I accept your apology. I have corresponded with you quite a few times since you joined this forum but did not realize this at first, because you have changed your Avatar. Your posts were always respectful and I was surprised to see this change. Please do not adopt the policy and attitude of some members in this forum. Those that are discourteous towards me, I do not reply to their posts or I place them on ignore so I never see their posts again.
I appreciate your response but I'm not sure what you're referring to. I wasn't apologizing as much as clearing up a misunderstanding. What would I be apologizing for? Asking thoughtful questions?
You were "surprised to see this change?" What change?
I asked some questions, civilly and respectfully, in the pursuit of better understanding. Your response, calling me an "angry discontent," and scolding me for a lack of manners and respect is not based in reality.
Michael - when I first arrived here, as I told you, I read your articles and was grateful for them. Again, I thank you for them. You have provided a wonderful resource.
Then, and I say this as someone who has nothing but gratitude, I was startled to see you lashing out at one person after the next without provocation. Ironically, you scold others for "lack of respect and manners" even as you're the one displaying the lack of respect and manners.
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde – why is this lovely, helpful person saying such terrible things?
(Please know, I couldn't care less if someone is rude to me on the internet, but as someone who has been nothing but friendly with you in the forum, I figured I'd be candid in my response).
I sent you links to articles that I have written and advised you to read them. I hope you have and will paste them below. Your tinnitus is noise induced and this type of tinnitus, usually improves with time as I've previously mentioned to you. However, if you engage with negative thinking people, that regard tinnitus as a problem that affects person's quality of life long term, then their beliefs can soon become yours and prevent you from habituating. There is nothing wrong in wanting and seeking a cure for tinnitus. If you read my post again, I was specifically referring to people that denounce treatments for tinnitus and believe them to be ineffective. This is negative thinking and can do a lot of harm
Again, I appreciate your links. No need to repost on my account - I've read them all.
Generally, I think your point is well taken, that if you reject treatments that might otherwise help, you're less likely to habituate.
However, I think there are groups that doesn't take into account, and perhaps acknowledging them would diffuse some of the controversy, for example, people who are simply not reached by current treatments, or partially reached, but continue to suffer at debilitating levels. That's not negative thinking, that's biology.
And I'm not sure how engaging with them prevents habituation. In the Lenire thread, for example, there's keen interest to know how many people the device helped, didn't help, or hurt. The people who weren't helped aren't dismissed as negative thinkers. If anything, their experience is valued, and no one would suggest that engaging with them undermines one's own potential to get a positive result.
I understand that this is the internet and everything should be taken with a grain of salt – as the New Yorker put it best in 1993, on the internet, nobody knows you're a dog – but isn't engaging with others, learning from shared experiences, and reexamining our assumptions and beliefs as we sift through good and not so good treatments, exactly what the forum is for? Isn't a place where one can exchange ideas and views the very definition of "forum?"
Also, to suggest that engaging with people who have different opinions (or are genuinely negative) will poison my progress implies that I'm unable to think for myself. Again, the beauty of the forum is that we're able to interact with all sorts of people with all sorts of experience, but I'm not necessarily going to emulate some random person on the internet just because I engage with them. For all I know, they're a dog.
Nonetheless, I appreciate your feedback, and appreciate learning of your positive experience with TRT. However, one thing you mentioned gives me pause. The 2nd time you underwent TRT you said it took 4 years. That sounds grueling, and I wonder, given its duration, how do you know it's TRT and not the simple passing of time that provided relief?
Tinnitus is just one in a long list of medical conditions that at the moment there is no cure. However, like other conditions it can often be successfully treated and many people have a good quality of life, doing everything that they want to within reason. If you harper on about a cure for tinnitus; with this type of mindset treatments that I have mentioned will not be of much help, because you will have conditioned your mind to accept nothing less than a cure and you could be setting yourself up for a life of misery and things don't have to be this way.
Again, I think you make a reasonable point in encouraging people to embrace current treatments that improve quality of life. But it sounds like, while you do say there's nothing wrong with hoping for a cure, you also seem to suggest that anything more than casually hoping for it is counterproductive.
I'm not sure I agree with that, and I guess that's what my previous questions were really about.
One could argue that "harpering on about a cure" is exactly what expedited cures and treatments for other vexing medical conditions in the past. And given the innovations that finally seem to be emerging for tinnitus, I wonder if harpering on about them might very well accelerate their development?
Thus, embrace the very best treatments available today; hope for, work for, a cure tomorrow. No?
Noise induced tinnitus often improves with time. Providing you keep away from headphones and not subject your hearing to overly loud sounds, then the future looks promising.
All the best
Michael
Thank you. I hope so, and I appreciate your optimism.
I am currently doing everything I can possibly do to improve (including sound enrichment), ruling nothing out that makes sense to me and seems safe, and trying to learn and do as much as I can to maximize whatever recovery is possible.
All best,
Jack