Wedding Next Week

[amymilly]

So next week is my big day.

Unfortunately, the stress and anxiety about making my ears worse is ruining my excitement for the wedding.

I have purchased some ACS ear plugs from boots hearing care. Reducing 25 decibels.

I'm wondering if anyone has advice. For the party. In helping me protect my ears as much. But still trying to enjoy myself. Even though I can imagine the entire night I'll be just worrying about my ears. I just don't want it to ruin my day.

I'm currently going through a volume increase at the minute. Which sucks. I just can't bear to think about making this worse. For a year now I've been to no overly loud social events. So this is a big deal for me.

Thanks guys as always

 

[RicoS]

I had the same choice to make for a wedding when I just had T and H.... I canceled it and my friend understood. I came by the day after. It was a good friend of mine and he understood. I did not want to damage my ears more because they hired a DJ to play the music in a small room so even with earplugs it would still be to loud I guess.

Just tell them what you are going through and if it are real friends they will understand and if not ....you should not be there anyway

 

[JoyBenz007]

Maybe you can speak with the dj about volume and also keep the speakers away from you...I got married and I was ok! Best of luck to you and try not to let it ruin your day, keep your ear buds in for the reception!

 

[Starlord]

@RicoS I think you misunderstood. This is HER wedding.

 

[amymilly]

I had the same choice to make for a wedding when I just had T and H.... I canceled it and my friend understood. I came by the day after. It was a good friend of mine and he understood. I did not want to damage my ears more because they hired a DJ to play the music in a small room so even with earplugs it would still be to loud I guess.

Just tell them what you are going through and if it are real friends they will understand and if not ....you should not be there anyway

It's my wedding day lol I have to be there.

 

[amymilly]

Maybe you can speak with the dj about volume and also keep the speakers away from you...I got married and I was ok! Best of luck to you and try not to let it ruin your day, keep your ear buds in for the reception!

Yes I'm waiting for the dj to call me. I was going to tell him about the volume. I can't have it booming. It's just shit how this effects everything. Did you have loud music at your wedding? X

 

[JoyBenz007]

Yes I'm waiting for the dj to call me. I was going to tell him about the volume. I can't have it booming. It's just shit how this effects everything. Did you have loud music at your wedding? X

It is girl, trust me I know! I tried to make the best out of it...and I had fun! And yes we had loud music but this was before knowing about this forum, I didn't even think to ask to lower the music just a bit. How did u get your T?

 

[Starlord]

@amymilly I got T back in late Feb 2016 and was invited to my two best friend's wedding at the beginning of July 2016. That was a short 4.5 months after I got T and mine was reactive back then and I also had H back then (although very low at that point). But I was not going to miss this day.

The ceremony was fine, but I was a bit nervous about the reception. I did bring ear plugs just in case and only had to use them during a few louder songs. The thing is I thought that I was going to be the hermit in the the corner of the room, but I wasn't. At the start of the wedding there was a lady that a friend of mine pointed out and she said to me "I think that lady will be the life of the party...the wild one" and although that was true I didn't expect myself to give that lady a run for her money. I chatted it up with strangers. That same lady and I danced and she was also asking me if I was single and saying how perfect I was for her daughter back home haha (funny story is that I'm gay). I had good food.. a few beers...a number of glasses of Chardonnay (a few more than I'd like to admit). Danced with the bride. Danced with the brides mom haha she's a lovely lady. Got the shy people to come out on the dance floor (when normally thats me). Chatted it up with the groom. I had a great time.

There's only a few minimal things you can do (keep distance from the speakers; ask the DJ to monitor volume...after all you are paying him...maybe work out a secret sign when its too loud between you and the DJ; wear ear plugs and lucky for you you have long hair that can cover your ears up)...the rest is beyond your control. The thing about the reception is that there are many phases to it. So your ears do get lots of breaks when you're eating, toasts, when the bride and groom have their little show, slow songs mixed into the playlist. And if you ever need a moment, grab some fresh air. Bring a friend or family member outside and just talk and catch up in some quiet.

You will have a beautiful day. Your day! And we are all expecting you to post a picture haha jk That's optional. Hope that we are all able to alleviate some of your fears and anxiety. You've taken the necessary precautions, so just enjoy yourself with friends and family and your man (finally husband status). Cheers to the bride!

 

[Starlord]

ohh I forgot to mention my ears were no worse the day after the wedding nor even now. Still have T and some sensitivity, yet things are better than they were a year ago. The thing that helped that day of the wedding was letting go and having fun. Maybe a drink or two.

 

[Starlord]

also about the DJ thing...there's no rule that the volume has to stay the same throughout the entire wedding, so when he notices that the next song is louder, then he can act accordingly and turn it down some and adjust again after. Maybe as things are set up in the reception hall before people are allowed to enter you can meet with the DJ as he's testing equipment and play some test songs to determine volume limits. And to have this be as accurate as possible, stand where you think you will be dancing on the dance floor.

 

[Kolisar]

@amymilly , Congratulations! Try not to worry, this is your big day, don't let worry about your tinnitus interfere.

My son got married a little over a year ago. the music was loud, but I survived. I kept away from the speakers and stepped away from the reception room a few times to give my ears a break.

Your earplugs will help, and I am certain the DJ will cooperate, it is YOUR wedding after all, weddings are usually all about the bride, and since you are the (or one) bride, your happiness should be the top priority for anyone who is hired to provide a service for your wedding.

It is easer said than done, and much easier for me to say it as it is not my wedding, but try not to worry. Your wedding will be beautiful, you and your guests will have a great time, and when it is over you will probably laugh about how worried you were.

Again, congratulations on your pending nuptials. Now stop worrying and enjoy your day

 

[amymilly]

It is girl, trust me I know! I tried to make the best out of it...and I had fun! And yes we had loud music but this was before knowing about this forum, I didn't even think to ask to lower the music just a bit. How did u get your T?

I got tinnitus from a gig and perforated ear drum. Oh I'm glad you enjoyed it!! How did you get yours ? Xx

 

[amymilly]

also about the DJ thing...there's no rule that the volume has to stay the same throughout the entire wedding, so when he notices that the next song is louder, then he can act accordingly and turn it down some and adjust again after. Maybe as things are set up in the reception hall before people are allowed to enter you can meet with the DJ as he's testing equipment and play some test songs to determine volume limits. And to have this be as accurate as possible, stand where you think you will be dancing on the dance floor.

Aww thanks for the positive support. It's nice having a little lift when things like this get you down! The only thing is me having the stand by the speaker for the first dance.
I don't want to ruin everyone's night being a party pooper so that's why Iv had the dj. I'm 25 after all. All my friends are my age. And it's awful enough having to miss out on clubbing now. .

 

[glynis]

@good luck for your big day Amymilly,
I'm sure it will go down wonderfully for you.
Just keep plugs handy and maybe some relaxing time out for a few quiet minutes to help with stress on the day.
Will be lovely hear how your big day went.
Love glynis

 

[Julien87]

I'm sure you'll have a wonderful wedding, the music doesn't have to be loud to be enjoyed It's great that you are the one who can decide about the volume
I think it would be a good idea to speak a bit more about your concern to your DJ so that he can perhaps use a setup of speakers that will be less "dangerous" for you

Have fun and congratulations

 

[RicoS]

It's my wedding day lol I have to be there.

You made me laugh so hard.... And yes you should be there hahaha but make it the best day you can and perhaps turn the music a bit softer. Most of the people will say music at parties is sometimes way to loud. Put it on a level you at least still can talk to each other...
I hope you have the best day of your life and not let T ruin it.... Ask the DJ to put a track of white noise behind every song so it at least mask your T a bit ;-)

 

[RicoS]

@RicoS I think you misunderstood. This is HER wedding.

Yes I did hahaha but it was funny reading it when I saw you and her telling it to me... At least it brought a smile on my face instead of being grumpy about T ;-)

 

[Starlord]

Maybe the DJ and speakers can be positioned farther from the dance floor if theres time. Although I dont know the floor plan or if its late for these adjustments. If anything, I'm sure the first dance is more of a softer song. Again like Julien has said, it doesn't have to be loud to be enjoyed. And the guests won't even notice.

As for clubbing, most people fizz out on clubbing after the age of 25. So I think you'll be alright. Now you can focus on traveling with your husband. Go to countries you've never been that are completely different from what you're used to. I recommend Barcelona, Prague, Seoul or Tokyo. So much better than clubbing. Besides, when you have rugrats you'll be begging to even have a moment to yourself let alone go clubbing.

 

[Candy]

Your wedding, your rules...ask him to play at a reasonable volume and in between have soft background noise...
Who needs loud noise anyway!? Don't worry about others enjoying it as they won't even notice the volume.
Use plugs and bring spares...ask your bridesmaids to check you are wearing them so you don't get carried away and you've done all you can. You are bound to be anxious and it may be facilitating the spike, who knows.

Enjoy every second @amymilly x

 

[Sam Bridge]

I had to attend my mums 60th party on Saturday which was held in a hall with a DJ so a similar set up to a wedding reception I suppose. I was quite nervous about it and I stayed outside for the first few hours - it was okay as there was a patio directly next to the hall. For the last 1.5 hours i put my plugs in and went inside, still felt quite loud but by that time I had a few beers and went for it, stayed away from the speakers. I see it as a small victory.

 

[Mario martz]

First of all congratulations!!!
Second try not to worry a lot, its your big day and you are going to enjoy it
i used to get scared about volume too, but know that you have control over this.
talk to the dj, keep things below 85 db (or just try too), keep away from the speakers!
and enjoy your night <3

 

[Bill Bauer]

I have purchased some ACS ear plugs from boots hearing care. Reducing 25 decibels.

If you come by the office of any audiologists, they will likely have ear plugs with 29-31 dB noise reduction rating. Four of five decibels make a difference.

You can also try to ensure that the music is quiet, that you are sitting far from the speakers, and that the guests don't raise their voices...

 

[Alue]

Maybe you can speak with the dj about volume and also keep the speakers away from you...I got married and I was ok! Best of luck to you and try not to let it ruin your day, keep your ear buds in for the reception!

This. It's your wedding. Tell the DJ to keep it low volume. If he refuses or doesn't listen, fire them!

 

[jjflyman]

So next week is my big day.

Unfortunately, the stress and anxiety about making my ears worse is ruining my excitement for the wedding.

I have purchased some ACS ear plugs from boots hearing care. Reducing 25 decibels.

I'm wondering if anyone has advice. For the party. In helping me protect my ears as much. But still trying to enjoy myself. Even though I can imagine the entire night I'll be just worrying about my ears. I just don't want it to ruin my day.

I'm currently going through a volume increase at the minute. Which sucks. I just can't bear to think about making this worse. For a year now I've been to no overly loud social events. So this is a big deal for me.

Thanks guys as always

IMO
Wear you ear plugs and enjoy your day.
Your eardrum should heal in time and your T should fade away, it will just take time

 

[Sam Bridge]

IMO
Wear you ear plugs and enjoy your day.
Your eardrum should heal in time and your T should fade away, it will just take time

She has been a member since April 2016, i think her ear drum has healed by now lol.

 

[Jordyn]

i just got married too!!! i brought plugs and totally forgot to wear them. i even had my hair done in such a way where they would be hard to see even though they are already discreet. anyway i didn't get a spike thankfully - i was lucky though - be sure to protect your ears!! enjoy every minute of the day!

 

[lolkas]

@amymilly first of all - damn you pretty and congratulations.

I own ACS custom earplugs - they are greqt however, try not to talk or do so quietly without raising voice. Reason for it - occlusion effect. I have been in situation where i wore them and was speaking loud and stuff - my ears would hurt and cause me a spike.

I had to figure something out and after discovering that occlusion effect is what it is i ditched using them at "social" events, basically whenever i know i gotta talk.

Long story short, i figured out that foam earplugs don't have this issue because they can go very close to eardrum and minimize occlusion effect to "non existent". Problem with foamies - they tend to protrude a bit from your ears and peoole see them but, i found solution - i take typical skin collored foam earplug (32 DB NNR soft ones) and cut abit less then 1/4 so that no one could see them once they are in (must be inserted properly). If all good - you wont feel any pressure points, especially eardrum.

It works very well for me, sure does provide more then 26 DB NNR and no one can ever see them. (No problems in Sport Bars, open-style clubs and pubs). If i know i have to go to sports game or whatever - i use them first, but if i feel like it might be a bit louder then i feel comfortable (what-not use DB meter app on the phone) and switch to all-in full foam eqrplugs.

P.S.

Keep tweezers with you, that is the only way you can get them out. Hope you will enjoy wedding!

P.S.S.

Sorry i did not catch that it is yoir weddign at first )) LULZ!

 

[Raphael7713]

I have the same choice to make in approx 2 weeks time. My cousin is getting married.
I will wear earplugs and see from there. I think with protection your alright.

 

[Jomo]

just make sure the bass is low....the volume wont matter as long as the bass is low. best of luck and enjoy your big day. mine is in october and nothing is going to stop me.

 

[vermillion]

just make sure the bass is low....the volume wont matter as long as the bass is low. best of luck and enjoy your big day. mine is in october and nothing is going to stop me.

Does this bass dangers apply for air traveling and driving a car as well?