Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about your experience,
@Yellowblue44. No one deserves to deal with this condition, but unfortunately, life isn't always fair. Having had stable tinnitus for about 15 years, only for it to suddenly worsen after an acoustic trauma, I understand firsthand how life-changing such an event can be—both for you personally and for those around you.
The short answer is yes, you can get used to this. Is it easy to accept and get there? No. I have to be honest. It's a process, and an ongoing one because challenges will continue to arise as long as we choose to live.
I still experience reactive tinnitus (or whatever you may call it), but it's now less reactive to the point where it no longer dictates my life. I accepted this a long time ago, and I'm no longer living in fear. However, I've had setbacks where, for a few days or even a couple of months, I felt like, "God, I'm back to square one again." Over time, I've learned that setbacks are unavoidable and simply part of this journey, and I've learned to give them less and less focus.
These days, my reactiveness can even disappear for several days or up to a week at a time. There seem to be many factors at play in determining whether it flares up or not, and sometimes, it can't be explained. It's a complicated condition, but I choose not to dramatize it anymore or give it too much space in my life. This doesn't mean it's easy, but it is what it is.
When I do have a bad spell, I still manage to do everyday things 90% of the time. I spend a lot of time in nature, work out, practice photography, go to the gym, attend family gatherings, weddings, vacations, and more. I also make sure to rest up, whether that means going somewhere quiet, which I find meditative and calming for the mind and body.
I can hear my tinnitus over everything during a normal day, but I've pretty much habituated to it again. It's always there, fluctuating a lot, but I don't give it attention most of the time, and it fades into the background. I don't measure or label my tinnitus anymore—it serves no purpose, even when it's louder. After all, we can't control it anyway.
I miss concerts, but it's not the end of the world. Life happens, and things change. We change. In fact, I've discovered a lot about life that I might never have without this condition.
Regarding counseling, a combination of CBT, learning about the auditory system, and sound therapy has been incredibly valuable for me. There's no doubt about that. Talking to someone who is knowledgeable about this condition, face-to-face, is crucial. If you find the right person, you'll gain a "toolbox" that can be a great support on your journey. Ultimately, though, we have to face this ourselves, and most of us will have to do so without anyone close to us truly understanding it.
I think you're doing well with your list. Make sure to prioritize yourself. Get plenty of rest. Say no to things that are just too much for now. Ask for help when you need it. Start counseling if you can. Equip yourself with the "tools" you need to begin this journey toward improvement. If I can do it, so can you. I've raised two kids while dealing with this, started my own company, attended numerous weddings and parties, and flown countless times. It hasn't been easy, but it's been worth it. I'm still alive and kicking—but I take precautions and protect myself. I'm never afraid to talk about my condition if needed, which helps. But most of the time, I don't need to, and I live a normal life.