Photo Album of Tinnitus Talk Members

[Elmer B Fuddled]

Jeez, it's like a soap opera here. I thought this was @OnceUponaTime's thread for photos.

 

[Damocles]

Jeez, it's like a soap opera here. I thought this was @OnceUponaTime's thread for photos.

What soap operas have you been watching? This is pure smut!

 

[aot]

A milkshake and rainy weather. Today was a good day.

@Steph1710, how are you holding up?

 

[Elmer B Fuddled]

What soap operas have you been watching? This is pure smut!

I thought I had tuned into The Days of Our Lives. I do enjoy internet counsellors.

 

[Mister Muso]

Me with my wonderful daughter on Father's Day. She makes the best hot chocolate!

 

[twa]

Me with my wonderful daughter on Father's Day. She makes the best hot chocolate!

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Beautiful picture! It must be cold where you are!

 

[Mister Muso]

Beautiful picture! It must be cold where you are!

Thank you!

We live in beautiful Scotland. The summer days have been very pleasant with plenty of sunshine, but the nights are cool. It was late in the evening when we took this photo. We didn't want the day to end!

 

[Charburchar]

So I got a haircut. Went for the classic 90's curtains style.

 

[aura]

So I got a haircut. Went for the classic 90's curtains style.

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Timothée Chalamet vibes.

 

[Charburchar]

Timothée Chalamet vibes.

I love this guy's hair and was definitely the kind of look I was going for. Thanks

 

[nocticolor]

So I got a haircut. Went for the classic 90's curtains style.

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I really liked your hair before, but you still look great! Plus it's way too hot for long hair right now. Every summer I'm tempted to cut mine all off but I never go through with it

 

[kingsfan]

I love this guy's hair and was definitely the kind of look I was going for. Thanks

Dang he does have a nice set of locks. I've got the wave/curl like that but my hair simply does exactly what it shouldn't so I can't do anything that looks natural. Right now my hair is so long on top that I just style it into a pretty killer mullet.

 

[aura]

I love this guy's hair and was definitely the kind of look I was going for. Thanks

There are not a lot of guys that could pull off this hairstyle. Looks good on you, very artistic

 

[Steph1710]

So I got a haircut. Went for the classic 90's curtains style.

You know I am in love with all things 90s.

You look great @Charburchar

 

[Steph1710]

A milkshake and rainy weather. Today was a good day.

@Steph1710, how are you holding up?

Hey my lovely!

I've been better recently. My mood has lifted somewhat. I had it out with my partner and told him I am no longer in love with him and my situation needs to change because I'm unhappy.

He said I could have our van, so I have somewhere to live, and I offered to pay him back the money he has invested it in, because we have each done half the work and paid half for all the stuff in there. I didn't think it was fair otherwise.

However, we are going on holiday tomorrow, we booked it together so we're still going together — should be interesting. Hopefully we will get on, and be able to sort things out, but who knows.

All-in-all, I no longer feel trapped in a crappy situation. I now know I can escape if I need to.

Right! Believe it or not, I am bored of talking about me — how have you been? How's life been treating you? Any plans for the rest of year now lockdown is easing?

<3

 

[aot]

Anyway, I've been better recently. My mood has lifted somewhat. I had it out with my partner and told him I am no longer in love with him and my situation needs to change because I'm unhappy.

He said I could have our van, so I have somewhere to live, and I offered to pay him back the money he has invested it in, because we have each done half the work and paid half for all the stuff in there. I didn't think it was fair otherwise.

However, we are going on holiday tomorrow, we booked it together so we're still going together — should be interesting. Hopefully we will get on, and be able to sort things out, but who knows.

Happy to hear that you're doing better, and that you were honest with him.

That being said (and this might just be paranoia in part), do please be careful on your holiday with him? Be around other people as often as you can?

I've obviously never met him, but some of the stuff you've posted about him worries me.

how have you been? How's life been treating you? Any plans for the rest of year now lockdown is easing?

I've been better, to be honest with you.

I'm feeling depressed again, and I've been having on and off intrusive thoughts that are really upsetting. My therapist thinks I have OCD, which is the last thing I need right now.

I want to try Psych Meds because Prozac helped me in the past, but there's no telling how it'll affect my tinnitus and comorbidities.

I want to move out because my family is driving me insane, I have no skills or expertise to offer, so I'll be stuck at my dead end job for the foreseeable future.

Constant emergencies and my impulsive spending makes the prospect of me paying for further education or moving out unlikely. (Rent is crazy high here, and I don't know anyone willing to be my roommate.)

The custom earplugs I spent a ton of money don't fit properly.

And, to add a cherry on top of this spoiled sundae I call my life, I've been ghosted by a girl that I thought I had real good chemistry with.

Sorry for the bummer post.

 

[Charburchar]

I really liked your hair before, but you still look great! Plus it's way too hot for long hair right now. Every summer I'm tempted to cut mine all off but I never go through with it

Thank you nocticolor I was a bit sad to cut it all off as I spent a lot of time growing it, but I just couldn't handle it any longer - long hair is so frustrating! Slight bit of wind and it's all over my face, tie it up and it hurts my head, etc etc. I don't know how you ladies handle it. You have my full respect!

Dang he does have a nice set of locks. I've got the wave/curl like that but my hair simply does exactly what it shouldn't so I can't do anything that looks natural. Right now my hair is so long on top that I just style it into a pretty killer mullet.

Ikr. Man, a good hairdresser can do miracles, you never know! The mullet sounds ace anyway.

There are not a lot of guys that could pull off this hairstyle. Looks good on you, very artistic

Thanks aura, that's very kind of you

You know I am in love with all things 90s.

You look great @Charburchar

All I need now is a denim jacket and some kickers

Thanks Steph I'm glad to hear you're feeling better and things are looking more positive on the relationship front.

I've been better, to be honest with you.

I'm feeling depressed again, and I've been having on and off intrusive thoughts that are really upsetting. My therapist thinks I have OCD, which is the last thing I need right now.

I want to try Psych Meds because Prozac helped me in the past, but there's no telling how it'll affect my tinnitus and comorbidities.

I want to move out because my family is driving me insane, I have no skills or expertise to offer, so I'll be stuck at my dead end job for the foreseeable future.

Constant emergencies and my impulsive spending makes the prospect of me paying for further education or moving out unlikely. (Rent is crazy high here, and I don't know anyone willing to be my roommate.)

The custom earplugs I spent a ton of money don't fit properly.

And, to add a cherry on top of this spoiled sundae I call my life, I've been ghosted by a girl that I thought I had real good chemistry with.

Sorry for the bummer post.

I'm really sorry to hear this aot I hope things get better for you mate.

 

[nocticolor]

Thank you nocticolor I was a bit sad to cut it all off as I spent a lot of time growing it, but I just couldn't handle it any longer - long hair is so frustrating! Slight bit of wind and it's all over my face, tie it up and it hurts my head, etc etc. I don't know how you ladies handle it. You have my full respect!

I can definitely relate to that! My hair goes down to my waist and while I'd love to have it up and out of my face in the summer time, it tugs on my scalp and makes it ache because it's too heavy I don't know how other people do it, but I'm jealous!

 

[Steph1710]

That being said (and this might just be paranoia in part), do please be careful on your holiday with him? Be around other people as often as you can?

I've obviously never met him, but some of the stuff you've posted about him worries me.

Thanks @aot <3 It so comforting to know that people genuinely care.

I've been better, to be honest with you.

I'm feeling depressed again, and I've been having on and off intrusive thoughts that are really upsetting. My therapist thinks I have OCD, which is the last thing I need right now.

I am so, so sorry you're feeling this way. I can completely sympathise with you. My own thoughts used to, and can still on occasion (especially when I'm PMS) drive me crazy - The brain is an absolute bastard! Intrusive thoughts can become all consuming and ruin your life if you give them control.

May I ask in what form your OCD is? No worries if you'd rather not share though. My partner is diagnosed OCD, and has been since he was 13. So I understand how debilitating it can be. But, also how easily, once you know how, it can be managed.

I want to try Psych Meds because Prozac helped me in the past, but there's no telling how it'll affect my tinnitus and comorbidities.

From my point of view, I believe it is probably better to try and sort your other health issues out. If Prozac helped, I would try it again. I'm sure you've researched it on here to see if anyone has any negative experiences with Prozac and tinnitus.

The thing is, life with tinnitus is a gamble. A gamble of 'do we try and look after other parts of ourselves, or do we just concentrate on looking after our ears?'
I used to think it was all about the ears, but actually, I think it's about what is best for us as a whole. Okay, the Prozac might increase your tinnitus, but it also might help your mental health, and allow you to feel stable, which in turn should help you progress in life and get you to the places you want to be. which in turn, is all a great distraction from tinnitus.

I want to move out because my family is driving me insane, I have no skills or expertise to offer, so I'll be stuck at my dead end job for the foreseeable future.

Constant emergencies and my impulsive spending makes the prospect of me paying for further education or moving out unlikely. (Rent is crazy high here, and I don't know anyone willing to be my roommate.)

This is something which tells me that perhaps taking Prozac alongside therapy would be something to definitely consider.

Until you get yourself sorted, then education is going to be on hold. And you do have skills - You're kind, considerate, funny, and you write very well, and can engage in an informed manner in the threads on here, which is more than a lot of people I know would be able to do. If you get your impulsive behaviours and other issues under control, with the attributes I listed above, you will be able to go far. but take it one step at a time.

The custom earplugs I spent a ton of money don't fit properly.

Literally just done that with a pair of prescription sunglasses *thanks dry eye for not letting me wear contacts and normal sunglasses anymore*

And, to add a cherry on top of this spoiled sundae I call my life, I've been ghosted by a girl that I thought I had real good chemistry with.

Fuck her! She's not good enough for you then.

Sorry for the bummer post.

No need to apologise @aot we all gotta vent sometimes. If it wasn't for shitty COVID-19, I would come visit. We could eat Sundaes together. And I really mean that.

 

[aot]

I am so, so sorry you're feeling this way. I can completely sympathise with you. My own thoughts used to, and can still on occasion (especially when I'm PMS) drive me crazy - The brain is an absolute bastard! Intrusive thoughts can become all consuming and ruin your life if you give them control.

May I ask in what form your OCD is? No worries if you'd rather not share though. My partner is diagnosed OCD, and has been since he was 13. So I understand how debilitating it can be. But, also how easily, once you know how, it can be managed.

It's Pure O, I think.

I have some kind of distressing thought (that doesn't seem voluntary, it feels like it's being shot into my brain) and I'll think to myself "That's not true, and here are the reasons why."

And then my brain will say "No, you're just in denial."

And it just keeps going. I'll do research trying to reassure myself, and it just keeps going.

If you've ever been accused of something based circumstantial evidence and nothing else, it basically feels like that.

But all the time.

(Not right now, but I'll give it a couple days and it'll probably hit me again.)

From my point of view, I believe it is probably better to try and sort your other health issues out. If Prozac helped, I would try it again. I'm sure you've researched it on here to see if anyone has any negative experiences with Prozac and tinnitus.

The thing is, life with tinnitus is a gamble. A gamble of 'do we try and look after other parts of ourselves, or do we just concentrate on looking after our ears?'
I used to think it was all about the ears, but actually, I think it's about what is best for us as a whole. Okay, the Prozac might increase your tinnitus, but it also might help your mental health, and allow you to feel stable, which in turn should help you progress in life and get you to the places you want to be. which in turn, is all a great distraction from tinnitus.

Those are all good points, Steph.

I have done research, but it can be difficult. There are no real studies on this sort of thing and everything I can find is anecdotal.

I also have Visual Snow Syndrome, which the meds could also effect. It doesn't help that the Visual Snow community is rather toxic and full of doom and gloom, so any answers I get there probably won't do me any good anyway. (I did reach out to the Visual Snow Intiative and asked about Xanax, which I considered taking for a time. They said that there was basically no way of knowing how it would effect me.)

Until you get yourself sorted, then education is going to be on hold. And you do have skills - You're kind, considerate, funny, and you write very well, and can engage in an informed manner in the threads on here, which is more than a lot of people I know would be able to do. If you get your impulsive behaviours and other issues under control, with the attributes I listed above, you will be able to go far. but take it one step at a time.

I'm trying my best. Very kind of you to say.

If it wasn't for shitty COVID-19, I would come visit. We could eat Sundaes together. And I really mean that.

Can't wait!

 

[Rainer]

I can definitely relate to that! My hair goes down to my waist and while I'd love to have it up and out of my face in the summer time, it tugs on my scalp and makes it ache because it's too heavy I don't know how other people do it, but I'm jealous!

With male privilege of course.

Seriously, a 5mm stubble looked good on Natalie Portman too, in the second half of "V for Vendetta." That low-maintenance hairstyle isn't necessarily restricted to males.

 

[Rainer]

BTW, that's me after the first test run of the clipper mentioned in my previous post. I was 42 at the time and don't look anything like that anymore, except the hair "style".

 

[nocticolor]

With male privilege of course.

Seriously, a 5mm stubble looked good on Natalie Portman too, in the second half of "V for Vendetta." That low-maintenance hairstyle isn't necessarily restricted to males.

I wish I was one of the girls who cut rock short hair because it accentuates their pretty face, but I'm afraid I'm not Shortest I've had my hair was a "lob" (long bob) four years ago, which looked alright but was a pain in the ass to style! Honestly, I like my hair long because I can wear it without having to do anything to it. As long as you take good care of it, it's more low effort than people think!

 

[Rainer]

I wish I was one of the girls who cut rock short hair because it accentuates their pretty face, but I'm afraid I'm not

I don't know that. However, I don't doubt that you know how to look maximally attractive, and a crew cut is not it

 

[Rainer]

So come on guys! Let's be having ya 'old skool' photos. I want them to be at least a decade old.

At least a decade old. Alright, alright, alright

This is me when you were minus 14 years old

 

[Steph1710]

At least a decade old. Alright, alright, alright

This is me when you were minus 14 years old

Absolutely love it!! Where was this taken?

 

[Rainer]

Absolutely love it!!

Thanks.

Where was this taken?

To the best of my knowledge this was on the French Riviera, either Cannes or Nice.

P.S., what made you switch from Venus to Stonehenge?

 

[aura]

Tinnitus? What tinnitus?

Oh those days... I was happy and I didn't even know it.

 

[PortugalTheMan]

I present the new member here at home to the Tinnitus Talk family:

 

[Steph1710]

P.S., what made you switch from Venus to Stonehenge?

Just drove past Stonehenge the other day and took a photo of it. It was chucking it down with rain and the stones looked super atmospheric against the grey sky. It's a cool place. I'm currently on a mini road trip in my van and hitting up some cool places.

Anyway, as much as I love Botticelli, it was time for a change.