If valium is not good for you, you may need some natural stuffs to help calm the nerves. you can try natural alternatives such as Melatonin, Lemon Balm, Valerian, Hops, Catnips, Passion Flower, Chamomile, Lavender, Kava, etc. You can do google search or check Amazon.com for each of them to know how people review these products, and see if you can take them as a supplement. Check out this site on using natural herbs for helping to sleep or to calm the nerves.
http://www.christopherhobbs.com/lib...ealth/herbs-and-natural-remedies-for-insomnia /
Also instead of getting too stressful with hearing the ringing, you can try masking it with pleasant nature sounds. If you haven't tried it yet, here are some suggestions. Take care. God bless.
1) Mask at bed time so you can sleep better. Find whatever sounds/music that are soothing to you. You can use a sound machine or sound pillow for this, or a computer with speakers.
2) If you need masking on the go, try load an ipod with nature sounds or music using itune. If you have a smart phone, you can download free APPs for soothing or T-masking sounds. Don't try to overpower T with loud headphone sound. Just set the volume below that of T so you can get used to your T.
3) If you have computer and speakers, you can try these excellent masking sounds too:
TT's audio player:
https://www.tinnitustalk.com/audioplayer/
or click play to mix sounds from this simple sound generator:
http://asoftmurmur.com/
or this sound library, particularly the self-mix nature sounds:
https://mynoise.net
or download free sound generator 'aire freshener':
http://www.peterhirschberg.com/mysoftware.html
or search youtube with words like 'tinnitus masking sounds', 'white noise', 'rain sound' etc.