MemberWe live our lives on an emotional level.
We can't help that - everybody does.
When this bastard condition first struck me I was totally destroyed, for a very long time, so I am simply not qualified to give any advice to others.
The only thing I can try to do for myself is, experiment with different ways of thinking about it. A better way to live with it.
We know we have a very tough condition to cope with, that makes itself apparent the moment we wake up to the sounds that we can't avoid.
But do we really have to live at the mercy of the first emotions of the day, as Tinnitus re-introduces itself each morning?
Do we still need to be stuck in a reprise of our very first experiences of Tinnitus, or can we move on?
Psychologists tell us that we take an emotional meal every day. Sometimes several.
I personally am not prepared to accept another wasted, depressing day.
Obviously they are not nice, but there is absolutely no reason to dwell on noises and neurones.
It will not help!
It gets us nowhere, we are still locked in.....
I have found that we can not just stop thinking negative thoughts:
we need to actually replace them with more positive thoughts, think happier things, choose something different.
A different emotional meal perhaps.
Brilliant comedian, and all round funny guy, Ken Dodd, says that each day we have to make sure that we exercise our chuckle muscle.
I think he's right.
He says, "If you don't use it - it dries up and drops off."
"Well, I don't want mine to drop off.....do you misus?"
I had a brilliant morning yesterday.
I went to see my lovely grandson playing football in a league match.
A truly wonderful boy who has overcome so much. He lost his mum, our daughter, to breast cancer at age 5, and his dad, our son-in-law, to oesophageal cancer, just this last Christmas, at age 15.
Michelle was 36, and Rob was 48.
They were beautiful people.
Yet Sammy still has a personality of pure gold.
Two excellent young teams, of 15/16 year olds, playing superbly, so well that I found myself really chuckling in admiration at the athletic prowess in front of me, which incidentally, I never had.
I was giggling, like a big Jessy.
Our team scored a goal, and I found myself actually laughing out loud with joy.
It felt brilliant!
Didn't know I could still do that!
(Whenever I tried to play football as s kid, I was always the one that managed to get his foot stuck over the top of ball, and land on his back, completely winded.)
The next thing you know, my lovely Sam has volleyed the ball straight into the back of the net, top left corner, just like he said he would, if he got half a chance.
I love this kid so much, and I am so proud of him........can you guess what I really need to do just then......I needed to cry............
now how weird is that?
I looked away, just for a bit, and nobody noticed - thank goodness.
So a couple of hours of schoolboy footy was my 'Emotional Meal' for that day.
It sure beat the hell out of all that other stuff!
So my advice - to myself...
Don't stay with the Set Menu,
Go for the a la Carte.....
Think of something better.....
Get out and enjoy something....
"And don't forget to chuckle...."
Best wishes to everybody,
Jazzer xx
We can't help that - everybody does.
When this bastard condition first struck me I was totally destroyed, for a very long time, so I am simply not qualified to give any advice to others.
The only thing I can try to do for myself is, experiment with different ways of thinking about it. A better way to live with it.
We know we have a very tough condition to cope with, that makes itself apparent the moment we wake up to the sounds that we can't avoid.
But do we really have to live at the mercy of the first emotions of the day, as Tinnitus re-introduces itself each morning?
Do we still need to be stuck in a reprise of our very first experiences of Tinnitus, or can we move on?
Psychologists tell us that we take an emotional meal every day. Sometimes several.
I personally am not prepared to accept another wasted, depressing day.
Obviously they are not nice, but there is absolutely no reason to dwell on noises and neurones.
It will not help!
It gets us nowhere, we are still locked in.....
I have found that we can not just stop thinking negative thoughts:
we need to actually replace them with more positive thoughts, think happier things, choose something different.
A different emotional meal perhaps.
Brilliant comedian, and all round funny guy, Ken Dodd, says that each day we have to make sure that we exercise our chuckle muscle.
I think he's right.
He says, "If you don't use it - it dries up and drops off."
"Well, I don't want mine to drop off.....do you misus?"
I had a brilliant morning yesterday.
I went to see my lovely grandson playing football in a league match.
A truly wonderful boy who has overcome so much. He lost his mum, our daughter, to breast cancer at age 5, and his dad, our son-in-law, to oesophageal cancer, just this last Christmas, at age 15.
Michelle was 36, and Rob was 48.
They were beautiful people.
Yet Sammy still has a personality of pure gold.
Two excellent young teams, of 15/16 year olds, playing superbly, so well that I found myself really chuckling in admiration at the athletic prowess in front of me, which incidentally, I never had.
I was giggling, like a big Jessy.
Our team scored a goal, and I found myself actually laughing out loud with joy.
It felt brilliant!
Didn't know I could still do that!
(Whenever I tried to play football as s kid, I was always the one that managed to get his foot stuck over the top of ball, and land on his back, completely winded.)
The next thing you know, my lovely Sam has volleyed the ball straight into the back of the net, top left corner, just like he said he would, if he got half a chance.
I love this kid so much, and I am so proud of him........can you guess what I really need to do just then......I needed to cry............
now how weird is that?
I looked away, just for a bit, and nobody noticed - thank goodness.
So a couple of hours of schoolboy footy was my 'Emotional Meal' for that day.
It sure beat the hell out of all that other stuff!
So my advice - to myself...
Don't stay with the Set Menu,
Go for the a la Carte.....
Think of something better.....
Get out and enjoy something....
"And don't forget to chuckle...."
Best wishes to everybody,
Jazzer xx
