New Years Eve in Germany — Terrified

I feel you. It's horrible. It's not like tinnitus didn't destroy enough parts of my life already, now I can't even just be at home in peace anymore. I'm extremely worried abt tomorrow, too.

In The Netherlands there are some fireworks free zones (and Belgium too). At least they think about adding more for animal protection. Best option is to go to the countryside. There is less fireworks there.
 
Happy New Year everyone! I wore ear plugs and ear muffs but even with those it felt a bit loud when the first neighbors started to shoot fireworks, so in the evening I moved into my bathroom (because it doesn't have any windows). But in there it didn't feel loud. I was scared of midnight, but I could barely hear anything inside the blanket fort I had built. I'm glad I overdid a bit this year with hearing protection, next year I know what to expect. ;)
 
Stayed inside, it was barely audible.
I did attend an event last summer where they had professional fireworks that didn't go as high, I was wearing plugs and muffs and it still felt loud. This was much better, just random people lighting there own small firework between 00:00 and 00:30
 
Hello. Mr lifeisover. It better not,. Yr18 will be a better for. You have to take baby steps to move forward and I know you can. You cannot ponder on things it is not good for any of us. Just look at the now, and plan things to do. And before you know it you'll move on. Yr17 was not a good year not for me either. So please let us know you are all right.
 

Yes I go against that advice. Yes my T was a bit louder after New Years eve.. However just next to us a very loud firework exploded. Everyone was grabbing to their ears.. I didn't because the protection did his work.

Almost every T specialist advises to protect your ears in situations that you a normal person should have ear protection. However don't use them when it's not needed as it WILL make your H worse and still let T being in charge of your life.

I havc OCD so I need medication to achieve the advice above; with medication I started to follow that advice and quickly started to recover. Nowadays T is only the boss in silence, however even that is not a big deal anymore.

My T sometimes spikes after spicy food or visiting a loud party... I really don't give a **** anymore, ok well maybe sometimes :). But don't let T rule your life. Embrace life and say **** you T!
 
However don't use them when it's not needed as it WILL make your H worse and still let T being in charge of your life.
That hasn't been my experience. I made sure to watch TV at moderate volume level, perhaps that explains it.

In any case, you never addressed the fact that the people who wrote the posts to which I linked followed YOUR advice and ended up regretting it.
But don't let T rule your life. Embrace life and say **** you T!
When one doesn't learn from one's mistakes or from the mistakes of others, I am reminded of the following passage in one of Dave Barry's books:
You must not be afraid. Oh, sure, you got burned and you got hurt. But that is no reason to give up. You must show the same kind of gumption as the cowboy, who, if he gets thrown off a horse, climbs right back on, and if he gets thrown off again, climbs right back on again, and so on, until virtually all of his brain cells are dead.
 
Happy New Year everyone! I wore ear plugs and ear muffs but even with those it felt a bit loud when the first neighbors started to shoot fireworks, so in the evening I moved into my bathroom (because it doesn't have any windows). But in there it didn't feel loud. I was scared of midnight, but I could barely hear anything inside the blanket fort I had built. I'm glad I overdid a bit this year with hearing protection, next year I know what to expect. ;)

Doctor: Try to keep living your life like normal.

Reality: So, how do I build a fort of these blankets?
 
Rest in peace

We don't really know anything. We shouldn't presume things that we have no clue about. He only ever participated in one thread and now everyone is jumping to conclusions.

He could need some space, or maybe he is seeking real help?
 
We don't really know anything. We shouldn't presume things that we have no clue about. He only ever participated in one thread and now everyone is jumping to conclusions.

He could need some space, or maybe he is seeking real help?
He changed his pic into black and his last post confirms he wants to commit suicide.

But you are correct, maybe he wants attention or whatever else. As you probably still remember, it's not the first person here that faked his/her suicide. ;)
 
He changed his pic into black and his last post confirms he wants to commit suicide.

But you are correct, maybe he wants attention or whatever else. As you probably still remember, it's not the first person here that faked his/her suicide. ;)

A black picture doesn't mean a thing as we know @Rubenslash. I really hope he is ok and seeking the help he needs. If anything, this is a reminder of what can happen when we scare the s**t out of people with the constant flow of hyper-protection threads.
 
The more likely scenario is that this thread is like many we see on TT: a poster has anxiety about an event or spike, event ends up being okay but poster does not update, poster creates a new post a week or month later with anxiety about a different event or possible spike.

We hear about the bad, the anxiety, the fears. We rarely hear about the "oh it was actually okay and I'm alright."
 
Hello, I'm sticking to my RIP, T is very tough ground . Also if he would like to reply to my shout out above, it would be very welcoming.
Why? I missed in his post where he said he intended to commit suicide on NYE. Making assumptions about something like that is not a good idea on an anxiety-filled forum.

Even the username can have different meanings. Saying "my life is over" can mean goals for the future, social life, etc. not necessarily physical life. I thought my life was over when T and anxiety struck. It's a commonly used phrase, declared it myself several times as a teenager. Didn't mean I intended to kill myself.

And yes, T is very tough but so is anxiety. If we assume everyone who posts an anxious thread worrying about noise commits suicide — well that would be nearly everyone on this forum.
 
Why? I missed in his post where he said he intended to commit suicide on NYE. Making assumptions about something like that is not a good idea on an anxiety-filled forum.

Even the username can have different meanings. Saying "my life is over" can mean goals for the future, social life, etc. not necessarily physical life. I thought my life was over when T and anxiety struck. It's a commonly used phrase, declared it myself several times as a teenager. Didn't mean I intended to kill myself.

And yes, T is very tough but so is anxiety. If we assume everyone who posts an anxious thread worrying about noise commits suicide — well that would be nearly everyone on this forum.

His last post:

Guys I will not be able to leave this place. I was supposed to drive away to a remote area but it doesnt work out cause I was let down by someone, and now I fear it's too late and too dangerous to go outside. I am so scared I don't think I will survive today. I wanted to die for a long time due to how tinnitus destroyed everything for me and I start to feel like tonight is a good time. I cannot bear having to endure the fireworks everywhere. I want to be gone finally. I was never strong enough for tinnitus
 
His last post:
I saw that, it sounds very similar to what I have read from multiple posters — who appear a week or month later.

Tinnitus anxiety is awful. I suspect someone letting him down did not help his mental state. Hopefully there were others at the house with him.
 
If anything, this is a reminder of what can happen when we scare the s**t out of people with the constant flow of hyper-protection threads.
Since hyper-protection ensures that he wouldn't get worse, and since some people are so close to suicide that getting worse would certainly push them over the edge, I am not sure what point you are trying to make.

I can't imagine this person committing suicide Before the fireworks causing a spike (in other words, it is unlikely that the person committed suicide because he was scared). So if this person Had committed suicide, it means that fireworks DID cause a spike (and that your advice "to just chill and enjoy the fireworks" would have ensured that person's death). We advised this person to leave town or to try to reduce the impact of the fireworks. I guess the fireworks might have been too loud for the methods (the fort, using a mattress to dampen the sound) that we had suggested .
 
Quick update, I just remembered today that I posted here a when I was feeling bad and I hope I didn't scare anyone. If I did I apologise. NYE and the subsequent days were shitty, but I'm alive and it's over (at least for this year). Planning on tackling this anxiety and the panic attacks about tinnitus, because I feel very incapacitated from all of it. I will probably not post much more in this thread, because I want to focus on positive things and try to be a bit stronger rather than delving in the misery that is tinnitus.

Thanks to everyone for your encouraging words last week, it definitely helped. Wishing everyone peace of mind, good health and a good year.
 
Glad to see your post @lifeisover. Hopefully this will be a reminder to TT members to not jump to conclusions when an anxious member does not respond to a post.

Have you considered pursuing CBT? It made a huge difference in helping me cope with my anxiety to tinnitus and hearing loss.
 
Glad to see your post @lifeisover. Hopefully this will be a reminder to TT members to not jump to conclusions when an anxious member does not respond to a post.

Have you considered pursuing CBT? It made a huge difference in helping me cope with my anxiety to tinnitus and hearing loss.

Thank you. Yes I am really considering trying CBT now asap.
 
Thank you. Yes I am really considering trying CBT now asap.
After my first appointment with a CBT therapist, I drove home to the quietest tinnitus I'd experienced since it had began. It was wonderful and made me realize just how much anxiety and negative feelings toward tinnitus can impact volume.
 
I'm so glad you are doing better, by the way my humble apologizes for thinking you are not with us. I'm happy you posted back have a good year.
 

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