People with tinnitus need support - all of them.
There is no question about that - it is not nice.
I would like to raise an issue that bothers me, and others like me.
The disparity in the severity of the tinnitus experience is incredibly wide.
My own tinnitus was super mild for 22 years - but then, following a hateful onslaught of noise created by a 'friend,' all hell broke loose.
I was living in the worst kind of hell that anybody, let alone a successful professional musician, could imagine.
Yes - I wanted to die.
I prayed that I would die that very night.
I even worked out the only way I could do it.
Being married to the most beautiful angel that this life has ever produced, I hung on, with her help, and looked for ways to cope - if that were even a possibility.
I re-invented my previous method of meditation, now geared towards my new predicament, and found a way to make it work for me.
Now the point I would dearly love to make here is this.
It is lovely to have achieved some degree of success with this 'ogre' sitting just above our shoulder, and then to share it, with the hope of perhaps helping others.
I do this myself with regard to healing Bruxism, recommending ways to relax, and ways to approach meditation.
However, there is one aspect to this which can be very frustrating and annoying.
The "I did it - and you can do it too," statement with which we are constantly bombarded is an insult to the intelligence of those severe sufferers who are coming to terms with something very much more severe.
Reading such words is akin to sticking a bayonet in their ear and twisting it for good effect.
"I did it this way" is fine - no argument.
"And you can too," is an affront which I will never accept.
Your tinnitus, my well-meaning friend
IS NOT MY TINNITUS.
I always confront such puerile comments, and am coming to think of myself as
'The Sloane Ranger." (I live in London.)
(By the way, I've no idea who this oddball to my right is......)
There is no question about that - it is not nice.
I would like to raise an issue that bothers me, and others like me.
The disparity in the severity of the tinnitus experience is incredibly wide.
My own tinnitus was super mild for 22 years - but then, following a hateful onslaught of noise created by a 'friend,' all hell broke loose.
I was living in the worst kind of hell that anybody, let alone a successful professional musician, could imagine.
Yes - I wanted to die.
I prayed that I would die that very night.
I even worked out the only way I could do it.
Being married to the most beautiful angel that this life has ever produced, I hung on, with her help, and looked for ways to cope - if that were even a possibility.
I re-invented my previous method of meditation, now geared towards my new predicament, and found a way to make it work for me.
Now the point I would dearly love to make here is this.
It is lovely to have achieved some degree of success with this 'ogre' sitting just above our shoulder, and then to share it, with the hope of perhaps helping others.
I do this myself with regard to healing Bruxism, recommending ways to relax, and ways to approach meditation.
However, there is one aspect to this which can be very frustrating and annoying.
The "I did it - and you can do it too," statement with which we are constantly bombarded is an insult to the intelligence of those severe sufferers who are coming to terms with something very much more severe.
Reading such words is akin to sticking a bayonet in their ear and twisting it for good effect.
"I did it this way" is fine - no argument.
"And you can too," is an affront which I will never accept.
Your tinnitus, my well-meaning friend
IS NOT MY TINNITUS.
I always confront such puerile comments, and am coming to think of myself as
'The Sloane Ranger." (I live in London.)
(By the way, I've no idea who this oddball to my right is......)