Member- Jul 18, 2015
- 196
- Tinnitus Since
- 2015
- Cause of Tinnitus
- not sure, but probably acoustic trauma
I am very selective about what information I absorb nowadays. I used to read all the 'you can be the master of your destiny', 'anything is possible', Anthony Robbins, De Martini et al, trash.
This stuff sounds all good in theory, but when you try it out, you meet with reality. And reality has teeth. None of these 'authors' really live by what they preach, it's all theory and no practice, plus most of them are actually untruthful or even dishonest.
Nowadays I try to be very scientific-minded and use critical thinking. I need to, as there have always been quacks and charlatans out there, ready to make a quick buck by taking advantage of the vulnerability of people who are going through grief, illness, or other real life, really tough challenges, not just something as mundane like a break up with the girlfriend or boyfriend.
But I have found a couple of good books. Yes, only a couple, out of the dozens I have read over the years. One is 'How to stop worrying and start living' by Dale Carnegie. I recommend the audiobook version, it's really good, and I don't have as much patience anymore for reading text.
The reason why this Carnegie book is really good, is that it tells of people who have stumbled on some serious s**t, and how they dealt about it. Most stories are very interesting. Since reading that book years ago, I found myself coming back to it, and that certainly happened since my tinnitus onset.
No dumb, 'psyche me up' Anthony Robbins cheesy trash here. It can seem a bit old-fashioned, but I think that as self-help book it runs circles to most others.
Another one I picked up this week is 'Facing The Storm' by Ray Owen. I can certainly recommend it. It's written by a psychologist who has met with people who faced huge challenges, such as terminal illness patients. I have been waiting to find a book like this, truly it was just the ticket for me. I wish there was an audiobook version, but there isn't at the moment, so I am taking the time to read it.
Lastly, I am also reading memories of Holocaust survivors, such as the ones by Elie Wiesel or the one who Roman Polansky made a film about (The Pianist).
You may want to try any or all of these. They helped me, but then again we are all different. I think the first two books are really worth having. As for Holocaust's survivors, well that's a bit different.
But when I remind myself of these stories, I also remind myself saying to me years ago, after I told him I was going through a bad time, 'You may be going through bad times, you are right. But unfortunately there's always someone going through something worst'.
I have never forgotten these words. It's hard to explain. Of course I am always, and truly, saddened to think that someone has gone through this or that terrible experience, worse than mine. But at the same time, it's like a voice inside says: 'Your life may be s**t right now, but what these other poor devils you've read about in that book, would say? '.
It's not something I can really talk about. It's like some kind of inner understanding that it's difficult to put into words.
Oh, and if you buy any books from Amazon, don't forget to use this forum's link, which allows the forum to get a small commission from Amazon. It won't cost you anything!
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http://www.amazon.com/?tag=tinntalk-20
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This stuff sounds all good in theory, but when you try it out, you meet with reality. And reality has teeth. None of these 'authors' really live by what they preach, it's all theory and no practice, plus most of them are actually untruthful or even dishonest.
Nowadays I try to be very scientific-minded and use critical thinking. I need to, as there have always been quacks and charlatans out there, ready to make a quick buck by taking advantage of the vulnerability of people who are going through grief, illness, or other real life, really tough challenges, not just something as mundane like a break up with the girlfriend or boyfriend.
But I have found a couple of good books. Yes, only a couple, out of the dozens I have read over the years. One is 'How to stop worrying and start living' by Dale Carnegie. I recommend the audiobook version, it's really good, and I don't have as much patience anymore for reading text.
The reason why this Carnegie book is really good, is that it tells of people who have stumbled on some serious s**t, and how they dealt about it. Most stories are very interesting. Since reading that book years ago, I found myself coming back to it, and that certainly happened since my tinnitus onset.
No dumb, 'psyche me up' Anthony Robbins cheesy trash here. It can seem a bit old-fashioned, but I think that as self-help book it runs circles to most others.
Another one I picked up this week is 'Facing The Storm' by Ray Owen. I can certainly recommend it. It's written by a psychologist who has met with people who faced huge challenges, such as terminal illness patients. I have been waiting to find a book like this, truly it was just the ticket for me. I wish there was an audiobook version, but there isn't at the moment, so I am taking the time to read it.
Lastly, I am also reading memories of Holocaust survivors, such as the ones by Elie Wiesel or the one who Roman Polansky made a film about (The Pianist).
You may want to try any or all of these. They helped me, but then again we are all different. I think the first two books are really worth having. As for Holocaust's survivors, well that's a bit different.
But when I remind myself of these stories, I also remind myself saying to me years ago, after I told him I was going through a bad time, 'You may be going through bad times, you are right. But unfortunately there's always someone going through something worst'.
I have never forgotten these words. It's hard to explain. Of course I am always, and truly, saddened to think that someone has gone through this or that terrible experience, worse than mine. But at the same time, it's like a voice inside says: 'Your life may be s**t right now, but what these other poor devils you've read about in that book, would say? '.
It's not something I can really talk about. It's like some kind of inner understanding that it's difficult to put into words.
Oh, and if you buy any books from Amazon, don't forget to use this forum's link, which allows the forum to get a small commission from Amazon. It won't cost you anything!
US link:
http://www.amazon.com/?tag=tinntalk-20
UK link:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/?tag=tinntalk-21
. I hope I will habituate 100% I thought I already was there but the last few weeks are major drawbacks
