What Kind of Work Do You Do? How Do You Manage It with Your Tinnitus?

[Drone Draper]

I don't know why I assumed you were a man. Interesting that men are more likely to leave their partner. I think my girlfriend in particular is not someone who is a "ride or die" personality. When I had a serious professional crisis a few years ago she didn't offer me much support, and much like with this, said she didn't want to hear about it. I kind of feel like this has somewhat shown her to be a fairweather friend, if you will.

I feel like tinnitus has given me more of a "memento mori" understanding of life. So many people appear to be living some sort of eternal life fantasy, where they go through the motions of jobs they are ambivalent towards, making ok, but not good money. I was like that for a while. I think I realised that it wasn't any way to live life a few years ago, but T has really brought it front of mind. We only have 1 life, it's not one that should be wasted.

 

[Christophe_85]

It is very stressful, or at least it definitely was. I've been phoning it in, like I said, basically showing up and going through the motions. The job seems meaningless to me at the moment.

I would like to change it, for sure, but unfortunately most jobs in this city don't pay very well. I was very lucky to get this one as it pays really well. I would like to move to my home city where my family lives and have a less taxing job. That would mean leaving my girlfriend who is native to where I currently live, which is a major stumbling block. However, I am increasingly of the opinion that I am not much of a boyfriend at the moment and she would be better without me. She told me the tinnitus is all I care about and talk about.That's not entirely true, but not entirely untrue, either. I've only just got T two months ago, so everything feels very fresh and raw. Maybe I will be able to habituate eventually, I sure hope so, but I'm still optimistic I can hear silence again one day, either through scientific advancement or neuroplasticity. Either way, I can't imagine I am much of a life partner just now.

Relaxation is tough. I used to use ASMR videos, but I can't listen to anything anymore thanks to T - even quiet music seems to spike it. I've downloaded several apps at the behest of my audiologist, I think I'll try to use one of them like Calm.

It seems hard for you to cope with your job and your personal life... I understand for the relationship and the complication that T brings through our relationships...

I think T is too complicated to get cured... This is too inside our heads, but this is my opinion and I know it is not a positive one...

And if you move back to your old place where your family is, would it be possible if you are not with this woman anymmore ?

 

[Drone Draper]

It's a total mindfuck, to be honest. I am spending half my days thinking positively, like Neuromod and FX-322 could be of great help, the other half wishing I would just go to sleep and not wake up. I don't want to do any self harm, just to clarify.

My family lives in a different country, my girlfriend wouldn't move with me, she's from here and only speaks English. To be honest I think she'd be better with a less troubled person than me.

Btw, you're in Switzerland, one of the few countries that uses tinnex (caroverine). Have you ever considered getting it prescribed?

 

[Jack Straw]

I work for a bank as a marketing manager

Now the Don Draper name / picture makes sense!

 

[Drone Draper]

Ha. I can assure you I'm only half as good looking, but twice as witty as the real DD.

 

[zhiyuan]

I got high-pitched T(7000hz maybe) and it can't be masked by the vent noise in my quiet office(I am a software intern in a IT company right now), so disturbing me a lot. I had hearing loss in ultra high freq. A quiet working env would be great to my hearing but it means the T is getting more remarkable. I want to know does anyone have high pitched T and work in a quiet office and finally get through it?

 

[Allan1967]

I was a police officer back in the 1990s when I got my tinnitus. Living in London and facking hated it.

I was severely depressed when it happened and ended up choosing to take ill health retirement because of it.

On reflection I should have taken a career break or gone longterm sick. But I retired and moved back home north. On the upside I met my wife and we went on to have a family.

On the downside had I stayed I would have been retired now at 51.

After working part time and trying to reinvent myself I eventually fell into health and safety.

Now I work in a large open plan office and it gets right on my tit for several reasons. Aside from the effect it has on my tinnitus people just annoy me.

I mean... who shuffles wads of paper nice and neatly then throws it in the trash? WTF is that about?