So I Borrowed Hearing Aids. It's the Hearing Loss That Bothers Me.

[jdjd09]

Are you a troll?? Do you have any friends in real life? How can they stand you??

No, I'm some random person on the internet with problems. I'm some random person that if he died tomorrow, you wouldn't care one way or another.

 

[jdjd09]

If I can go on a date wearing ear muffs the size of bowling balls I'm sure you can manage a date with a tiny hearing aid no?

Maybe it's different in the states when it comes to the"stigma"of hearing aids because that's not the case here in Ireland.Seriously Jd don't let Vanity be the deciding factor on whether you get a hearing aid or not.

The issue is I really don't even know if I need one or not. The "speech bubble" is still within my range. It's just the uneven hearing that annoys me that most. Also, don't hear conversations around me in the distance very well. But, yes, vanity is part of it. But, I feel that is just the way the culture is in USA, but I could be wrong.

 

[Telis]

much of this probably is mental as well.

Agree

 

[Andunwoody]

So let's turn this around ........ if you met a lovely young lady and then found out she wore a hearing aid, or had an artificial limb or a colostomy bag would you reject her????

 

[Zora]

umm...So, Im a girl
I am 20 and single. and if I met a guy I like I wouldnt care at all about hearing aids?! its like glasses for the ears lol

jd you'll find the one. and if she has issues with you having hearing aids, then shes simply not worth it. Dont worry

 

[Telis]

umm...So, Im a girl
I am 20 and single. and if I met a guy I like I wouldnt care at all about hearing aids?! its like glasses for the ears lol

"Woman demand perfection" that is one of the most stupid statements ever.
I dont want perfection. I want a man I share the same type of humor with, also someone who is chilled and funny. I like men with a little belly, I like men who are a little shy.
Im not perfect at all so why would he have to be?

jd you'll find the one. and if she has issues with you having hearing aids, then shes simply not worth it. Dont worry

I think you missed the point of my entire post!!!??? Did you you even read it? I thought I was being fairly blunt with the sarcasm.

 

[bill 112]

Zora this is JD

JD this is Zora

(Backs away slowly)

Let's nature run its course

 

[RB2014]

The issue is I really don't even know if I need one or not. The "speech bubble" is still within my range. It's just the uneven hearing that annoys me that most. Also, don't hear conversations around me in the distance very well. But, yes, vanity is part of it. But, I feel that is just the way the culture is in USA, but I could be wrong.

The uneven hearing is in your head. Right now this is something you have to get over. People that have uneven hearing adapt within a week to it and don't give it a second thought. One of my hearing aides was programmed wrong. For 5 days it bothered me. On day 6 my brain adapted and I didn't think about it at all. Day 7 and same and I felt normal again. I had them reprogrammed and then I got even hearing back again and it was nice, but it took another couple of days for my brain to adapt again. Some people can only hear out of one ear and they adapt as well.

You really have to get a grip on the situation or you are going to cause yourself other issues too. I got H from constant worrying/anxiety and not being in the right state of mind for several months. If you keep this up it will just affect your health more and more.

 

[Aaron123]

Let's recap.

You have mild to moderate hearing loss in one ear. The consensus here is that this does not *require* a hearing aid. However, it has affected your life to the point where you were actively suicidal. Given this, the consensus shifted to the belief that you should try a hearing aid.

So you did - borrowing one from someone else with this result

Well, I borrowed the hearing aids. The ringing is semi the same, but I can hear better in that ear. It's not perfect. Also, it's like my brain is readjusting to hearing. Like I feel semi like old self with them.

So, I will try to get my own hearing aids as these obviously aren't fitted for me.

But then

I really am still considering lllt therapy.

Nothing wrong with considering this. However, nothing is not guaranteed, and it will likely take several months to work if it is going to work. If it works, you might be happy with the result or you might be unhappy and decide that you wasted time and money.

If you can't do both, then you have to make a choice. Conceptually, either is fine, but one of them will help you now and one might help you in several months. The people who are trying LLLT seem to be pretty patient, and you do not. It seems clear that people here would say HA is the way to go.

You could even get a HA and save money for LLLT.

And then

I'm considering not getting hearing aids. There is too much of a stignma and even people on here aren't denying it.

Well if you look at product offerings, it seems that the stigma is not so much. Take a look at the color options
http://www.widex.com/en/hearing-aid...filterModel=3&colorPicker=0&colorGridPicker=0

Or, of course, as people mentioned you can get HAs that are essentially invisible.

You've also said/implied that you have Crohns. I dated someone with Crohns (Her first serious flare was in college and almost killed her. She had another during medical school and lost a semester. These were before I met her but were major surgeries with her in the hospital and with long recoveries.) As I am sure you know, this meant medicine, watching what we ate, planning for bathroom emergencies, and, in spite of the planning, sometimes having to deal with bathroom emergencies. It also meant the possibility of another surgery and recovery. If things work out with someone, that is likely to be a bigger issue than your hearing loss.

It also sounds like you were talking about your hearing on a first date. Do you talk about your Crohns on a first date? Any other medical conditions? Do you expect her to talk about whatever issues she might have on the first date?

A very reasonable course of action would be to not worry about dating until you have dealt with your issues with your hearing whether through hearing aids, therapy, or something else. You could always go out and be social without the pressure of "dating".

 

[jdjd09]

umm...So, Im a girl
I am 20 and single. and if I met a guy I like I wouldnt care at all about hearing aids?! its like glasses for the ears lol

jd you'll find the one. and if she has issues with you having hearing aids, then shes simply not worth it. Dont worry

Do you feel your unique in that thinking? Or would you say this is pretty common with other girls you know?

 

[jdjd09]

Zora this is JD

JD this is Zora

(Backs away slowly)

Let's nature run its course

I would date if we got along lol. I would like to live in Germany anyways.

 

[jdjd09]

The uneven hearing is in your head. Right now this is something you have to get over. People that have uneven hearing adapt within a week to it and don't give it a second thought. One of my hearing aides was programmed wrong. For 5 days it bothered me. On day 6 my brain adapted and I didn't think about it at all. Day 7 and same and I felt normal again. I had them reprogrammed and then I got even hearing back again and it was nice, but it took another couple of days for my brain to adapt again. Some people can only hear out of one ear and they adapt as well.

You really have to get a grip on the situation or you are going to cause yourself other issues too. I got H from constant worrying/anxiety and not being in the right state of mind for several months. If you keep this up it will just affect your health more and more.

Well, do you think I should get a hearing aid or just try to wait this out and adapt as many don't believe my hearing loss is that bad.

 

[jdjd09]

Let's recap.

You have mild to moderate hearing loss in one ear. The consensus here is that this does not *require* a hearing aid. However, it has affected your life to the point where you were actively suicidal. Given this, the consensus shifted to the belief that you should try a hearing aid.

So you did - borrowing one from someone else with this result





But then

Nothing wrong with considering this. However, nothing is not guaranteed, and it will likely take several months to work if it is going to work. If it works, you might be happy with the result or you might be unhappy and decide that you wasted time and money.

If you can't do both, then you have to make a choice. Conceptually, either is fine, but one of them will help you now and one might help you in several months. The people who are trying LLLT seem to be pretty patient, and you do not. It seems clear that people here would say HA is the way to go.

You could even get a HA and save money for LLLT.

And then


Well if you look at product offerings, it seems that the stigma is not so much. Take a look at the color options
http://www.widex.com/en/hearing-aid...filterModel=3&colorPicker=0&colorGridPicker=0

Or, of course, as people mentioned you can get HAs that are essentially invisible.

You've also said/implied that you have Crohns. I dated someone with Crohns (Her first serious flare was in college and almost killed her. She had another during medical school and lost a semester. These were before I met her but were major surgeries with her in the hospital and with long recoveries.) As I am sure you know, this meant medicine, watching what we ate, planning for bathroom emergencies, and, in spite of the planning, sometimes having to deal with bathroom emergencies. It also meant the possibility of another surgery and recovery. If things work out with someone, that is likely to be a bigger issue than your hearing loss.

It also sounds like you were talking about your hearing on a first date. Do you talk about your Crohns on a first date? Any other medical conditions? Do you expect her to talk about whatever issues she might have on the first date?

A very reasonable course of action would be to not worry about dating until you have dealt with your issues with your hearing whether through hearing aids, therapy, or something else. You could always go out and be social without the pressure of "dating".

I would do the lllt thing if I had some certainty it would make things better. Even if it looks months. I can be patient if I know something will happen, even if it takes a year.

 

[bill 112]

I would date if we got along lol. I would like to live in Germany anyways.

@Zora you heard the man,now the ball is in your hands

Can I be best man?

 

[Aaron123]

I would do the lllt thing if I had some certainty it would make things better.

Yes, and you can also try a hearing aid that is fitted for you. In that case you are *guaranteed* to know how that is going to work for you. You can then live your life, keep your job, etc and, if you want, research and save money for LLLT.

 

[RB2014]

Well, do you think I should get a hearing aid or just try to wait this out and adapt as many don't believe my hearing loss is that bad.

I don't think you need a hearing aid right now from what you have said about your hearing loss. It really is minimal. I think you are making a bigger deal about it than it really is and letting it affect you in negative ways.

Agreed with Aaron. Don't put any pressure on yourself to date right now. There is really no hurry to find anyone. So you date, get married, have kids. That's responsibility. Kid's will pretty much end the clubbing scene anyway. You will be home all the time changing diapers.

 

[jdjd09]

I don't think you need a hearing aid right now from what you have said about your hearing loss. It really is minimal. I think you are making a bigger deal about it than it really is and letting it affect you in negative ways.

Agreed with Aaron. Don't put any pressure on yourself to date right now. There is really no hurry to find anyone. So you date, get married, have kids. That's responsibility. Kid's will pretty much end the clubbing scene anyway. You will be home all the time changing diapers.

I don't want to club to be honest, if I can find a steady relationship in this stage of my life , that would be best. I have no interest in dating around right now.

If you think no hearing aid, then I think just going the lllt route may be what I do instead....but idk.

 

[glynis]

You can try a hearing aid if your loss was hard to adapt too.
My son's hearing loss is 40db and copes fine without a hearing aid but hard if gets a cold effecting his ears.
He's 21 now and has a lovely girlfriend and has a great job and a few months left at uni part time and will qualify as a architect.
This is my youngest son with hearing loss and epilepsy and girl friend.
He's holding a cake made from his 3 year old nephew my grandson...lots of love glynis

 

[PaulBe]

There is too much of a stigma and even people on here aren't denying it.

Well then you were never serious were you.

 

[jdjd09]

You can try a hearing aid if your loss was hard to adapt too.
My son's hearing loss is 40db and copes fine without a hearing aid but hard if gets a cold effecting his ears.
He's 21 now and has a lovely girlfriend and has a great job and a few months left at uni part time and will qualify as a architect.
This is my youngest son with hearing loss and epilepsy and girl friend.
He's holding a cake made from his 3 year old nephew my grandson...lots of love glynisView attachment 10193

Can I ask you whether they have T or not? Also, do you mind if you let me know at what frequencies there hearing loss is at? Or if you could ask them?

If it's too personal to post in threas, PM might be good.

Again, this is if you all don't mind sharing. It would be nice to have someone to relate to or realize that that lose isn't that bad.

 

[jdjd09]

Well then you were never serious were you.

Serious about what? I wore one and people on here and elsewhere have said I probably don't need one really at my hearing loss.

 

[glynis]

He as mild tinnitus after a operation to remove his ear bones at age 7.
At 16 he needed another operation at remove the mass that grew back and now is 21 is due in the next few months to have another oppetation as the mass has grew back again.
Called a cholesteatoma.
He has hearing loss at 40db and each operation risks more tinnitus and Hearing loss.
I have not saved his hearing test results but happy let you know his next ones.
Awaiting see his consultant and pre operation check before his operation...lots of love glynis

 

[jdjd09]

He as mild tinnitus after a operation to remove his ear bones at age 7.
At 16 he needed another operation at remove the mass that grew back and now is 21 is due in the next few months to have another oppetation as the mass has grew back again.
Called a cholesteatoma.
He has hearing loss at 40db and each operation risks more tinnitus and Hearing loss.
I have not saved his hearing test results but happy let you know his next ones.
Awaiting see his consultant and pre operation check before his operation...lots of love glynis

Please do as I would really like to know if you dont mind. Also, is this mass a risk to his health, or is this a routine procedure type thing where they have to remove this every 5-10 years? Just wondering as I never heard of this. Is it common?

 

[glynis]

It is not cancer but spreads like it and could go to his brain.
They have to remove all the mass as will spread so now faces a third operation to his left ear...
Dreading him getting more tinnitus than hearing loss.
He's so happy all the time and I'm sure would be happy pm you.
He's 21 and my eldest son 28....lots of love glynis

 

[PaulBe]

Serious about what? I wore one and people on here and elsewhere have said I probably don't need one really at my hearing loss.

What does your own mind tell you?

 

[jdjd09]

What does your own mind tell you?

Idk honestly, as I'm not in much position to make a decision at this point. If there was no stigma then I might wear one. But, also, the eneveness is all that bothers me. If I had this level of hearing loss in both ears I would probably move on.[/QUOTE]

 

[jdjd09]

It is not cancer but spreads like it and could go to his brain.
They have to remove all the mass as will spread so now faces a third operation to his left ear...
Dreading him getting more tinnitus than hearing loss.
He's so happy all the time and I'm sure would be happy pm you.
He's 21 and my eldest son 28....lots of love glynis

How loud is his tinnitus now? Can he hear it over everything?

 

[PaulBe]

But, also, the uneveness is all that bothers me.

That's the whole thing about hearing aids. Properly fitted and customized they are meant to address exactly that. I just don't think its as bad as all that for you as you still clearly have other active priorities.

You probably didn't need to go down the imminent suicide path here though. There's enough people already who follow through on the threat, and as cries for help go, you would likely have got the same advice without the theatrics. Just get on with your life...and really, keep the hearing aid thing in mind. In a few years when your priorities change you may revisit the idea.

 

[Telis]

Idk honestly, as I'm not in much position to make a decision at this point. If there was no stigma then I might wear one. But, also, the eneveness is all that bothers me. If I had this level of hearing loss in both ears I would probably move on.

[/QUOTE]
What do you mean move on? Wouldn't bother you? You could always wear one ear plug with a small attenuation in your good ear to match the other ear? Have you tried that? I'm sure with your loss you would still hear just fine and be more balanced out.

 

[jdjd09]

That's the whole thing about hearing aids. Properly fitted and customized they are meant to address exactly that. I just don't think its as bad as all that for you as you still clearly have other active priorities.

You probably didn't need to go down the imminent suicide path here though. There's enough people already who follow through on the threat, and as cries for help go, you would likely have got the same advice without the theatrics. Just get on with your life...and really, keep the hearing aid thing in mind. In a few years when your priorities change you may revisit the idea.

There were and are not theatrics. I did act on this post a couple days, but I am not going into details of that. There are people on the forum who know more details about that. This post wasn't started with a false claim, I was being honest.