Fiancée Is Desperate: Tinnitus Caused — and Made Worse — by Propranolol, Looking for Guidance!

[Wrfortiscue]

I agree.

When you've just developed tinnitus, your active compulsion is to spend all your time researching it, spending time on forums reading about it and frequently monitoring its volume.

One of the biggest leaps in progress for me was undoubtedly in spending less time on support forums and just focusing on my day-to-day life.

Can't wait to not care about it lol.

 

[kuromi]

I agree.

When you've just developed tinnitus, your active compulsion is to spend all your time researching it, spending time on forums reading about it and frequently monitoring its volume.

One of the biggest leaps in progress for me was undoubtedly in spending less time on support forums and just focusing on my day-to-day life.

Seconded. One of my biggest successes in this entire situation was being able to conciously step back from the forum and the community at large to live by normal life for awhile - almost as proof that it was possible for things to become okay; and with time, living became second nature instead of the worry being my immediate thought.

I wish everyone here my utmost support, we will get through this. I just know it.

 

[Damocles]

Can't wait to not care about it lol.

If you ever reach a point where you no longer care about it, then you will have surpassed me. But whether that day comes or not, for now you can absolutely join me in enduring with ease until the day we are freed from this curse.

 

[cruise]

If you ever reach a point where you no longer care about it, then you will have surpassed me. But whether that day comes or not, for now you can absolutely join me in enduring with ease until the day we are freed from this curse.

@Damocles I hope that day will come for you soon, that you are freed from tinnitus or freed from caring about tinnitus.

 

[Padraigh Griffin]

Unfortunately it looks like you can't do anything more. You've tried your best. If she doesn't accept the help, there's nothing to be done.

At some point you need to give up and move on. It can mean breaking up with her and continuing with your own life. Otherwise you risk making yourself seriously sick too.

Don't take this callous and cruel advice. You are obviously an empathetic person to your core and love your partner. You are doing all you can and take peace in that. Keep going, but her desperation is not yours. You will not find any further answers on here. Love is strong. Even if you can't save her, you will have comfort in the fact you tried your best.

 

[DesperatePartner]

Just an update...

We got ourselves through the situation.

My partner ramped up to 45 mg Mirtazapine and after a short period titrated down very slowly to ween off the medication.

She is back to her old self and happy and never mentions her tinnitus (although I'm sure it is still there on a lower level).

I can only assume the news and stress we had received had made everything 100 times worse and it was exacerbating her tinnitus.

We have moved well on now for over 6 months and finally got married which was postponed due to COVID-19 twice and we are now expecting our first child.

I would just like to thank you all for your advice and direction through such difficult circumstances and I hope you all have the same luck we have had going forward.

 

[Stayinghopeful]

Just an update...

We got ourselves through the situation.

My partner ramped up to 45 mg Mirtazapine and after a short period titrated down very slowly to ween off the medication.

She is back to her old self and happy and never mentions her tinnitus (although I'm sure it is still there on a lower level).

I can only assume the news and stress we had received had made everything 100 times worse and it was exacerbating her tinnitus.

We have moved well on now for over 6 months and finally got married which was postponed due to COVID-19 twice and we are now expecting our first child.

I would just like to thank you all for your advice and direction through such difficult circumstances and I hope you all have the same luck we have had going forward.

God, that's so great to read! I'm very happy for you both!

If you don't mind sharing, what do you think were the main things that helped your wife recover from where she was in the beginning?

Thanks.

 

[InNeedOfHelp]

Just an update...

We got ourselves through the situation.

My partner ramped up to 45 mg Mirtazapine and after a short period titrated down very slowly to ween off the medication.

She is back to her old self and happy and never mentions her tinnitus (although I'm sure it is still there on a lower level).

I can only assume the news and stress we had received had made everything 100 times worse and it was exacerbating her tinnitus.

We have moved well on now for over 6 months and finally got married which was postponed due to COVID-19 twice and we are now expecting our first child.

I would just like to thank you all for your advice and direction through such difficult circumstances and I hope you all have the same luck we have had going forward.

When you disappeared, I thought the worst case scenario happened to your wife.

Thank you for coming back and closing this. I wish you all the best.

 

[Uklawyer]

@DesperatePartner, really happy for you and for your new wife - it is amazing news.

I for one am certainly interested in your wife's recovery - sounds like she could teach many of us on this forum a thing or two! I am sure that we would all welcome such insight from her - but would equally understand if she (and you) just wanted to put this all behind her.

In any event, great news and you deserve huge credit for sticking by her and doing all this to help - your efforts paid off and you should be proud your yourself as well as of her.

Wishing you all the best.

 

[firstquater]

6 months have now passed. WE NEED HELP.

My fiance is almost manic most of the time.

She has been upped to 45 mg Mirtazapine but I can't see what difference this is making to her depression although her sleep is still ok now.

She wakes up in a morning pleading with God (who she doesn't believe in) to help her and give her silence back. For anyone to help her.

She won't listen to anyone, we have seen so many experts (ENT, Audiologists, Tinnitus Clinic) who have all suggested the same things to mask, exercise, keep busy etc. but she won't do any of it. She is off work literally, reading through forums getting herself into a hole of tinnitus all day everyday.

Every time myself or her family suggest to do the things she has been advised she gets so angry, nasty and violent at us and we are unable to get through to her she needs to do some things her self.

She won't accept any more medication due to medication getting her into this situation. She won't accept any advice or help from experts in the fields we have seen.

The crisis team have withdrawn help due to it being a 'physical condition' and they have done all they can do for us.

Her anxiety, depression and stress levels have been at an all time high for months and she isn't giving her body a rest at all.

She is out of control, she is suicidal. I don't know how to help.

It's now 2024! How are you both?

I hope to hear from you soon.