Habituation makes it so that the medical community doesn't have to give a damn.
It's like having any chronic medical condition but giving up on people helping you.
So either you kill yourself or you keep going.
And god help you when it gets worse because you just might.
I'm very envious of those whose tinnitus "goes away for a few days". That would give me so much crazy hope and living would be night and day. That would be closer to success than "getting used to it".
Habituation, in my opinion, is not success, and I cringe when I read about those on here as a success story, it's building a thick skin and coping mechanisms beyond what normal people have.
But you shouldn't have to, and you did nothing wrong to deserve this constant torture, even if it becomes all you remember hearing.
I get where you're coming from, and the anger at no one being able to fix this is apparent. But here's the thing. Habituation is not a cure, we know that. A cure would be amazing, but we don't have one and being angry about that is a waste of energy. It's just not there.
Do you have to give up on people helping you? In some ways, yes. There are things that can help of course, but it's you that has to live with this, maybe for now, maybe forever. Habituation may not be success to you, but it is for a lot of people because they've accepted there isn't currently a cure and have given up hating themselves and the medical community for not being able to 'fix' them.
And think about it, what's wrong with developing coping mechanisms that other people don't have to have? If you're doing everything you can to live your life and enjoy it as much as you can, is there really a problem? If other people habituating and moving on makes you cringe, that's your issue not theirs.
No one 'deserves' any medical issue, but unfortunately we are human, our bodies do things out of our control and not everyone gets away with perfect health. Kids 'shouldn't' die of cancer, but they do. People 'shouldn't' have strokes and be left with locked-in syndrome, but they do. The list could go on forever.
Unfortunately, this is our reality. We have noise. All day every day. There's often no explanation for it, there's no definitive solution and no one is coming to save us right now, so negativity towards those who are saving themselves by choosing to let go of the hate and the anger is unnecessary.
My brain is SCREAMING right now because I have a problem with my auditory system. And what? It isn't actually doing anything to me, it's just noise and I'm going to tell myself over and over again, as many times as I have to that I'm going to overcome this and have a good life because what's the alternative? Believe I'm forever doomed because my hearing/brain is knackered? The only person that's going to hurt is me because the rest of the world will carry on with or without me. This is the choice we all have to make because it's the only thing we have control over in all this.
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