mind that you have us and your children and grandchildren. And, the best revenge is a life well-lived . You come first now. Sincerely, TC

 

[Hazel]

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

It will be very tough for a long time. I can't even imagine the adjustment required after 32 years. I have just gone through some huge life changes myself, and while I can't pretend to know what you're going through, I know the pain and perseverance it takes to build a new life for yourself. Have faith in yourself and above all be kind and patient with yourself during this challenging time.

Big hugs...

 

[Jack Straw]

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

I am terribly sorry to hear this news. I can not even begin to imagine what you must be feeling or going through. What I do know is that you are not alone! You still have your children and grandchildren that will be with you and support you. You also have us, as corny as that sounds!

I wish I could help carry the pain you are feeling to lighten your load. I know that this time will be hard for you, but with all things it does get better over time.

I will be keeping you in my thoughts and sending you positive vibes!

 

[threefirefour]

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

That's awful. Are you still in contact with him?

 

[emmalee]

@glynis

I am at a loss for words. Please know that I am thinking of you and sending you strength from across the ocean.

 

[hans799]

Dear Glynis,

you have given so much comfort and love to so many hurting people on this forum, including me. You are a wonderful woman. And because you've been living with this godawful condition for so long, I know for a fact that you're very tough as well and will no doubt make it through this, too.

Focus on yourself for a while, we'll mind the shop in your absence.

 

[Ed209]

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

You know how I feel, Glynis. Words just don't come close to doing justice about how I feel about all this. You have a heart of gold and are always there to help others. Onwards and upwards now

 

[glynis]

That's awful. Are you still in contact with him?

Not had any contact with him since Monday.
He has a few items to get from here but my sons can take them to him.
love glynis

 

[LAnative]

Hello Glynis I've seen a lot of your posts and firstly I wanna thank you for the constant positivity.

I can't imagine what you're going though. Try to stick to your routine, add some regular exercise if you can. Don't block the emotions, just let it out. It may take some time but YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN!

Lots of Love!

 

[Manny]

Glynis, I am sorry that this is such a difficult time. Sending you much love just as you give it out to us here.

 

[threefirefour]

Not had any contact with him since Monday.
He has a few items to get from here but my sons can take them to him.
love glynis

You don't know why he left? It would have been better for him to work this out.

 

[Striveon]

I am so sorry for what you are going through Glynis I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling, but I hope this will only make you stronger. You have your children, your grandchildren and us I hope within time you start to feel yourself again :/ you are an amazing human being and I wish you the best in life.

 

[glynis]

You don't know why he left? It would have been better for him to work this out.

He said he doesn't love me anymore.
He told me 3 weeks ago and been living separate lives till he got keys to a flat and left Monday.

love glynis

 

[threefirefour]

He said he doesn't love me anymore.
He told me 3 weeks ago and been living separate lives till he got keys to a flat and left Monday.

love glynis

That's really sad, and disturbing how that can happen so late into a relationship. I wish he didn't leave, and would realize exactly how small the dating pool is at his age.

 

[lucy_snow]

Ohh Glynis, so sorry that you have to go through this...I can only send you much love and hugs

 

[TuxedoCat]

@Autumnly, @dpdx, @grate_biff, @Deamon22, @GregCA, @DonTinny, @Red, @hans799, @1000, @Bam, @Striveon, @lapidus, @Lucy snow @threefirefour, @Manny, @LAnative, @Ed209 , @hans799, @emmalee , @Jack Straw, @Jazzer, @Nanny chocolate, @Starthrower, @Allan1967, @Karen, @Samir, @Hazel, @Steve, @Markku ,


OK Everybody on the count of three. Ready? 1...... 2......... 3

WE LOVE YOU, GLYNIS

 

[glynis]

Thank you xxx

 

[TheDanishGirl]

So sorry to hear that Glynis I hope you are allright and with your fighter mentality, I am sure you will overcome this too. Hugs.

 

[Jcb]

Big big hugs @glynis stay strong, I agree with all the replies. As you are a tower of strength for us in here, lean on us and we are here for you.

 

[New Guy]

@glynis

I'm sorry to hear that. He'll realize how lost he is without you sooner than later. When you replay what happened don't blame yourself, I know you did everything possible to make it work. Some men have a hard time seeing the truth and how lucky they are.

I hope you're doing ok.

 

[SugarMagnolia]

I'm so sorry @glynis. You don't deserve for this to be happening to you. You're awesome and very much loved. Although it's really hard right now, I hope this turns out to be the beginning of an even better chapter in your life.

 

[dpdx]

Stay strong Glynis. We love you all.

 

[Nonna]

My uncle left my aunt ay age 50, they were together since early 20s.
She had been a housewife this entire time raising two girls. Visiting their home in the 80s/90s was like walking into 1950. Everyone had to make their bed turn off the lights and whisper when daddy was home. And when he got home from work they didn't mind one bit stopping their world for him.
(I loved visiting them until their dad got home.)
It took my aunt ten years to move on. She was devastated, he gave her no signs or warnings. Her grandaughter did help her heart a lot the first 10yrs.
Now its been 15yrs and my aunt has reunited with an old high school flame on facebook. They just got married, they party all the time and laugh all day long. She hasn't been this care free since the 70s and she's almost 70.

I think the ex husband sits alone every nite missing the 3 girls who put him on a pedestal for 20yrs.

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

 

[Tinker Bell]

Oh Glynis! I gasped aloud reading your post. My heart hurts for you. A close friend's marriage dissolved for a similar reason several years ago. I'll just say this: now she is very happy with her life while her ex is not.

As you're likely painfully aware, the challenges of life — regardless of whether their health or relationship-based — are often the hardest in the beginning. One day, you will be okay. You will be happy, you will be stronger.

You have a great support system with your dear family and sweet grandchildren, your work and undoubtedly the kids who adore you there, and you have all of us. Don't hesitate to reach out.

Love right back at you, Tinker Bell.

 

[OnceUponaTime]

Dear @glynis .

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Not much I can say but here is a big {{{ HUG}}} from someone who things you are an exceptional woman. And don't ever doubt that. Please take extra good care of yourself during this time. We love you very much here at TT.

I will pray for you my friend.
Mary

 

[TuxedoCat]

Hi @Markku, @Hazel

Is it possible to know what the most hugs anyone on Tinnitus Talk has ever received?

Thanks, TC

 

[Markku]

Is it possible to know what the most hugs anyone on Tinnitus Talk has ever received?

No, there's no such front-end option, but it's an interesting suggestion. Although I think often such top lists can lead to abuse and some folks wanting to game the rankings. You would think such things wouldn't happen on a tinnitus site, but you'd be surprised

This post has gotten 43 hugs:
https://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/my-sister-passed-away-two-days-ago-i-feel-like-im-dying.27600/

@glynis so many hugs to you - it feels so unfair where life takes some of us, you've had a tough few years overall. You're a trooper and a star and a fantastic human being, we'll always be walking by your side.

 

[Starthrower]

To keep it short.

My husband left me on Monday after 32 years being married and it's been emotional.

I have never lived alone before but It's not that bad after the initial shock.

So if I've been quiet now you know why.

love glynis

Glynis I am so sorry for this pain in your life now. Is there a support group in your area for other's in the same situation? I wonder if that would help you dealing with the pain?

I have cowgirl boots and kick people in the shin - like him - really good.....too bad I am way over here.

 

[Rings-a-Bell]

Glynis, although I don't know you, I can feel the warmth and compassion of your personality radiating forth from your many posts here. It seems impossible that your warmth will not attract similar positive energy back into your life again. I just hope your tinnitus doesn't ring too loud for you in your transition, as we all know it likes to take advantage of us when we are stressed.