went out with my friends last night, trying to have a good night despite this T. Went into a club with ear plugs in and several people laughed at me, some people even tried to take them out and started touching them. It really made me feel like crap. I miss being able to go out properly and have fun.
I'll never meet people with ear plugs in.
Sorry, stupid I know but needed a rant. I just don't get why people have no understanding about people's problems.
There is nothing stupid. Unfortunately there's lots of c***s around. I should not say this, but this bullying is a major reason why some people flip out and go kill people at random. The US school shootouts have a lot to do with bullying. You hear lots of goody-goody talk like 'ignore them', 'don't worry', etc but the reality is, you have to learn to deal with people like these. Never respond disproportionately to some idiots, i.e. if someone says something stupid, you don't run them over with your car. If someone laughs at you, you laugh at them. If someone touches you, warn them ONCE, then hit them.
I promise, you will see people messing less and less with you. I too, like you, have always been the guy who tries to avoid conflict, and the reality is, most of us don't do it because of fear. In my case, some people found out at their expense, and I tell you, I will NEVER regret it, I only regret the times I did nothing.
Take up martial arts or boxing, learn to defend yourself, learn to talk back at people. Don't keep it inside. Learn about laws, know what you can do and what you can't. Don't break any laws, ever. Do not ever hit someone without warning, unless you are being attacked (and someone who touches you to insult you, can easily be classed as that). But don't let anyone mess with you. People do it in many different ways: with put downs, etc. Always respect everyone, but if someone messes with you, give them a piece of your mind. It doesn't matter if they are men, women, children, old people.
The reason why I say all this is, I too believed that 'forgive and forget' was good advice, but it never worked for me. I never forget anything, be it good or bad.
Learn to respond appropriately. In the book by psychologist Paul Hauck , 'How to stand up for yourself' (a book that I recommend, it costs peanuts on Amazon), the author states: 'If someone touches you, fight like a wildcat'.
This author is telling the truth. Be wary of advice like 'ignore them', what will happen is that all these negative experiences with haunt you later. You don't deserve that. You have the right to do and say as you please, for the simple reason that you aren't limiting anybody's freedom in any ways. So if someone messes with YOUR freedom and self respect, show them what you are made of! But don't do anything disproportionate, always use your brains and your knowledge. Emotions can be very dangerous. Good luck.
most people I seem to meet clubbing are all morons anyway hahaha. Interestingly I did see another person with plugs in, perhaps they had T too.
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It usually goes down after a day, but this time it didn't and I can't really link it to anything. I did start playing arco double bass regularly, but that isn't too loud. Maybe it's related to my aching neck muscles, I'm not sure. I'm trying to adjust and pick things up again after a not-so-productive week.
