Should I Tell My Parents About My Noise-Induced Tinnitus (I'm an Adult)?

[Poseidon65]

Hi folks,

I am 39 years old, and have noise-induced tinnitus from attending a loud concert 10 months ago. I would describe my tinnitus as mild at sometimes, but moderate at other times. When it's moderate, I think about it all throughout the day.

Right now, the only person who knows about my tinnitus (other than my doctor) is my wife.

A question I'm struggling with is whether to tell my parents.

Reasons not to tell them are:

(1) it's possible for me to hide it (as I've done thus far),

(2) I don't want them worrying about me all the time, especially given that tinnitus can't be cured, and

(3) I'm a bit embarrassed about the whole experience of getting tinnitus, given that it was entirely preventable.

However, I'm now considering pursuing therapy which might involve the use of in-ear maskers. If I do this, it will be harder to hide. For example, I would have to be careful to not post pictures of myself with the maskers in, and would I have to remember to take them out when FaceTime'ing with my parents (or with others who know them, e.g. my in-laws).

A question to this group. If you are an adult who cares for yourself, did you tell your parents about your noise-induced tinnitus? Why or why not? If you did, how did it go? Are you glad you told them?

 

[MBH]

I did not tell my mother. She is 85. Even if I did tell her, she would not understand. She would not have understood years ago either. I would not tell them. For the reason, not to worry them. Also, my tinnitus is from major stress.

 

[Poseidon65]

Note if folks are willing to share the reason for their answer (e.g. if they're glad they told their parents, why that is), I'd really appreciate it.

 

[GBB]

Hi folks,

I am 39 years old, and have noise-induced tinnitus from attending a loud concert 10 months ago. I would describe my tinnitus as mild at sometimes, but moderate at other times. When it's moderate, I think about it all throughout the day.

Right now, the only person who knows about my tinnitus (other than my doctor) is my wife.

A question I'm struggling with is whether to tell my parents.

Reasons not to tell them are:

(1) it's possible for me to hide it (as I've done thus far),

(2) I don't want them worrying about me all the time, especially given that tinnitus can't be cured, and

(3) I'm a bit embarrassed about the whole experience of getting tinnitus, given that it was entirely preventable.

However, I'm now considering pursuing therapy which might involve the use of in-ear maskers. If I do this, it will be harder to hide. For example, I would have to be careful to not post pictures of myself with the maskers in, and would I have to remember to take them out when FaceTime'ing with my parents (or with others who know them, e.g. my in-laws).

A question to this group. If you are an adult who cares for yourself, did you tell your parents about your noise-induced tinnitus? Why or why not? If you did, how did it go? Are you glad you told them?

This reads as a bit neurotic honestly. My tinnitus is bad and I have a migraine so maybe I'm being harsh - just tell them...

 

[Lilah]

I didn't tell my parents right away as I was confused and in denial, however I told them a few weeks later as my sleep worsened and the sound worsened (it started more like a tone and then became multi-sound, loud, changing, etc.). It would not have been possible to hide.

 

[wwtsai]

I was hesitant on telling my mom cuz she tends to freak out about these things. I eventually did and she's been helping me cope with it (while still freaking out sometimes). Turns out she has tinnitus too... and apparently a couple of my relatives too.

 

[Poseidon65]

An update here: I decided I will tell my parents, because I am visiting them soon and I want to wear my hearing aids during the visit. However, I will not tell them the absolute full extent of how tinnitus affects me. This is because I simply don't want them to feel sad about what happened, or to be worrying about me all of the time. I don't think any good comes from that.

I did tell my sister the full extent however, and I'm glad I did. It felt good to get it off my chest, so to speak.

 

[Steph1710]

I was hesitant on telling my mom cuz she tends to freak out about these things. I eventually did and she's been helping me cope with it (while still freaking out sometimes). Turns out she has tinnitus too... and apparently a couple of my relatives too.

Your mom sounds so sweet.

 

[Wrfortiscue]

I told my family and found out my brother and mother have tinnitus.

 

[Luman]

Tell them, since this is an extremely common condition. Most people with tinnitus never even mention it, because they have habituated. Tell them that it's annoying, but it gets better after time and becomes a non-issue.

 

[TrevorSanders]

I told my family and found out my brother and mother have tinnitus.

It is wild how many people have tinnitus. I found out 2 of my uncles and my grandpa have it.

 

[Rudedog205]

I told my family and found out my dad had it quite severely and basically every aunt and uncle also had it along with my grandpa and great grandpa on that side of the family had it to some degree. It turns out I was very destined to get it at some point.

 

[XoutofstepX]

I'm 36 and I've had very mild tinnitus for years and up until about 2 months ago it all of a sudden ramped up to where I can hear it 24/7. Mine is from years of punk and hardcore shows with zero ear protection.

I recently told my parents and they asked me why I never told them about this. Well, it's because it wasn't really affecting my life in any measurable way other than I slept with a box fan. Now that the tinnitus has crept into my daily life it did feel good to let them know.

Funny thing is I told my mom while I was in the Urgent Care ER for a high heart rate, chest pains and heart palpitations. Turns out I was probably just having a panic attack. Crazy shit! Never had one before! I need to talk to my parents more anyway...

Take care!