Yeah, the point of my post was more that he had a positive attitude and that made it easier for him to cope.
I think that people with a positive outlook who are more prone to laugh at the ridiculousness of their failing bodies than to worry and cry about it, universally and unquestionably have an easier time dealing with the adversity that life inherently throws at us. 85% of people don't have any significant amount of tinnitus, sure, but 100% of those people are going to die, mostly in pain, mostly at a time not of their choosing.
The problem is that the way we react to thing is a manifestation of wiring which is not under our direct control. In fact, having people who suffer "more" or "less" from the same set of circumstances seems like basic biodiversity to me.
I do believe that there are skills that can be learned, that neuroplasticity is a two-way street. No matter how f'd up someone's particular circumstances are, they have some degree of volition in how they react to them, and that willful response over time will increase or decrease their distress levels. If this is true for prisoners of war being literally tortured by other humans over a long period of time (
http://www.usna.edu/Ethics/_files/documents/Stoicism2.pdf), then it's certainly true for people dealing with unavoidable physical ailments.
However, just because something is
possible doesn't mean it's
easy, and even if we can re-invent ourselves over time, it's not realistic for someone with a long track record of suffering from stress-related disorders to expect that they will ever escape that entirely.
Justin Sullivan - "Headlights" said:
Casting memory aside - your history, all forgotten;
driven onwards through the years in love with each distraction.
But all the while, the past is close behind;
like headlights on your tail, headlights on your tail.