..i am not like most people.
Each one of us on this planet is unique
@TheDanishGirl and all have our own special qualities. Tinnitus forums can be good, bad and ugly. Please read the post below.
The Good, The Bad And The Ugly.
This post will not be about that classic 1966 western with the same name. That stared: Clint Eastwood, Lee Van Cleef and Eli Wallach. However, if the title has sparked some interest then I'm pleased. Anyone that hasn't seen this film please try to, as I think you'll be in for a treat. Although I'm not a huge fan of westerns, I do like this one, along with that other great classic The Magnificent Seven, in which Eli Wallach appears again as the bandit Calvera. Those were the days when movies were movies no matter what the genre. Perhaps I'm being a little unkind, although I have a feeling I'm not alone with this thinking but that's for another day.
A few members have contacted me to discuss their concerns about this forum and the undesirables that are able gain access to it. They offer no help I'm told and therefore, it seems their only purpose is to constantly berate and spread negativity about life with tinnitus and the various treatments for it. One member who has been here for quite a while, said he feels his recovery is now being affected. He has decided to reduce his postings in the main forum and stay in private messenger, which will be a prelude to leaving tinnitus talk for good. I believe this is unfortunate because the person in question always gives good helpful advice to people new to this condition and having to deal with his own difficulties.
Today, someone new to this forum mentioned he was advised not to visit these places and asked for my opinion, as his thoughts were contrary to this. I believe there are some very helpful people at Tinnitus Talk, that give good advice and encouragement to those that are having a difficult time with tinnitus. This can be of real benefit and can give a person hope and purpose that all is not lost. It is especially true for someone with early onset. Many of us know of the emotional roller coaster that one can feel because of not knowing what each day will bring, until it starts to settle into some sort of rhythm, and this takes time. For many it can be a wakeup call and a steep learning curve towards habituation.
My advice to people seeking help in this forum and others they might visit. There will always be people that will feel sorry for themselves and choose to live their life bogged down in misery and despair. These people not only have tinnitus but often have other emotional baggage in their life to deal with and want to vent their frustrations to the world. Forums and other social media sites are perfect platforms for this. Try not to take it on because these people find it difficult to change and they will attempt to break you with their negativity.
In tinnitus terms I would say that I'm veteran, having lived with it for over twenty years. I have been there done that and still don't know everything about it. I have crossed swords with a few people in this forum that have tried to ruffle my feathers and this is to be expected. However, I remain stalwart and refuse to get into it with them and just ignore their condemnation and snide remarks. Put simply it's water of a duck's back. I understand this might not be so easy for some to tolerate and ignore but try not to let them get you down.
Tinnitus forums can be good, for there are often knowledgeable people there, with a wealth of experience to freely give to whoever asks for help. At times they can seem bad, due the negativity that's purported. When this is backed up with personal attacks and abusive language it often looks ugly. Don't respond because this shows more about them than it will about you and the kind of person they really are deep inside.
Michael
i actually attempted to hang myself a couple of weeks ago, it was a half hearted attempt but an attempt non the less.
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