Would Like to Party More!

[Christophe_85]

Hello everyone!

I feel quite frustrated sometimes because I see all people, young and old, going to many parties such as open air music festivals, pubs with terraces (outside), open air cinemas (in parks), going to firework events, nightclubs, etc...

And myself always worried to get my condition worse... Even if I have my earplugs with me...

How do you cope with that ?

Enjoy the summer and take care of you!

All the Best !

 

[Candy]

I know...it's frustrating and feel envious quite often but moving forward I plan to have a list of things I still can do with T...

 

[Tinker Bell]

I know...it's frustrating and feel envious quite often but moving forward I plan to have a list of things I still can do with T...

Same here. I've really struggled with those feelings this summer. I think summer is simply a louder time of year for my family. There's fireworks, movies, parades, festivals, amusement parks, carnivals, baseball games, swimming pools, etc. We're kind of homebodies during the school year!

So I've altered what we do and look for the good in that. A neighbor has let us use their quiet pool, and my kids are swimming better than ever. We watched fireworks from our car and avoided mosquitoes. We've had movie nights at home, saving money so that we can make our own home theater soon. Recently we traveled and my husband took my son to a baseball game. I was very sad, I love going to games. But instead, my daughter wanted to stay behind with me. We swam in a quiet hotel pool, ordered room service and stayed up late watching our favorite TV shows. The countless games she has been to will blur together in her young memory, but she's not going to forget that trip.

 

[Julien87]

Hi Christophe,
Yes it's difficult, especially when you are young... But I try to put things into perspective. I tell myself that I'm able to do a lot of things anyway. Parties, nightclubs can be fun of course but they are just secondary and are not essential to have a happy life.
Sometimes I think of our ancestors who did not have such distractions and could be very happy anyway.

And sometimes I think of people who can't walk, or hear, or have severe hyperacusis and I understand what it is to be really limited. That does not make me feel better but that makes me realize I am lucky to be able to do so many things.

But yeah.. in today's society fun is often associated with noise. We are somehow deprived from some moments of happiness..
For me the hardest is when I can't have fun with my big family in a wedding. I can be there, when the noise is not too loud, but I'm always concerned about it and can't really have a fun time with them..

 

[Foncky]

Sometimes I see people talking to each others with no problem whatsoever. I'm envious lol.

#mylifewithsevereH

 

[glynis]

I have my sons wedding go next year but my plugs will be in without no dought and hope enjoy every moment.
I'm fine going the Cinema with plugs etc.
Love glynis

 

[Mario martz]

Hey Christophe_85
To be honest with you, im not letting tinnitus ruin all the fun.
first of all remain active and work on personal projects.

i have gone to cinema, bars, and other loud places using ear plugs and i havent had a spike.
obviously my vistits to bars have been brief, and when i go to places with loud sound i remain very very far from the
speakers, dont let this ruin your life, just be careful!!

do you know the reason or problem that caused your tinnitus?
to me its something like lyme/fibro.. so tbh my tinnitus spikes to food or some substances.
but sounds do nothings (but i still take care)

so maybe if your t isn caused by acustic trauma its less likely to have an spike from it?
idk thats my theory...dont believe me, always protect!!

 

[Tinker Bell]

I have my sons wedding go next year but my plugs will be in without no dought and hope enjoy every moment.
I'm fine going the Cinema with plugs etc.
Love glynis

I'm sure you've been asked before, so I hope you don't mind me asking too: what type of earplugs do you use?

 

[glynis]

Just had some new ones called ProPlugs not tried these out yet but others are flight plugs from Boots and clear with vents .
Love glynis

 

[Alue]

Sometimes I see people talking to each others with no problem whatsoever. I'm envious lol.

#mylifewithsevereH

Yep, I have to hear the person that caused me this talking about going out to 4th of July parties, going to shows, etc. Meanwhile I'm miserable and stay home every weekend because I can't go out and do much.

 

[Sean]

Hello everyone!

I feel quite frustrated sometimes because I see all people, young and old, going to many parties such as open air music festivals, pubs with terraces (outside), open air cinemas (in parks), going to firework events, nightclubs, etc...

And myself always worried to get my condition worse... Even if I have my earplugs with me...

How do you cope with that ?

Enjoy the summer and take care of you!

All the Best !

I also feel envious when people can enjoy life by going to such places. I am not in to clubs any more. I am in my ear 40s and have done all that and plus I am not that outgoing .
However , I hate that we have to avoid all loud places like cinemas ..restaurants etc . I feel people have worse things to worry about like cancer ..stroke ,no good to eat . At least we can enjoy going to park , mall, fiends house , not too loud restaurants .

I think there is a life besides loud places we can enjoy as long as we don't have stupid spike !
I read some recently 27% of US population between 65-84 have tinnitus !

 

[MidnightOilAudio]

Yep, I have to hear the person that caused me this talking about going out to 4th of July parties, going to shows, etc. Meanwhile I'm miserable and stay home every weekend because I can't go out and do much.

I don't know how you do it.

I also don't know why, but I was under the impression that you weren't employed since the acoustic trauma.

 

[Foncky]

Yep, I have to hear the person that caused me this talking about going out to 4th of July parties, going to shows, etc. Meanwhile I'm miserable and stay home every weekend because I can't go out and do much.

In my case, I mean I envy the very fact that they are able to talk to each others without ear pain, lol.

 

[Alue]

I don't know how you do it.

I also don't know why, but I was under the impression that you weren't employed since the acoustic trauma.

No, I'm still working full time with the same company. The tinnitus and hyperacusis makes it miserable because there are a lot of moderately loud noises. I don't know how it is in other countries, but in the US you can't just get on disability for hearing issues and I don't have the option to not work.

In my case, I mean I envy the very fact that they are able to talk to each others without ear pain, lol.

Yeah, I'm glad I don't have that at least. There are a lot of people here that have worse hyperacusis than me. I mostly just have loud dog whistle tinnitus that is very reactive to noise.

 

[Bill Bauer]

How do you cope with that ?

It doesn't bother me in the slightest.

 

[Rosemerry]

I just have to say I love the title of this thread lol!

 

[Fading Glimmer]

I'm told it's unlikely that I have hearing loss and that it would have anything to do with my tinnitus. That being said, I'm cautious of exposing myself to loud noise. I was kind of paranoid of hearing loss even before I got tinnitus and always embraced silence. I had hyperacusis when I was a toddler since I have Aspergers, but I grew out of it. Whistles still bug me, but whatever.

Anyways, I've never been a big party guy. My ideal fun is playing games and talking with friends.

I think a lot of the problem with my tinnitus is that I'm just pissed and sad I lost silence as opposed to the noise truly being detrimental to my life.

 

[Rosemerry]

Same here. I've really struggled with those feelings this summer. I think summer is simply a louder time of year for my family. There's fireworks, movies, parades, festivals, amusement parks, carnivals, baseball games, swimming pools, etc. We're kind of homebodies during the school year!

So I've altered what we do and look for the good in that. A neighbor has let us use their quiet pool, and my kids are swimming better than ever. We watched fireworks from our car and avoided mosquitoes. We've had movie nights at home, saving money so that we can make our own home theater soon. Recently we traveled and my husband took my son to a baseball game. I was very sad, I love going to games. But instead, my daughter wanted to stay behind with me. We swam in a quiet hotel pool, ordered room service and stayed up late watching our favorite TV shows. The countless games she has been to will blur together in her young memory, but she's not going to forget that trip.

@Tinker Bell I love how you reframed the situation! This made me happy and not so sad myself about my new normal.

 

[dboy7921]

I'm 24 and I often feel depressed when I think about what 'could have been'. Yes I went to a few nightclubs and bars in my time before T but not nearly enough. Now with my H on top of it I feel like a nervous wreck sometimes. I realize it's counterproductive but I feel robbed of my happiness because of it.

The symptoms are one thing but not nearly as painful as the feeling you can't go out and do the things you want to do... feeling trapped in my own head is how it feels like Especially because at this age I should enjoy life at its fullest imo

 

[Bobbie7]

I read some recently 27% of US population between 65-84 have tinnitus !

I recently went to a doctor about an unrelated-T issue and we had a discussion about tinnitus. He made a statement which surprised me; told me "everyone" has it. I disagreed since prior to my T, I didn't hear any sound to speak of but perhaps if each one of us were placed in a completely soundproof room --- we would hear some degree of noise. Of course it would be the degree of frequency and type of sound which makes all the difference.

 

[eldudebro]

You can still do these things. Just be sensible about it.
I got myself a pair of moulded ear plugs. Expensive but a great investment.

I've been to several loud gigs since I got them and used them every time with no effect on my Tinnitus. Stay at the back away from the speakers. You know your ears better than anyone. If you think it's too loud, get out of there. That's how I perceive going to loud venues now. I haven't had to use the get out of there routine yet though.

 

[Tinker Bell]

@Tinker Bell I love how you reframed the situation! This made me happy and not so sad myself about my new normal.

Thanks, I am continually trying to reframe the situation and see the positive. I think much of the positive is the one-on-one time I am having with my kids or getting together with only a few close friends someplace quiet where we can talk and have meaningful conversations.

 

[Raphael7713]

Man don't let the T stop you, I dont care what people here say! Go out and party and enjoy life. But be protected!

 

[Tom Cnyc]

I've found you can attend many of these types of events - but need to carefully choose which ones. I plan on seeing two blues guitar players in 2 weeks - outdoors at a pub. I saw some live reggae a few weeks back at a vineyard. I performed an hour set at an outdoor beach concert in late June (good friend of mine was the soundman - I trusted him to manage stage volume well and he did it right).

You dont need to give up everything - you may have to give up seeing bands at AC/DC volumes in small untreated venues though. It all depends on how serious your condition is and how important it is to you.

Tons and tons of pro musicians have or have had these issues. If it is your life, you press on.

 

[Christophe_85]

I also feel envious when people can enjoy life by going to such places. I am not in to clubs any more. I am in my ear 40s and have done all that and plus I am not that outgoing .
However , I hate that we have to avoid all loud places like cinemas ..restaurants etc . I feel people have worse things to worry about like cancer ..stroke ,no good to eat . At least we can enjoy going to park , mall, fiends house , not too loud restaurants .

I think there is a life besides loud places we can enjoy as long as we don't have stupid spike !
I read some recently 27% of US population between 65-84 have tinnitus !

Hello Sean,

To me I really cannot go to the movies, it is way too loud for my ears !

However, I love eating at restaurants and it is quite rare that I feel very uncomfortable in it... Of course I take my earplugs with me almost every time !

I miss going to Night Clubs, I wasn't going every weekend before but surely sometimes to dance and have fun with friends... I have been in one Club with music less loud than others, but now I don't want to go there anymore because I am affraid to get my T and H worse...

 

[Christophe_85]

Hi Christophe,
Yes it's difficult, especially when you are young... But I try to put things into perspective. I tell myself that I'm able to do a lot of things anyway. Parties, nightclubs can be fun of course but they are just secondary and are not essential to have a happy life.
Sometimes I think of our ancestors who did not have such distractions and could be very happy anyway.

And sometimes I think of people who can't walk, or hear, or have severe hyperacusis and I understand what it is to be really limited. That does not make me feel better but that makes me realize I am lucky to be able to do so many things.

But yeah.. in today's society fun is often associated with noise. We are somehow deprived from some moments of happiness..
For me the hardest is when I can't have fun with my big family in a wedding. I can be there, when the noise is not too loud, but I'm always concerned about it and can't really have a fun time with them..

Hello Julien,

I agree that I don't need Night Clubs to be happy... Fortunatly !

But the difficult thing is to lose a king of Liberty... To go anywhere without worries about noise...
I find that almost every place where you want to have fun is noisy... Even at people's place where they just want to put on the radio, like every "normal" people...

The difficult thing is also to share good moments with my nieces and nephews... Because childre are always screaming very loud, talking very loud and are unpredictable even when they laugh it is very noisy !

From your side do you have severe T and H ?

All the Best !

Christophe

 

[MiaX]

I know your feeling, although I have only mild T and I don't have H.

I go to restaurants and everything without earplugs, because I don't really believe it will make my T worse (the restaurants I go aren't that loud and my T is probably not related to hearing loss).

Going to a party is an other story... I have earpluggs that are made especially for my ears and even with those earpluggs I am scared... I really want to become member of a student association and I know that the music there is very very loud (around 110 dB!). Still I may become member and I may risk that my T will become louder. I am just sick of it that I don't live the life I want to live. Am I scared? Yess. But we will see....

By the way: I really would like support from people who go to loud events succesfully. I know that a lot of people here don't do this, because the people who live peacefully with their T are probably not on a forum. People here need to recognize that! I know pp in real life who have T and they are not bothered about it anymore, so know that you CAN live with it.