I do not cope with my tinnitus. And I do not help people cope with theirs.
I simply do not care about my tinnitus. I used to care about it - very much - but I no longer do. No matter how loud, no matter how pitchy, no matter how incessant, I just do not care. And when you do not care, there is absolutely no need to cope. That is habituation in a nutshell.
Dr. Stephen Nagler
For the record, I didn't mean to imply anything negative about your work or that of Dr. Jastreboff. Coping is a good thing in my book. I cope. I work very hard at coping. "Cope" is awfully close to "hope", and hope is what I eat and breathe.
I think polls like this do a disservice to sufferers, as they imply that tinnitus is a minor nuisance that is easily set aside. No one who has experienced the months of insomnia, depression, the incessant fear and uncertainty, to say nothing of the expense involved, could countenance such an implication.
I object to the formulation of this poll, using terms such as "debilitating" without any nuance, as if the only levels at which tinnitus can be experienced are (a) catastrophic or (b) trivial. I personally would refuse to participate in such a poll, unless it provided a means to detail the impact and effect tinnitus has had on my life. Compared to many others on this board, I'm practically walking on clouds all day, but I don't think that's the appropriate narrative to convey when talking to researchers. The appropriate narrative is, this is where I was before tinnitus, this is all that happened to me, here I am now. I was much better off, I suffered terribly, now I'm better but I wish every day I could be like I was before.
Will non-tinnitus sufferers see numbers like this and say, "Wow, I certainly should write my congressman to see more research money is granted tinnitus researchers."? I think not. Will parents read this poll in the newspaper and say, "Wow, I need to teach my children to avoid pep-rallies, concerts, and stressful situations for the sake of their precious hearing."? Again, the answer's obvious. All numbers like these do is trivialize a monstrous illness that has been pushed into the corner for decades by all but a few sympathetic persons who have either sought a cure or a means to help sufferers overcome their initial life-altering depression.
What we need is a poll that says: 50,000,000 Americans have tinnitus, 150,000,000 of their loved ones would gladly pay, vote, and lobby to get them help.