Elsewhere @R. David posted [in part]:
And i cannot stress this enough. My tinnitus was never the problem. My problem was my reaction to the tinnitus.
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I happen to agree with R. David wholeheartedly, but the concept can be confusing to newbies (and to some not-so-newbies!) so I thought I'd take a few minutes to explore it.
Is the problem tinnitus, or is the problem the reaction?
In my opinion the difficulty lies not only in that there are good arguments on both sides of the coin, but also in the fact that both positions can actually be proven!
Those who feel that the problem is tinnitus have a very easy proof. They will say that without tinnitus there would be nothing to react to! And they'd be 100% correct. The real world challenge for those folks lies in finding a way to eliminate or at least mitigate their tinnitus. And that is a mighty challenge indeed. Others may have a different experience, but to the best of my knowledge, there has yet to be found a way to predictably lessen or eliminate tinnitus. I know I certainly can't do a thing about mine!
Those who feel that the problem is reaction also have an easy proof. They can point to the fact that the reason folks with tinnitus seek help is that their ears are ringing and in some way or another it makes them feel bad. "Feeling bad" can run the entire gamut - from being mildly curious and concerned about its significance to being totally incapacitated by it. Well, if people did not react to their tinnitus, they wouldn't feel bad. In fact they couldn't possibly feel bad – because feeling bad is a reaction! Indeed, I personally know of a number of folks with very soft tinnitus who can barely function (i.e., they have a huge problem) and a number of folks with very loud tinnitus who are not bothered by it in the least (i.e., they have no problem at all.) The challenge for those in the "reaction" camp lies in the fact that you cannot simply will yourself not to react to your tinnitus. It requires time, and it requires strategy.
So who's right – those who claim that the problem is tinnitus, or those who claim the problem is reaction? Since both positions can be proven, I do not see this as an issue of who is right and who is wrong. Rather, it is a question of what you believe and what you can do about it.
Here's to finding lasting meaningful relief - whatever path you take!
Dr. Stephen Nagler
Well put initial post, Dr. That is the gist of my supportive position to newbies. Like you say, it's not easy to get the point across, that the lack of reaction is key. Giving my own experience seems to help by putting a person in the thick of it who has been dealing with T since 1972. Through just about every form of therapy there is, I only came to a sense of progress when I chose to learn a relaxation technique which freed me from panic and allowed me once again to think positively, not fatally, not that T can cause eventual death, but it sure felt like it at times.
David