Poll: Are You Happy?

[Stina]

I hope that is true, Stina. My T is a result of trauma to my cranial nerve from an acoustic neuroma. It's not likely to go away, or even get better. Yesterday I had to leave an event that my son was participating in in a crowded gymnasium because the noise was unbearable. I get pissed when the T "wins". But a brother of a friend of mine just passed from ALS, so I get it. Life is strange . . .

Of course its most likely not going to go away. I also have noise-induced tinnitus and it shall probably be with me forever or until an effective treatment is found. However my point is that slowly we will get used to it and will stop seeing it as smth unbearable. Sure adjustments have to be made, but that doesn't mean that one should be unhappy Life is about being flexible and getting used to different situations. Also these adjustments shouldn't be seen as "letting T control your life" but more as you taking care of your health and wellbeing.

 

[Martin69]

Hmm. Am I happy? Not there yet. Still having some depression because of T.
I try living day by day and make the best out of it.
On the long run hoping for habituation.
We must be patient. It will take time getting used to it.

 

[michela]

In what way does that comment help you to overcome your tinnitus? Do not you realize that you are doing your own negative consuelling? By thinking that way you reinforce your idea that tinnitus is impossible to be overcome.

I am not a strong person michela. In my view and own experience strength is not a factor to overcome your T but determination. Being strong is coping and I do not cope with my T at all.

Am I liying to myself being that possitive on TT lately? Well, the answer is no. And how do I know it? Because my T does not make me anxious nor depressed. I have not stopped doing anything because of my T in the last month and my T has not made me unhappy.

Of course I could be lying to you because I cannot show you my level of happiness as well as I cannot demonstrate I have Tinnitus. But in any case I am not posting these comments to cheer up myself but to help these beautiful people who helped me when evth was dark.

You can believe me or not but I hope that your decision will help you to overcome your T.

epin, i absolutely hope you did not see my comment as an attack versus you personally!!!! i am really happy for YOU if it is true what you say!!!!!more than happy for you! so ok ,i believe you and try to change my own attitude a bit!!!good good look my friend for the future!

 

[Mentos]

I have mild T but I cannot say I'm happy, I still experience T related anxiety especially in the mornings and I have huge concentration problems ar work. If I could overcone concentration problems than I would be much closer to being relatively happy again

 

[Shiela]

Hello everyone!
I got my tinnitus some days ago so I'm quite new to this whole thing. The little ringing sound in my ear when I try to get some sleep after a long day at school, yeah, it's annoying. I do not know what the future awaits for me, I do not know if my tinnitus will fully disappear (which will be a miracle) or if it will worsen or get better.

Either way, i know that it is not that dangerous or harmful.
I know that I cannot keep living in a shadow where I am scared of doing things in my life just because of this condition.

I know I am not the only one with T, and I know that some people have worse T than I have so I respect those people a lot, you are amazing!!

I just came here to remind you all that, even though we have this condition, doesn't mean we can't enjoy life like any other human without T, let's take care of our ears and try to live peacefully with this condition! It will get better as time goes ! Keep your heads up

Let's all also remind ourselves, that this condition also helped us become a stronger version of ourselves.
This condition has caused many problems, for school in my case, but for any person's daily life too, but it has helped us become stronger.

 

[JurgenG]

Hello everyone,

For everyone here who have habituated to tinnitus, are you happy?

I was happy with mild tinnitus, now it is louder I feel miserable again, I don't see how you can be happy with loud tinnitus.

Why did it increase?

 

[Samir]

"Those only are happy (I thought) who have their minds fixed on some object other than their own happiness; on the happiness of others, on the improvement of mankind, even on some art or pursuit, followed not as a means, but as itself an ideal end. Aiming thus at something else, they find happiness by the way.

The enjoyments of life (such was now my theory) are sufficient to make it a pleasant thing, when they are taken en passant, without being made a principal object. Once make them so, and they are immediately felt to be insufficient. They will not bear a scrutinizing examination.

Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so. The only chance is to treat, not happiness, but some end external to it, as the purpose of life. Let your self-consciousness, your scrutiny, your self-interrogation, exhaust themselves on that; and if otherwise fortunately circumstanced you will inhale happiness with the air you breathe, without dwelling on it or thinking about it, without either forestalling it in imagination, or putting it to flight by fatal questioning."

~ John Stuart Mill