MemberAnother Victim of T - My Relationship. Long story short - My girlfriend left me. Why?
Well, there was multiple mild reasons but the biggest reason was that "I have changed" after I got T which is pretty much true. I got more serious and lost the playful side of my personality. I became less social and spontaneous (I kind of stopped trying new things etc.). The usual stuff with T. Frankly I became boring and I can't really blame her leaving me while she still was at her early twenties.
The point of this message isn't to beg compassion so spare me.
The point is that when you are in a relationship - please make sure that your partner knows what you are going through, how do you feel and why do you act like you act. Educate them about T that they understand the situation. And lastly the most difficult thing - let them know that it will get better in a way or another (regardless how you feel at bad days) and get of from your "tinnitus comfort zone" by doing things you used to as soon as possible. I'd say most of us chronic sufferers habituate to the level that the life is almost or somewhat as it was before (in terms of doing things and socializing).
I failed to express these thoughts and feelings and now I pay the price. I'm not saying that being more open would have saved my relationship necessarily but she wouldn't have felt as alone and bored if I've had been more open.
As a rational guy I usually don't put too much weight in this relationship-feelings-blaablaa blabber when it comes to Tinnitus or in general but it seems I should have...
Well, there was multiple mild reasons but the biggest reason was that "I have changed" after I got T which is pretty much true. I got more serious and lost the playful side of my personality. I became less social and spontaneous (I kind of stopped trying new things etc.). The usual stuff with T. Frankly I became boring and I can't really blame her leaving me while she still was at her early twenties.
The point of this message isn't to beg compassion so spare me.
The point is that when you are in a relationship - please make sure that your partner knows what you are going through, how do you feel and why do you act like you act. Educate them about T that they understand the situation. And lastly the most difficult thing - let them know that it will get better in a way or another (regardless how you feel at bad days) and get of from your "tinnitus comfort zone" by doing things you used to as soon as possible. I'd say most of us chronic sufferers habituate to the level that the life is almost or somewhat as it was before (in terms of doing things and socializing).
I failed to express these thoughts and feelings and now I pay the price. I'm not saying that being more open would have saved my relationship necessarily but she wouldn't have felt as alone and bored if I've had been more open.
As a rational guy I usually don't put too much weight in this relationship-feelings-blaablaa blabber when it comes to Tinnitus or in general but it seems I should have...
