I Probably Will End It All

[Greg Sacramento]

Biological Psychology is how psychology examines thoughts, feelings and behaviors from a biological and physical point of view. Psychological is physiological when someone is in deep pain. With this, in relationship to tinnitus is someone who often has related or other physical problems.

You just can't force judgement on someone with severe tinnitus who has been positive and valued beauty in the past to say that my severe tinnitus is OK. I ready doubt that's there's many regulars on this board telling others to accept who are in severe pain themselves. What is needed is compassion. Compassion for someone who is negative. Offer them ways to find comfort, and treatments such as hearing aides and hundreds of other methods including possible treatments, but don't tell them that they can live a totally normal life. This could be counter productive for those who are really in serious pain.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physiological_psychology
Read about the autonomic and SOMATIC nervous system highlighted in blue.

 

[SeaJay]

..........I am trying really hard but today for example I just feel so defeated and hopeless.

I'm late to your posting, so I hope things are getting at least a little better for you.

I can certainly relate to "defeated and hopeless." Today was a particularly bad day for my T when I saw your post.

I try to remember what the 12 steppers' motto is - ONE DAY AT A TIME. Or even one hour at a time. I think as time passes you will adapt, or it may start to subside as is the case with many.

My coping with T&H is mainly with Xanax (10+ years), in-the-ear white noise generators and massage therapy. It's pretty amazing how a good, gentle massage can distract the mind from tinnitus, at least temporarily, which in many cases is all I need to get through another day.

Stay positive and pamper yourself when things get tough. Their are hundreds of folks here with similar experiences to yours, and ready to encourage and advise you and get you through the hard times. In time, you may help others and in turn helping others helps you as well.

 

[billie48]

You're an extraordinary person Billie. TT is lucky to have you.

Thank you for the kind words, Ed. But I am only one of many like you guys here helping out those who are still deep in suffering. You all are the reason why TT is such a valuable forum for the new suffering members.

 

[billie48]

Our stories are very similar. I truly understand the HELL you have been in and how much of a warrior you are. I can re-live all your moments, you been through a lot, as I have and it speaks volumes about your character

Thanks fishbone. Many of us have been through 'HELL' with our T initially and many still deep in it. It is knowing how deep and how much such sufferings were that we are here trying to lift those who are still suffering in despair (like the OP of this thread) so that they don't have to go through the hellish nightmare we have been through. I have read your posts on your tough struggles and sufferings before and surely you are a valiant warrior to overcome all that and still find the strength to come here to help out those still deep in suffering.

 

[billie48]

@billie48, Do you still have extremely loud awakening tinnitus? If so, how do you calm it down? I am really loud atm. Sounds like a power line in my head.

You bet. I have had loud resonating T most morning waking up. Used to cave in to panic attacks almost without any control on my part and I had to instantly reach for the Ativan. I never thought I would have any chance against such attack when my barely waken mind would just go into panic mode automatically and this gave me great despair not knowing how I ever would overcome such 'unfair' condition, like it is bad enough face T when fully awake, not to say when the mind is barely waken. Gosh!!!

But with sticking to my strategies of positivity and many of the helpful strategies shared in my success story, the stupid and panic prone mind finally caught up and has ceased to react in fear to T. I think what really happened inside is that with time and learning to live my life regardless of T, the limbic nervous system was replaced by the normal parasympathetic nervous system, the prefrontal cortex takes over from the Amygdala in processing the T stimulus. The former is known to suppress the fear reaction. With this positive development, I gradually learn to ignore T and get on with my life without the panic attacks. The mind does a good job to fade the ringing to the background when it is busy with things. I believe when the mind doesn't consider T a threat (perhaps an annoyance), then the perceived intensity of T also goes down.

Anyway, I accept my new normal of living with T, and if the loud ringing in the morning is my new normal, so be it. No more fearful nor negative emotions forth coming. The heck with T. I kick its butt and its tyranny over me is now truly over. I am not alone in this. If you read the success stories enough, you will find this being the pattern of recovery and eventual habituation common among those who wrote the success stories. Don't lose heart. Keep being positive and live life regardless. Let time and the body do the rest. Take care. God bless.

 

[Violetdusk]

I have sent a message to Momo, to reach out. But I had no reply. Does anyone know if she's ok? Hope so, so easy to let this condition win, so when I see desperate messages (I am sometimes there myself) I usually try and help. Hope she's alright anyway.

 

[Daniel95]

I have sent a message to Momo, to reach out. But I had no reply. Does anyone know if she's ok? Hope so, so easy to let this condition win, so when I see desperate messages (I am sometimes there myself) I usually try and help. Hope she's alright anyway.

I have been wondering this too. @glynis mentioned that they would be able to meet up. Maybe she could let us know if everything is alright?

 

[glynis]

@Daniel95,
I have not seen her on here and not been in contact by pm since .
Mybe she's doing better now .
Love glynis

 

[Jazzer]

But with sticking to my strategies

Hi Billie
Great piece by the way.
What is helping me is that I tell myself,
consciously, and subconsciously, that my
"hiss is normal."

In my bath, in my bed, in my meditation, on a walk, whenever I feel it is necessary, I recite:

'Easy Dave
Hiss is normal
Hiss is normal
Hiss is normal.
Hiss is normal.'

Strangely enough, now that my mantra is being subconsciously adopted, I need to remind myself less and less.
When I wake in the morning, hiss does not come in as a surprise.
It Is Normal. x

 

[Daniel95]

@glynis Thank you for letting us know. I also hope she is just doing better and staying away from TT.

 

[Wolfears]

There are several posts on here, that have been made in the past couple months, which had some strong suicidal undertones, where the authors have not returned to the forum or the threads they started.
I find those perticularly disturbing as most were made by young women with their lives still pretty much ahead of them.
I hope that the moderators have some way of confirming that the posters are doing ok?