I Can't See a Way Out

posts like this make me angry beyond belief.
@jasonbourne, I'm really, really sorry my post made you so angry. That was never my intention. Please accept my sincerest apologies. -- Take care!

You are basically saying that people who cant get over tinnitus are too weak. You sound like a crazy religious person. Don't apologize, just watch what you say.
 
@jasonbourne You have my sympathy man, and every single bit of it. Our stories are similar in that I too have had this from a young age, 20 to be exact, although it would fade significantly shortly after. Some 14 years later one night on a dance floor for an hour spiked my T and has given me a wake up call like never before in my life while also bringing me to these dreaded forums. I'm reliving the nightmare that was 2004 and praying that this subsided in a few months max. I'm now 34.

With regards to you, I don't know just HOW loud your T is, but it seems like it's obviously a strain on your life. Have you looked into masking devices at all or gone to any kind of doctor in recent memory? In my honest opinion Tinnitus is THE worst thing that can physically happen to a person outside of serious illnesses like Cancer or other life threatening diseases. What helps make it this bad is the scary fact that there is basically nothing (at least nothing legitimate) that can be done about it. Even on the Tinnitus wikipedia page, it just goes on and on how there is virtually nothing that helps this dreaded thing.

In any event, I'm here for you man, as are all of us.
 
Don't apologize, just watch what you say.

OK, got it. I take back my apologies. BTW, I do try to be very careful of what I say. Which is why I worded my initial reponse to you as kindly and supportively as I could. That you chose to read it just the exact OPPOSITE of why my intent was is really quite perplexing.

you are basically saying that people who cant get over tinnitus are too weak.

You're "basically" making things up in your mind as to what I was saying, seemingly to justify your getting angry. What you're alleging is NOT what I was saying! -- Believe what you will; I'm outa here. I really don't need your insults.
 
OK, got it. I take back my apologies. BTW, I do try to be very careful of what I say. Which is why I worded my initial reponse to you as kindly and supportively as I could. That you chose to read it just the exact OPPOSITE of why my intent was is really quite perplexing.



You're "basically" making things up in your mind as to what I was saying, seemingly to justify your getting angry. What you're alleging is NOT what I was saying! -- Believe what you will; I'm outa here. I really don't need your insults.

Exactly the way a condescending narcissist would reply. All the best.

edit* just to clarify, you have a guy whos boderline suicidal and posts for the first time, everyone else if supportive, yet you care about your feelings more instead of trying to have a discussion. Thats narcissism.
 
@jasonbourne You have my sympathy man, and every single bit of it. Our stories are similar in that I too have had this from a young age, 20 to be exact, although it would fade significantly shortly after. Some 14 years later one night on a dance floor for an hour spiked my T and has given me a wake up call like never before in my life while also bringing me to these dreaded forums. I'm reliving the nightmare that was 2004 and praying that this subsided in a few months max. I'm now 34.

With regards to you, I don't know just HOW loud your T is, but it seems like it's obviously a strain on your life. Have you looked into masking devices at all or gone to any kind of doctor in recent memory? In my honest opinion Tinnitus is THE worst thing that can physically happen to a person outside of serious illnesses like Cancer or other life threatening diseases. What helps make it this bad is the scary fact that there is basically nothing (at least nothing legitimate) that can be done about it. Even on the Tinnitus wikipedia page, it just goes on and on how there is virtually nothing that helps this dreaded thing.

In any event, I'm here for you man, as are all of us.

Thank you
 
You're "basically" making things up in your mind as to what I was saying, seemingly to justify your getting angry. What you're alleging is NOT what I was saying! -- Believe what you will; I'm outa here. I really don't need your insults.

You were just trying to be positive and supportive, you shouldn't feel bad for that even if it was perceived wrongly. You know your intention so you should feel good for wanting to help. He could have just accepted your apology so if that's not enough then don't let it bother you. You can't have a discussion if the other person's response is to just retaliate anyway.
 
When I first had t I felt like any treatment other than a full cure was a waste of time and completely pointless. Over time I realized that habituation is the closest cure as I will ever get... And I will have to accept that. I really do feel habituation is almost the same thing... Except for the bad days of spiking and worrying.

Even if there was a cure you'd still have to live your life with a broken ear that you will need to nurse and treat with care. It seems ridiculous now but I hope people will give themselves a chance to habituate
 
You were just trying to be positive and supportive, you shouldn't feel bad for that even if it was perceived wrongly. You know your intention so you should feel good for wanting to help. He could have just accepted your apology so if that's not enough then don't let it bother you. You can't have a discussion if the other person's response is to just retaliate anyway.

She wasnt trying to be positive at all. She was projecting and being condecending.
 
When I first had t I felt like any treatment other than a full cure was a waste of time and completely pointless. Over time I realized that habituation is the closest cure as I will ever get... And I will have to accept that. I really do feel habituation is almost the same thing... Except for the bad days of spiking and worrying.

Even if there was a cure you'd still have to live your life with a broken ear that you will need to nurse and treat with care. It seems ridiculous now but I hope people will give themselves a chance to habituate
When I first had t I felt like any treatment other than a full cure was a waste of time and completely pointless. Over time I realized that habituation is the closest cure as I will ever get... And I will have to accept that. I really do feel habituation is almost the same thing... Except for the bad days of spiking and worrying.

Even if there was a cure you'd still have to live your life with a broken ear that you will need to nurse and treat with care. It seems ridiculous now but I hope people will give themselves a chance to habituate

Then why are you still here?
 
She wasnt trying to be positive at all. She was projecting and being condecending.

It's not how I read it but I can see why you saw it as you did. I also thought he was a she too lol.

I get why you can be angrier at this time but in the support forum you're gonna get people with different views and feelings. Lane's tinnitus is probably different to yours because of how he got it, and I know it's really annoying to get very assert "advice" when it's entirely possibly you have tinnitus that's far more damaging and you've struggled with it far longer.

It's just one of the things you have to take with a pinch of salt on forums like this, that there's a variety of tinnitus sufferers all in one place believing they can possibly help one another when we're possibly more fragmented than we know.
 
Because lots of people don't realize that habituation is possible and that information can very well save their life.

Im sorry, but maybe a more truthful reply would be this:

Because lots of people don't realize that habituation is possible and that information can very well save their life.
I havnt habituated, which is why im still here, but from all the stories I've read, it is indeed possible. I can be happy, and so can everyone else.

conjecture conjecture conjecture
 
It's not how I read it but I can see why you saw it as you did. I also thought he was a she too lol.

I get why you can be angrier at this time but in the support forum you're gonna get people with different views and feelings. Lane's tinnitus is probably different to yours because of how he got it, and I know it's really annoying to get very assert "advice" when it's entirely possibly you have tinnitus that's far more damaging and you've struggled with it far longer.

It's just one of the things you have to take with a pinch of salt on forums like this, that there's a variety of tinnitus sufferers all in one place believing they can possibly help one another when we're possibly more fragmented than we know.

youre smart dude :)
 

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