"Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let it go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry or hard-done by person. You will then ignore, deny or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon.
It is also insane."
E.T. ~
Like every subject under the sun, we will all take a personal view point.
I have studied mental ill health life long.
Not to obtain a degree - something far more pressing - to reverse the crushing primary messages I had absorbed from the appalling maternal deprivation from my desperately mentally ill mother.
The primary messages from our mothers, those first few minutes, hours, days, months, years are crucial to our belief in our selves.
If we are lucky - responded to with loving arms, smiles, cosseted when crying - we are absorbing the most blissful of all possible experiences.
We will be 'set for life.'
However, if we are continually left to scream until pain and exhaustion take us over, the messages absorbed are likely to be:
you are worthless,
unworthy of love,
nothing,
vile,
filthy,
just die.
etc….
The unloved child may go through life
'guilty of the crime of drawing breath.
Yes - this then becomes our identity, our reality.
Until and unless we can recognise and decode these subliminal messages, as they crop up on a daily basis, and see them for the lie that they are, we will go on believing what our ingrained criteria is telling us.
This internal condemning voice amounts to Freud's super ego, and Tolle's internal condemning voice, which he refers to as 'the pain body.'
Once this identity has become established it is highly resistant to any change or remission.
The answer is to come to recognise this condemning voice - sometimes it presents as an appalling body of neat pain - as the 'lie' that it is, and over time adopt the truth that we are all born good, pristine, and naturally worthy of the love that is our birthright.