I have lived in the South for most of my life (as well as born and raised in the rural South) and I can say with absolutely no hesitation that I saw way more bigotry and hate in the Chicago area than anywhere I have spent time with here.
Of course, obviously there is bigotry here. There is bigotry everywhere. And if bigotry is the reason to split from the South, I really want to remind Northerners that, for all its relative progressiveness, the North has far more segregated neighborhoods. Chicago even had a term for it, "hypersegregation."
"The South" as a region isn't a hateful and bigoted monolith. Only some of the people in power and their supporters are. There are so many people here fighting for nationwide equality, though. Google "y'all means all" and you will see murals and merchandise everywhere with that logo and idea.
Yankees (I have to, sorry
) also don't realize there is also a huge cultural difference between coastal south (e.g., VA, NC, GA) and "deep South" (AL, AR, MS).
But even in the "deep South" there is a softer side (I loved this daily show clip on the subject):
https://www.cc.com/video/oe9257/the-daily-show-with-jon-stewart-last-gay-standing
It's slightly amusing to me that it's totally socially acceptable to relentlessly stereotype Southerners and lump them all together because "bigotry sucks."
All that aside, if we make it through this and anyone wants to see the side of the South that I (even as a total progressive) adore, I will offer a couch and a tour
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Shortly after graduating college, my wife and I went on a ~3 week road trip. We basically went from PA, down the coastal south to as low as Atlanta, then circled around through Tennessee, Kentucky, and to Ohio. Then back to PA.
Virginia was interesting; we saw the Holocaust Museum as well as the Norfolk Naval Shipyard. Years later, we went back to Virginia with my parents and saw a bunch of historical things pertaining to Washington (Mount Vernon), Jefferson (Monticello), and Colonial Williamsburg. We also ate at Buz and Ned's (best BBQ place in existence) both times.
One of my favorite things was the Carolinas. The Wright Brothers Memorial in Kitty Hawk, Bodie Island Lighthouse, Cape Hatteras Lighthouse were all pretty cool. Later on (years later), we honeymooned at Myrtle Beach. I have positive feelings towards the Carolinas.
We were mostly in Atlanta for all of the MLK stuff, IIRC. I also remember going to World Of Coca-Cola.
In Tennessee, we went to the Chattanooga Aquarium as well as Lookout Mountain. I also remember finding Jackson's Hermitage to be rather educational.
I recall the Louisville Slugger Museum in Kentucky.
In Cleveland, of course, the Rock and Roll Hall of Hame.
If you can believe it, we camped the whole thing to save money. I'm not a rugged person at all when it comes to that kind of thing, but my wife has a strong affinity for it. She has even gone on solo camping trips as a release during my hyperacusis. It's pretty advantageous to save money.
Anyways, these are my experiences in the south (other than one other trip to Disney with my wife's family). Regarding the content of what you're saying, there's no doubt about the fact that people shit all over southern accents. I definitely did it. In fact, I remember when we camped in Kitty Hawk and one guy would call his daughter "Ally" in like a hardcore southern accent. I mocked him the entire trip like an asshole. You're right that people do this without feeling any degree of bigotry.
Speaking of breaking the southern stereotype, have you ever listened to the podcast on John McLemore in S-Town? He grew up in the deep south in Alabama. I won't spoil it because it's extremely interesting, but much of the premise is that he was an intellectual in the deep south and ripped on his community constantly.
With this being said, obviously not everyone in the deep south is a bigot or bad person, but there is definitely a difference between the deep south and the Carolinas or Virginia. When we avoided the deep south, I don't remember there being a moment where we were like "no, that's the deep south," but it just sort of happened.
Those were the days. No health problems and I was still a whiny little bitch lol.