no change in 5 months
Habitation is one road to a cure...
It's been nearly 5 months now and no change. My life is a piece of shit. Nobody cares anymore and everyone is tired of me even bringing it up. Even my mum doesn't want to hear about it. I feel so alone.
Here I sit in my room on a Friday night with my ears ringing and tears streaming down my face while all my friends are out partying and drinking and having fun. I am literally such a loser and so pathetic.
I can't live my life like this. I am so ready to fucking kill myself before I even turn 26. Like what is the point. I can't even read a book. I can't relax.
I'm supposed to be going on holiday but how can I even chill and sunbathe and relax when all I hear is EEEEEEEEEEEEE every second of the day.
I had such high hopes for my life even before Christmas and big dreams and hopes and now my dream is to have peace and quiet?
That's not a life. This isn't a life. I can't live like this and I won't live like this much longer.
Just wanted somebody to know. Thanks. Bye.
I understand that it is very difficult for you right now, we've all been through that.
You, wanting to end your life is a very permanent solution to a temporary problem. You don't really want to die, you just want T to stop. Why would ending your life help you in any way? The reason you want it to stop is so that you can live a normal life no?
My sister committed suicide last month, from years of depression. As someone who unfortunately has the first-hand experience on this, ending your life is the most selfish thing you can do. You leave behind people who will carry the grief of losing you for the rest of their life, setting their whole world upside down and basically just handing over your pain times a million. If you care at all about the people who love you, you will see that ending your life is a waste and really a dumb solution for something that can improve and become better. I've not even heard my T for the last month ever since she left, nor do I obsess about it the way I used to. T has become such a trivial thing in my life when there is a pain in your body and soul that will never go away, it'll just be something that might become lighter to carry around.
It's been nearly 5 months now and no change. My life is a piece of shit. Nobody cares anymore and everyone is tired of me even bringing it up. Even my mum doesn't want to hear about it. I feel so alone.
Here I sit in my room on a Friday night with my ears ringing and tears streaming down my face while all my friends are out partying and drinking and having fun. I am literally such a loser and so pathetic.
I can't live my life like this. I am so ready to fucking kill myself before I even turn 26. Like what is the point. I can't even read a book. I can't relax.
I'm supposed to be going on holiday but how can I even chill and sunbathe and relax when all I hear is EEEEEEEEEEEEE every second of the day.
I had such high hopes for my life even before Christmas and big dreams and hopes and now my dream is to have peace and quiet?
That's not a life. This isn't a life. I can't live like this and I won't live like this much longer.
Just wanted somebody to know. Thanks. Bye.
So there was a study done on this , they say 15-30 minutes a day of meditation can shrink your amygdala. I had read this in some articles published by a university in Massachusetts.initiating fight or flight. Interestingly, and depressingly, the amygdala is hyperactive or enlarged in patients with depression and anxiety (which can be co-morbid). This pattern persists
Unless mine is enlarged I don't want to shrink it, but make it less active.So there was a study done on this , they say 15-30 minutes a day of meditation can shrink your amygdala. I had read this in some articles published by a university in Massachusetts.
This thread is a bit old, but I've been absent for two weeks so I'll take a crack at it anyways if I may be allowed.
I understand where you are coming from. In fact, months before your tinnitus set in I was pretty intent on killing myself to. Frustrated by the lack of a cure or effective treatment, having antidepressants or seemingly useless therapies shoved in my face, its a pretty awful thing to endure.
While I hope to be encouraging I also want to be realistic so I don't get your hopes up. Most research I have read indicates that tinnitus intensity reaches peak within the first few months and then declines downward. My tinnitus still sucks today but its not as bad as it was last summer.
One study I did a report on for one of my classes indicated that in tinnitus patients (chronic suffers defined as having it 1 year or longer) the auditory cortex where the noise is processed is more closely linked to the amygdala, a part of the limbic system associated with fear reactions and initiating fight or flight. Interestingly, and depressingly, the amygdala is hyperactive or enlarged in patients with depression and anxiety (which can be co-morbid). This pattern persists even after remission of depressive symptoms.
To be clear, I don't say these things to scare you. My goal on this site is to educate people, and sadly, most research on tinnitus is rather depressing to read. What I am getting at by telling you this is that ruminating about the noise won't help. Believe me, I had a good three months of laying in bed and ruminating about it. Depression can certainly worse tinnitus among other things. My advice is try going for a walk or doing some form of light exercise. It resets your HPA axis (which secrete cortisol) and lowers anxiety. It also lowers blood pressure (sometime later anyways) and releases endorphins so you might begin to feel better.
At the very least don't ruminate over it. It's terrible and we all wish it would go away, but right now it isn't realistic. It could go away in a year, or it could never go away, there's just no telling. In the meantime, I would try to occupy your time with something that makes you happy or at least keeps you busy. As someone who struggles with depression and anxiety (and suicidal idealization) its a dark hole no one should be in.
Go live life. Your tinnitus doesn't show any signs of stopping right now, but there's no reason to let it define you. Don't be like me in that respect.
My sister committed suicide last month, from years of depression. As someone who unfortunately has the first-hand experience on this, ending your life is the most selfish thing you can do. You leave behind people who will carry the grief of losing you for the rest of their life, setting their whole world upside down and basically just handing over your pain times a million.
I read that habituation often takes over 18 months to achieve. Postpone making this decision for another 13-20 months... Try to ride it out.
Trust me my dads been trying to get me to move out for a while.How about it is postponed, till the man up stairs says it's time to go...
So there was a study done on this , they say 15-30 minutes a day of meditation can shrink your amygdala. I had read this in some articles published by a university in Massachusetts.
I read that habituation often takes over 18 months to achieve. Postpone making this decision for another 13-20 months... Try to ride it out.
I have been on vacation and a bit late to respond to this thread. But @momo, you have been given excellent advice from everybody. Remember we have all been there like you are now when our T was new and highly intrusive. Dark thoughts like yours crossed my mind everyday. It is quite common for new tinnitus sufferers to have suicidal ideations but few would do the unthinkable.
I have entertained such thoughts to the point of checking out youtube for people withe near death experiences from suicide. After reading and watching their stories, I decided to just stay put and take whatever T (and for me severe hyperacusis too) could throw at me. The alternatives are just too unpleasant as told by these folks who have come back to tell their stories.
I had to depended on taking Ativan (a benzo) and Prozac (an antidepressant) and sleeping pills just to survive each day of relentless anxiety and panic attacks due to my having suffered prior condition of anxiety and panic disorder for decades prior to T & H.
I never thought I could recover and live a normal life. But today I do just that, living a normal, productive and absolutely enjoyable life. Just came back from a 3 weeks vacation and planning on another one in December with the whole family. What T? It is still there but it can't create any negative emotions from me anymore. Couldn't do that initially and never thought I can do that. However, time did some wonder and the body did the rest. Don't trust what your mind is telling you know. It will be quite different over time.
If a person like me with prior condition of anxiety and panic disorder and PTSD (after witnessing my son's tragic death), with ultra high pitch T and severe H, someone who was overwhelmed by relentless anxiety and panic attacks when T & H hit and had to depend on medications to survive each day, if I can make it after some time, have faith that you can make it too. Just hang in there and don't rush anything. Like others have said, things can change for the better and your perception of T can also improve over time. Let T be. Let the rest of your life be. Life is precious and you only have one life to live. Live it regardless of T. You will be just fine like those who have written success stories. Read them up to give you hope. Good life can be back. Believe it. Take care. God bless.
I have been on vacation and a bit late to respond to this thread. But @momo, you have been given excellent advice from everybody. Remember we have all been there like you are now when our T was new and highly intrusive. Dark thoughts like yours crossed my mind everyday. It is quite common for new tinnitus sufferers to have suicidal ideations but few would do the unthinkable.
I have entertained such thoughts to the point of checking out youtube for people withe near death experiences from suicide. After reading and watching their stories, I decided to just stay put and take whatever T (and for me severe hyperacusis too) could throw at me. The alternatives are just too unpleasant as told by these folks who have come back to tell their stories.
I had to depended on taking Ativan (a benzo) and Prozac (an antidepressant) and sleeping pills just to survive each day of relentless anxiety and panic attacks due to my having suffered prior condition of anxiety and panic disorder for decades prior to T & H.
I never thought I could recover and live a normal life. But today I do just that, living a normal, productive and absolutely enjoyable life. Just came back from a 3 weeks vacation and planning on another one in December with the whole family. What T? It is still there but it can't create any negative emotions from me anymore. Couldn't do that initially and never thought I can do that. However, time did some wonder and the body did the rest. Don't trust what your mind is telling you know. It will be quite different over time.
If a person like me with prior condition of anxiety and panic disorder and PTSD (after witnessing my son's tragic death), with ultra high pitch T and severe H, someone who was overwhelmed by relentless anxiety and panic attacks when T & H hit and had to depend on medications to survive each day, if I can make it after some time, have faith that you can make it too. Just hang in there and don't rush anything. Like others have said, things can change for the better and your perception of T can also improve over time. Let T be. Let the rest of your life be. Life is precious and you only have one life to live. Live it regardless of T. You will be just fine like those who have written success stories. Read them up to give you hope. Good life can be back. Believe it. Take care. God bless.
@billie48, Do you still have extremely loud awakening tinnitus? If so, how do you calm it down? I am really loud atm. Sounds like a power line in my head.
I have been on vacation and a bit late to respond to this thread. But @momo, you have been given excellent advice from everybody. Remember we have all been there like you are now when our T was new and highly intrusive. Dark thoughts like yours crossed my mind everyday. It is quite common for new tinnitus sufferers to have suicidal ideations but few would do the unthinkable.
I have entertained such thoughts to the point of checking out youtube for people withe near death experiences from suicide. After reading and watching their stories, I decided to just stay put and take whatever T (and for me severe hyperacusis too) could throw at me. The alternatives are just too unpleasant as told by these folks who have come back to tell their stories.
I had to depended on taking Ativan (a benzo) and Prozac (an antidepressant) and sleeping pills just to survive each day of relentless anxiety and panic attacks due to my having suffered prior condition of anxiety and panic disorder for decades prior to T & H.
I never thought I could recover and live a normal life. But today I do just that, living a normal, productive and absolutely enjoyable life. Just came back from a 3 weeks vacation and planning on another one in December with the whole family. What T? It is still there but it can't create any negative emotions from me anymore. Couldn't do that initially and never thought I can do that. However, time did some wonder and the body did the rest. Don't trust what your mind is telling you know. It will be quite different over time.
If a person like me with prior condition of anxiety and panic disorder and PTSD (after witnessing my son's tragic death), with ultra high pitch T and severe H, someone who was overwhelmed by relentless anxiety and panic attacks when T & H hit and had to depend on medications to survive each day, if I can make it after some time, have faith that you can make it too. Just hang in there and don't rush anything. Like others have said, things can change for the better and your perception of T can also improve over time. Let T be. Let the rest of your life be. Life is precious and you only have one life to live. Live it regardless of T. You will be just fine like those who have written success stories. Read them up to give you hope. Good life can be back. Believe it. Take care. God bless.
It's been nearly 5 months now and no change. My life is a piece of shit. Nobody cares anymore and everyone is tired of me even bringing it up. Even my mum doesn't want to hear about it. I feel so alone.
Here I sit in my room on a Friday night with my ears ringing and tears streaming down my face while all my friends are out partying and drinking and having fun. I am literally such a loser and so pathetic.
I can't live my life like this. I am so ready to fucking kill myself before I even turn 26. Like what is the point. I can't even read a book. I can't relax.
I'm supposed to be going on holiday but how can I even chill and sunbathe and relax when all I hear is EEEEEEEEEEEEE every second of the day.
I had such high hopes for my life even before Christmas and big dreams and hopes and now my dream is to have peace and quiet?
That's not a life. This isn't a life. I can't live like this and I won't live like this much longer.
Just wanted somebody to know. Thanks. Bye.