If what you said were to be true, it would be easy for you to prove me wrong and point to a post (call it "post A") where someone says that their T had worsened after hearing birds. Pointing to a (nonexistent) post where I use that (nonexistent) post A to warn people about ensuring that they don't get exposed to bird noises, would help your case too.
The majority of my spikes were the result of noises that didn't worry me at the time.
To use Bill's own analogy, if you hit a brick wall with a hammer . . .
Well in my case the inability to be productive and to stay social because I follow the "safe lifestyle" is what had contributed to my decision to die. Of course tinnitus is the reason that causes the inability. It's always about tinnitus. Btw since the onset I haven't gone to any bars, clubs, concerts etc. Anyhow... the "safe lifestyle" is not tolerable by everyone. Bill has stated he doesn't mind because for him to be happy solitary is necessary. I am the opposite. Loosing everything and staying safe has deteriorated me to the point that I have began to address the way of my suicide. It's very hard and unfair but there are no choices for some of us.
This means that you have nothing to lose now. Why won't you try the unsafe lifestyle?
It is "living without hope." Of course one always has the option to just give up, stop thinking about what might promote healing, accept that one will have T for the rest of one's life, and just get used to T. If T gets louder - who cares, stop being fearfull - just get used to the new level, and keep getting used to it - the louder, the merrier.
You are operating under the assumption that the things that people have been advised not to do, can't actually interfere with recovery and can't cause permanently louder T. This assumption is not true, as evidenced by overwhelming number of posts on this forum.
Sometimes I wonder whether you are getting a sick thrill out of the thought that your advice has caused another person to get debilitating T.
In the spirit of talking about people who send private messages to us - I am currently talking to a person who spent a couple of hours in a restaurant (while wearing earplugs) with no music, just people talking. As a result, the person is living through a horrific spike now (it had already lasted for close to a week). Of course there are plenty of stories like that, and you are not doing anyone any favors by pretending that this can't happen.
The choice is the above, versus a very real risk of a lifelong debilitating T which would be a cost that one would have to pay for a couple of hours of "fun" (not sure how enjoyable it can be if one knows what is at stake).
Riiiight.
The facts are that he or she wasn't worried about T as the restaurant wasn't loud, and he or she was wearing hearing protection. So stress did not cause T, T was the cause of stress. You are refusing to believe the facts, and making up ridiculous scenarios that are clearly false. This is fascinating.
If you have some reading comprehension issue or if your subconscious made you not see sentences in his messages, then that is your problem. I read his (her?) messages carefully, and had provided an accurate summary (while making sure to not reveal his identity).
Why do you think that?
It is the other way around - my contribution is in the form of the advice contained in my posts. For that reason, I will not be donating any money.
So many hugs. This is how I felt, too. I had no hope for my future. Felt isolated from friends and family and worried about future events.
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