Tinnitus' Impact on Social Life

[Sean]

I constantly think about this topic even though I am not a social person. I am an introvert and I stopped going to bars/clubs about 15 years ago... now I am 44.

I do enjoy music a LOT and would love to go to music concert 2- 3 times a yearn.

When I was broke I always thought when I am well off I will sit in first row and enjoy shows 2-3 times a year. I made a mistake of going to this show with plugs about 5 years ago and my life became HELL for 3 months but eventually the spike subsided. I really really miss going to this shows. Once in a while I want to go to wedding receptions which I can't go and it sucks.

Now I have 5 months old baby and I am afraid what if he wants to go to sports events when he gets older? ( yes..thinking too far ahead here)...what if he wants to throw a party? I will miss all those events. It sucks and I hate myself for listening to music with my ear buds on a loud volume which caused by tinnitus.

Strangely enough my wife has tinnitus! It's not as bad as mine.

I do meet my friends at coffee shops and restaurants. I will not go to loud bars /restaurants especially if they are playing music. I have tinnitus since 2011 and I don't feel I have missed out on lots since I enjoy staying home or just going to quiet restaurants, malls etc.

I can feel the pain for those who are young and want to explore... go to clubs etc. If my tinnitus stays where it is now then I don't mind missing out on loud events. I am 44 and I have had fun. My only worry is what if tinnitus gets worst??

I have a very successful business and I still want to grow my company. I don't want to lose motivation because of tinnitus or I don't want to miss out on spending quality time with my son. I guess we all have to take one step at a time and deal with life as we go.

 

[Adamwynn]

You guys are getting caught up in a train of thought thinking that tinnitus is the only issue in the world. Every relationship has compromises because of the other person e.g no long hikes if you're asthmatic etc. You guys have to think that everyone else has issues too, and, although it may be different for some I still do loads of loud stuff, e.g. helicopter rides, cinemas etc just with proper protection, last night I went for a meal and put my earplugs in as it was loud but I still had fun.

As for dating, I've started dating while having tinnitus, and my gf isn't bothered by me putting in earplugs at all! Why would anyone be so shallow and conceited for that to bother them?

 

[Bill Bauer]

imagine you are explaining to your date that you can never go to concerts, parties, cinemas, and all kinds of loud music events

I would not want to have any kind of a relationship with anyone who doesn't already dislike those kinds of events (despite not having T).

 

[Bill Bauer]

What guy would want to date a female that constantly has to wear earplugs

Don't underestimate the power of testosterone.

 

[Bill Bauer]

what if he wants to go to sports events when he gets older?

You can influence the child's preferences. Teach the child to want to stay away from loud events. This will ensure the child is less likely to get T, and will solve the problem above.

 

[Emma Davies]

Instead of fighting my introverted nature - I fully embrace it. Not having a social life will solve all of your problems.

 

[Emma Davies]

I agrt, I'm not sociable, I live a calm and relaxing life at home with my pet rabbit. My ears ring an make noises once the temperature drops in my flat, that's with the heating on.I can't get a bit of wind in my ears as starts ringing an earache with imbalance, I just have had to adjust that's all. I used to love cold bracing walks now I love the heating on full.

 

[coffee_girl]

Violence against women is not funny ...whether you think they deserve it or not.

 

[Emma Davies]

No one deserves violence.

 

[Bill Bauer]

Violence against women is not funny ...whether you think they deserve it or not.

What post were you replying to?

Having said this, the Only jokes that I find funny involve the topics that I am sure you would not approve of. What am I to do?!

 

[coffee_girl]

What post were you replying to?

Having said this, the Only jokes that I find funny involve the topics that I am sure you would not approve of. What am I to do?!

Are you sure about that? Hundred bucks says I can think up of things more vulgar and offensive than you can

But i don't mean it seriously at the end of the day.

 

[Bill Bauer]

Hundred bucks says I can think up of things more vulgar and offensive than you can

I've been preparing for this my whole life. I spent over a decade listening to Howard Stern and Opie&Anthony shows. I've read all of Jim Norton's books. I did my homework!

For me to find something funny, it has to be dark (we are talking cancer, suicide, etc.)

 

[coffee_girl]

I've been preparing for this my whole life. I spent over a decade listening to Howard Stern and Opie&Anthony shows. I've read all of Jim Norton's books. I did my homework!

For me to find something funny, it has to be dark (we are talking cancer, suicide, etc.)

Howard Stern is not funny though? Suicide and cancer...i have never joked about those, but they don't offend me. I grew up with 5 brothers, I've seen it all.

Damn Bill, you are a bit freaky freak huh?

 

[Bill Bauer]

Howard Stern is not funny though?

Back in the 90s he was amazing. But now the magic is (mostly) gone.

Suicide and cancer...i have never joked about those, but they don't offend me. I grew up with 5 brothers, I've seen it all.

So then why were you offended about the idea that jokes involving violence might be funny?

 

[coffee_girl]

Back in the 90s he was amazing. But now the magic is (mostly) gone.

So then why were you offended about the idea that jokes involving violence might be funny?

It wasn't a joke, for starters.

 

[coffee_girl]

Back in the 90s he was amazing. But now the magic is (mostly) gone.

I had no idea he was ever funny, I just thought he hosted a talk show. as for the other guy...never even heard of him

 

[Bill Bauer]

It wasn't a joke, for starters.

What post are you talking about? Could it possibly be funny if it Was a joke?

 

[Bill Bauer]

I had no idea he was ever funny, I just thought he hosted a talk show. as for the other guy...never even heard of him

It's not just how funny it was. It was a whole lifestyle: "Howard Stern in the morning - play with yourself the rest of the day!" (I am quoting one of the jingles that would play at the end of commercial breaks, and that I was aspiring [but never actually succeeding] to live by.)

Opie and Anthony used to be the hosts of a rival (to Howard Stern's) show.

Jim Norton is amazing. I had already quoted a passage from his book (that made it to New York Times' bestseller list) in an earlier post:

There are people from the Salvation Army outside of my grocery store, jingling loud bells nonstop. When I see them, I always think of the following passage in Jim Norton's book "Happy Endings":
"I really want to pick up a baseball bat and smash one of their heads on the table like DeNiro in The Untouchables. A nice solid CLUNK, the sound of a coconut being split open, followed by blood and brains all over the table and a stunned, uncomfortable silence. Since I am basically a coward and can never find a bat when I need one, I enjoy these thoughts for a few moments and giggle good-naturedly."

 

[coffee_girl]

Jim Norton is amazing. I had already quoted a passage from his book in an earlier post:

Hmmmm that is indeed morbid, but i'm not judging...you just gotta do you amirite?

I donated a few suitcases to Salvation army today, those thoughts definitely did not cross my mind. When I was 7 my older brother tricked me into watching a video about something i thought was going to be cute, then it turned out to be a gory video...pretty much scarred me for life

 

[Emma Davies]

It's not just how funny it was. It was a whole lifestyle: "Howard Stern in the morning - play with yourself the rest of the day!" (I am quoting one of the jingles that would play at the end of commercial breaks, and that I was aspiring [but never actually succeeding] to live by.)

Opie and Anthony used to be the hosts of a rival (to Howard Stern's) show.

Jim Norton is amazing. I had already quoted a passage from his book (that made it to New York Times' bestseller list) in an earlier post:

 

[Emma Davies]

Sicko

 

[Bill Bauer]

When I was 7 my older brother tricked me into watching a video about something i thought was going to be cute, then it turned out to be a gory video

I hope it wasn't Too gory. I remember discovering LiveLeak sometime in my 30s. I Thought it would be interesting to watch some gory videos, but after a couple of days I realized that those videos were too difficult to watch, and made me feel horrible for many hours afterwards, so I never watched one again. It would be rough to see a video like that at 7.

Sicko

Thank you for reminding me of the title of a special by Doug Stanhope, a comedian who is in Jim Norton's league.

 

[dpdx]

My life has been pretty much decimated by Tinnitus and Hyperacusis. Ever since that CVEMP I think I permanently ruined my chances of any recovery. Still dealing with a 8/10 Tinnitus and Bad Hyperacusis. My social life has been destroyed but I am trying to go out and live with both of these conditions.

 

[Sean]

You can influence the child's preferences. Teach the child to want to stay away from loud events. This will ensure the child is less likely to get T, and will solve the problem above.

I will definitely teach him how to protect his ears! I made a horrible mistake by listening to iPod! Will make sure he doesn't make the same mistake.

 

[cheyennes]

Nobody used to invite me to loud events, now within the past few months since I got T I've had to turn down at least four or five invitations to bars/concerts. Each time I politely declined, explained why and suggested doing something else. Then I get asked again a week later.

 

[Emperor-Drax]

Nobody used to invite me to loud events, now within the past few months since I got T I've had to turn down at least four or five invitations to bars/concerts. Each time I politely declined, explained why and suggested doing something else. Then I get asked again a week later.

You got hearing damage, now suddenly everyone else wants you around. Haha.

 

[IvanRus]

The most important thing is the relationship with the opposite sex, love, sex.

Does tinnitus affect these areas?

Otherwise, everything is meaningless in this world - love is the most important thing.

 

[Bill Bauer]

everything is meaningless in this world - love is the most important thing

Why? Why care about what another person thinks about you?

Having said the above, I can see why sex might be important for people who had had Both hands amputated!

Love (the one where dopamine is being released by the brain) lasts a relatively short time. After that time, it is just another person whom you have to tolerate as she lives in your home.

 

[Michael Leigh]

Why? Why care about what another person thinks about you?

Having said the above, I can see why sex might be important for people who had had Both hands amputated!

Love (the one where dopamine is being released by the brain) lasts a relatively short time. After that time, it is just another person whom you have to tolerate as she lives in your home.

You have the ability to tell it like it is sometimes @Bill Bauer and you are right.....

 

[emmalee]

You have the ability to tell it like it is sometimes @Bill Bauer and you are right.....

Yes, Bill has a way with words, this is true. His views mostly make me wonder if he is truly a happy man. I hope so.

I will politely disagree with both of you. Having people whom you love in your life is a blessing. Having people who love you back is even better.

I hope you are doing well, Michael.