I know her very well. Known her for 15 years or so. In fact my wife Terri and I will be spending the day with Anne-Mette and her husband Gunner when we are in Copenhagen next month.Nice. I had a meeting once with her for t-guidance, nice and wise lady, do you know her Dr. Nagler?
She can't. But you can.Can she tell us how????
I don't think it is so difficult to understand that T became an enemy because it expresses something sick in our body
Does she have t?
"Tinnitus: Make peace with it in order to have peace from it."
- Anne-Mette Mohr
Hi all,This is so true. Before I learn this concept a few years back, everyday was spent in fighting/resisting tinnitus. This resistance took two forms: 1) I could not tolerate the ultra high pitch, 2) I was upset & fearful about the reality of tinnitus in my life. T consumed my mental energy and exhausted my brain, until I finally realized that no amount of anger/rant/anxiety/depression could change T and that the only way to have better quality of life was to TRY to accept it as being a reality of my life (point 2). By that I don't mean I turn to like T and treat it a friend. I just mean accepting it like we accept any chronic illness, like myself dealing with back pain for 35+ years, or like my wife accepting her chronic asthma & bronchiectasis, like one of my daughters with bad skin eczema, or a family friend with late stage cancer having multiple surgeries. We don't like these illnesses, but life goes on. That is all. As for point 1, the magic bullet for that is just time, good old mother time. We can use alternative treatments like TRT, CBT etc. to speed up this process. But the passage of time is critical for the body to get used to this repeated sensation.
When I finally learned to make peace with T, by willing to peacefully co-exist with it, and with the passage of time, the quality of my life improves dramatically and habituation slowly follows.
If it is the same sound for you, I am so sorry.@Martin69 I can feel your pain throught the words and it really breaks my heart...I don't know what to tell you really except that you are not alone...
hugs.
Tell me guys how you habituate to such a noise.
So time goes on and eventually I will be one of them some time in the future.
Otherwise I am lost.
I'm sorry, but I just think that's the wrong approach.
The keys to success are Strategy, Determination, Flexibility, and Insight.
If in spite of your Determination your current Strategy does not get you where you want to go, you have to be Flexible enough to change strategies.
What is it that Einstein said? "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
Stephen Nagler
Hello Mark,@Dr. Nagler @Martin69 @valeri
I finally did make 'peace' with my T (to a point -- it's more like a cease fire agreement, much like the tacit agreement held by North and South Korea or India and Pakistan). But it is a peace nonetheless that has achieved a good measure of stability.
To be very honest, and at the risk of sounding elemental or brutish, I considered my T an enemy because it was something happening to my body over which I had no control, it kept me awake at night, and it annoyed me no end.
I realize a rational response to this would be to pose the question 'so everything and everyone you can't control is your enemy?' Checkmate . So be it; but that is why I thought it an enemy. I've had myriad sports injuries and was always able to adapt and overcome (take control); not in this case -- so I was completely knocked off and out of my game.
It wasn't until I learned to 'fight' a new way -- total acceptance and no emotional response; but my gosh that took a long time and I really didn't think I was going to make it (it just happened).
As far as the quality of life conundrum "how much does T affect my quality of life and how does the quality of my life affect my T?" I've just recently made sense of that one (for myself anyways -- maybe others can relate). For quite some time I've been way ahead of my T, really on top of it and making great progress. Recent changes in life have caused me to be deeply annoyed (as in quite disturbed, leading to anger and frustration) for an extended period of time. My T roared back to life (spiked for days) and I finally came to realize that quality of life issues on this side of habituation are THE major factor -- T is merely a very effective accelerant driving my quality of life even further down (my life stinks AND I have T). Good news is that I've chilled out and am working the issues and my T has gone back down (my life is ok AND my T has calmed down).
The real heartache is that prior to habituation T is THE major factor driving you into the ground; I've been there...
Martin, valeri; don't give up hope, habituation does happen. Until then...
Prayers and support from a T-bro
Mark
What I want to say is that it's not always so straight forward, I guess you were really lucky to come across a competent professional who was able to help you.
Many of us are just running in circles pouring money down the drain.