Worried About Getting Into a Relationship/Dating

[Rachiejo]

I'm a bit worried and nervous about dating and getting into a relationship with this condition! I haven't actually been in a proper relationship since I got tinnitus which is about 2 years ago and I think it's cause of fear of rejection and telling them about it.

I know it's probably silly to worry about this but it's difficult at the age of 23 to tell someone who you might be interested in. I tend to sleep without any background noise at night but I worry what they will think if I might struggle sleeping and have to turn background noise on or wear earplugs if we went anywhere with loud music.

It would be so much easier to meet someone with tinnitus who actually understands what it's like! Has anyone met someone after having tinnitus and how soon & how did you tell them you had the condition?

 

[Street Spirit]

It's a valid worry imo..though I think you will meet someone

 

[Street Spirit]

millions of people have T!

 

[Rachiejo]

@Street Spirit I hope so at some point! I just worry about telling them. I guess I don't have to tell them straight away

 

[marqualler]

@Rachiejo Just my opinion because I got tinnitus after I have been married for a while, but, I tend to think that most people wouldn't find tinnitus a deterrent to dating at all. In fact I would find someone with tinnitus to be a desirable trait because I would understand that that person has things in his or her life that they are dealing with and dealing with well. I have a lot more empathy for other people now with tinnitus and so likely that is another desirable trait for someone dating you. It's the same thing really with any type of personal worry about what others will think and I think most people find that those internal worries are not at all concerns to other people. I know that I have met people lately who I later found out had some level of hearing loss and it didn't affect my opinion of them at all--in fact it gave me an even greater respect and admiration for that person.

Good luck!

 

[Asian]

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Read this. Maybe it will change how you think.

 

[Luca]

I always bring up the beep sooner or later, since either party can be all other kinds of crazy this should be the least of your worries.

Some people will just change the subject because they dont even know what it is and be like "OK", some people will ask you about it, and some people will tell you that they have that aswell and don't even care.

Rarely you might come across a moron that will be like "OMG THATS SO HORRIBLE, I HAVE HEARD PEOPLE KILL THEMSELVES OVER IT" .....

"....well thank you very much for the encouragement"

Then you know that person is not even worth your time anyway.

Once you get to know someone and they like you it won't be a problem.

You don't need to go on the date and start with Hello I am Rachiejo and I have tinntius

 

[RicoS]

OMG THATS SO HORRIBLE, I HAVE HEARD PEOPLE KILL THEMSELVES OVER IT" .....

That's what some girl said to me when I told them at work I have T....

 

[Giovanni]

I'm a bit worried and nervous about dating and getting into a relationship with this condition! I haven't actually been in a proper relationship since I got tinnitus which is about 2 years ago and I think it's cause of fear of rejection and telling them about it.

I know it's probably silly to worry about this but it's difficult at the age of 23 to tell someone who you might be interested in. I tend to sleep without any background noise at night but I worry what they will think if I might struggle sleeping and have to turn background noise on or wear earplugs if we went anywhere with loud music.

It would be so much easier to meet someone with T who actually understands what it's like! Has anyone met someone after having T and how soon & how did you tell them you had the condition?

You know a lot of people have T haha, I told my bestfriend about me having it and he was like "OMG DUDE I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE" and he actually has a beautiful relationship. T shouldn't stop you from dating.

 

[Danny Boy]

I'm a bit worried and nervous about dating and getting into a relationship with this condition! I haven't actually been in a proper relationship since I got tinnitus which is about 2 years ago and I think it's cause of fear of rejection and telling them about it.

I know it's probably silly to worry about this but it's difficult at the age of 23 to tell someone who you might be interested in. I tend to sleep without any background noise at night but I worry what they will think if I might struggle sleeping and have to turn background noise on or wear earplugs if we went anywhere with loud music.

It would be so much easier to meet someone with T who actually understands what it's like! Has anyone met someone after having T and how soon & how did you tell them you had the condition?

Haha...Let's go on a date then! Anyway, yeah, I would assume dating someone with tinnitus is best, as they'd understand you and vice-versa. And I know a few people with tinnitus mostly men, so no ladies.

 

[MattK]

I'm a bit worried and nervous about dating and getting into a relationship with this condition! I haven't actually been in a proper relationship since I got tinnitus which is about 2 years ago and I think it's cause of fear of rejection and telling them about it.

I know it's probably silly to worry about this but it's difficult at the age of 23 to tell someone who you might be interested in. I tend to sleep without any background noise at night but I worry what they will think if I might struggle sleeping and have to turn background noise on or wear earplugs if we went anywhere with loud music.

It would be so much easier to meet someone with T who actually understands what it's like! Has anyone met someone after having T and how soon & how did you tell them you had the condition?

Honestly, I think your T would only bother them if it bothers you. And who knows? The person you meet may have something he's self-conscious about too. We've all got flaws. Plus, maybe he won't be the type who likes going to concerts.

 

[Ricky81]

We need a T dating website.

 

[Danny Boy]

We need a T dating website.

We sure do. Maybe tt can have like a dating section or something?

 

[MattK]

We sure do. Maybe tt can have like a dating section or something?

Does T still have a pretty big impact on your life?

 

[Danny Boy]

Does T still have a pretty big impact on your life?

Nope. Not at all. I'm lucky, but mine was really, really bad beforehand.

 

[Rachiejo]

Thanks for all the comments guys! It has made me feel a lot better that my T isn't as big of an issue dating wise as i thought it was

 

[dan]

I'm a bit worried and nervous about dating and getting into a relationship with this condition! I haven't actually been in a proper relationship since I got tinnitus which is about 2 years ago and I think it's cause of fear of rejection and telling them about it.

I know it's probably silly to worry about this but it's difficult at the age of 23 to tell someone who you might be interested in. I tend to sleep without any background noise at night but I worry what they will think if I might struggle sleeping and have to turn background noise on or wear earplugs if we went anywhere with loud music.

It would be so much easier to meet someone with T who actually understands what it's like! Has anyone met someone after having T and how soon & how did you tell them you had the condition?

I know @Danny Boy is looking for a date....he is exactly your age and from the UK like you.
Although he is cured of t at the moment, he knows what its like.....

 

[Danny Boy]

I know @Danny Boy is looking for a date....he is exactly your age and from the UK like you.
Although he is cured of t at the moment, he knows what its like.....

You're a great wingman ^_^. But alas dating doesn't go well for me haha.

 

[dan]

You're a great wingman ^_^. But alas dating doesn't go well for me haha.

It will be love at first ring hahaha

 

[jimH]

You're a great wingman ^_^. But alas dating doesn't go well for me haha.

All you've got to do @Danny Boy is keep them laughing. Girls really like funny guys! I did that to distract them so they wouldn't notice what I looked like... My ex wife told our daughter that the thing that she does really miss about me is how much I made her laugh..

 

[Danny Boy]

It will be love at first ring hahaha

Hope Argos will be rich enough for her blood lol

 

[Danny Boy]

All you've got to do @Danny Boy is keep them laughing. Girls really like funny guys! I did that to distract them so they wouldn't notice what I looked like... My ex wife even told our daughter that the thing she misses about me is how much I made her laugh..

Well, Benny Hill did a pretty good job at it lol

 

[dan]

Hope Argos will be rich enough for her blood lol

I dont get it....

 

[Danny Boy]

I dont get it....

You'll have to be English to understand that one lol

 

[Danny Boy]

Anyway...Here's a joke...Wife wakes up hits her husband and says you're a lousy lover...He hits her back with a shoe and she says what's that for? He says that's for knowing the difference.

 

[Tweaker]

I am married with kids and tinnitus hasn't affected things for me, but then I'm past the disco dancing days. Probably more difficult when younger like yourself as you tend to meet people in social situations which can be loud. Having said that, there are plenty of ways to meet people in quieter places, without resorting to going to your local library (ha ha). I love doing outdoor stuff like mountain biking which is fun and quiet. I do loads of stuff, just nowhere with loud live music.
The other thing is that tinnitus shouldn't define us as a person. It shouldn't be the most important thing about us. Yes it has impacted my life in a huge way and at one point I made it the most important thing about me. Now most people don't know I have it or forget I have it as I don't feel the need to talk about it much to others. I only tell people if I'm in a situation where I need to leave because of it. If someone has a problem with you having T, then they don't care enough for you and are not worth dating.

 

[BobDigi]

@Street Spirit I hope so at some point! I just worry about telling them. I guess I don't have to tell them straight away

Well you don't need to bother telling anyone till you know you like eachother. And then if you tell him, and explain the fact you may need some noise on when you sleep in the future, and you aren't keen going anywhere too loud because you need to protect your ears, if he's understanding and a decent person, he'll understand and you'll have nothing to worry about.
If he has a problem with it, fuck him. He's not worth the hassle anyway.

 

[Ricky81]

T pick up lines....

-Beauty is not measured by looks, but rather by loudness of T.

-The louder the T, the louder I will make you scream my name tonite.

-You have T? let's practice making a T baby and talk about our future.

- If silence is golden, we are not made for each other but our T will bring us closer.

 

[dan]

-you look T-licious...

 

[dan]

or a great pick up line I just saw on the chat section here.
-I accidently peed in our cat's litter box during the night....I thought it was a dream but it was true.