Maybe so. But how can you discover the answer to that question for yourself if your basic premise going in is that there is no way in the world you can possibly learn to live with it in harmony??!!
that's a catch-22 if I've ever heard one. The problem is, I don't really 'get' how other people think about this stuff. Maybe it was my obsession with
Alice in wonderland when I was very small, maybe it was some of the more interesting chemicals I ingested when I was slightly older, or some of the more bizarre meditative and contemplative arts I've dabbled in since... but my whole view of reality is that my own ontology is
unbelievably malleable, plastic and arbitrary. So, when confronted with a severe problem, part of my gut reaction involves assessing the degree to which I think I can make a mold of a person without that problem, and then somehow pour myself into that mold.
I don't actually know how feasible/true that is; I think it gives me a sort of whimsical and not very scientific view of reality. I don't know to what extent other people are like that, or not. Clearly there are limits, because I'm obviously not completely at peace with my tinnitus even this far along with it... but I've recognized that there are times when I am upset at the nature of the world, and at those times I am upset with my tinnitus. There are other times when I am in love with and amused by the world, and at those times, I am not upset with my tinnitus, I even have little songs that I sing to it when I find myself thinking about it, and the act of doing so makes me smile. So, this tells me that for
me, tinnitus distress has to do with a whole ton of factors that don't have a lot to do with the tinnitus itself. And, again, I don't know that this is necessarily the case for everyone.
edit: I should also say, I am equally unsure how true the last paragraph would be, if my tinnitus suddenly increased 300% and was so loud that it drowned out music, people's voices, my cats purring, etc. Then I would be hearing impaired, which would put me in a different situation than I am in now.
On the other hand, I also know that when I'm really freaked out about my tinnitus, it gets
louder, and even if this is "psychological" I'm fairly confident that a fMRI would show increased auditory activity compared to not being in that state. So, feedback loops in all things, yes, this is the nature of the universe, everything is the same thing if you keep cutting it into smaller bits.