“Tinnitus Truths”
- Thread starter Jazzer
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@Jazzer I get your point loud and clear Dave, I truly do. I know the more severe sufferers may not move on, struggle more, lose everything, feel like they are not listened to. I know we need push them to the forefront as they are not really represented. I'm in my own hell trust me I fucking get it mate, I get it!!
What I don't get is when people get on their high horse and spout about "integrity" blah blah blah and telling it "how it is" but in the same breath feel the need to tear down people who are trying to help, I get that some with mild/moderate may not have the foggiest as to what people go through, they may be naive, find it strange why they just can't move on. We can educate them where it's needed but in a way where they not ganged up on which I see so many times in here. Now in this instance it wasn't needed at all in my opinion especially as Martin directed the post at me when I was feeling shitty and worthless about myself.
I know I say it a lot but it's all about balance, why should somebody who has come through this regardless of whether their tinnitus is loud or not and tries to give some hope and encouragement in a nice, non patronising way be told that they "lack understanding" or they are telling "fairy stories" that part I don't get as it's a fact not fiction especially for that individual.
If anybody gets through this, however they can that's bloody amazing, if their advice helps one person how is that bad?
I'm not going to fall out with you mate, I know you are a good guy with a big heart, the main thing that pissed me off was your reply to Emma, it was totally uncalled for and a shitty thing to do.
I'll be blunt, I've noticed over the last 6 months your attitude has changed especially from when I first joined, you seem more aggressive and angry. I hope you are ok buddy, I really do.
It's been a pleasure getting you know you all I mean that, take it easy people
What I don't get is when people get on their high horse and spout about "integrity" blah blah blah and telling it "how it is" but in the same breath feel the need to tear down people who are trying to help, I get that some with mild/moderate may not have the foggiest as to what people go through, they may be naive, find it strange why they just can't move on. We can educate them where it's needed but in a way where they not ganged up on which I see so many times in here. Now in this instance it wasn't needed at all in my opinion especially as Martin directed the post at me when I was feeling shitty and worthless about myself.
I know I say it a lot but it's all about balance, why should somebody who has come through this regardless of whether their tinnitus is loud or not and tries to give some hope and encouragement in a nice, non patronising way be told that they "lack understanding" or they are telling "fairy stories" that part I don't get as it's a fact not fiction especially for that individual.
If anybody gets through this, however they can that's bloody amazing, if their advice helps one person how is that bad?
I'm not going to fall out with you mate, I know you are a good guy with a big heart, the main thing that pissed me off was your reply to Emma, it was totally uncalled for and a shitty thing to do.
I'll be blunt, I've noticed over the last 6 months your attitude has changed especially from when I first joined, you seem more aggressive and angry. I hope you are ok buddy, I really do.
It's been a pleasure getting you know you all I mean that, take it easy people
I'm sorry my friend - you do not 'get it,' at all.
You think I was being 'shitty' to Emma.
Just try to understand this.
How does telling the jazz musician who has worked all over the world, public performance, television, radio broadcasts etc.....who has lost his entire way of life, that it gets better and better, and that he can do more and more - when he knows he has lost every thing he spent his entire life working for, for 'Effing' years to get.
How does telling the successful sports commentator that lost his career, his wife, his house, his entire way of life, that things get better and better. He is F***ed, and you know it!!
You do not get it.
If you cannot understand the frustration this causes - then YOU DO NOT GET IT !!!
There are times when confronting a comment becomes essential.
You think I was being 'shitty' to Emma.
Just try to understand this.
How does telling the jazz musician who has worked all over the world, public performance, television, radio broadcasts etc.....who has lost his entire way of life, that it gets better and better, and that he can do more and more - when he knows he has lost every thing he spent his entire life working for, for 'Effing' years to get.
How does telling the successful sports commentator that lost his career, his wife, his house, his entire way of life, that things get better and better. He is F***ed, and you know it!!
You do not get it.
If you cannot understand the frustration this causes - then YOU DO NOT GET IT !!!
There are times when confronting a comment becomes essential.
- May 9, 2017
- 929
- Tinnitus Since
- 2013
- Cause of Tinnitus
- Noise-induced
It's only bad if they think how they can cope should be possible for everyone. This wasn't the case with Martin's post, which he made clear in his second post. However, if you just read 'you can do anything with tinnitus' you can't know what they mean because most people don't include severe sufferers in their advice. Saying something like this will be true for millions of people and false for millions of people. So even if your advice helps someone, it might hurt someone at the severe end of the spectrum because they feel forgotten and ignored. Oftentimes you can hear people say 'oh, I didn't mean severe sufferers with this' - why not make it clear from the beginning? We can encourage each other and share our stories without making statements that ignore severe sufferers. But I know that this is an endless discussion and something I'm quite adamant about. And I also understand people that say 'we don't have to include severe sufferers explicitly ever time'. Anyway, Martin's second post was great and it's nice to see that he's trying to help other people.
Those 2 are the cutest thing going. Did I tell you I tried looking around here to see if there were any English Blues available? Answer was no. My husband just smiled and said I was on a slippery slope and it would just be a matter of time now before we had a cat again. Oh, brother! No cat. period. the end.
And how is Miss Annie these days?
Anyway, I also wanted to say that driving 550 miles in one day is quite the feat. That's even a lot for us Americans who love to burn the gasoline. It's been said that the best way to stimulate the economy in the US is to lower the price of gas.
I'm very sorry to hear of your brother-in-law's passing. You are a good man and good husband to be with Sylvie through this. I have a feeling there are many other examples of such instances in your life together.
Hope you all get some rest. As Once said, you are strong but tired and heaven knows we need our strength in full force to put up with these damn noises.
TC
Lovely sentiments as always TC - you are so good for me.
I had reason to contact our British Shorthair breeder today, to enquire the current price, for a neighbour who is enthralled by my two.
A twelve week old kitten is now £700.
I think you can see that their temperaments are just perfect.
Described in the cat books as the teddy bears of the cat world.
My beautiful precious Annie, a Blue Persian, is under the weather just now.
She was the prettiest little cat I had ever seen, but she had to have her right eye removed ten days ago, so at the moment has one side of her face shaved.
Such a shame - but of course, she will always be our delightful little sweetheart.
Yes TC, Sylvie is a beautiful person, she amazes me every day of my life, I am so lucky to have her.
I love her so much - it hurts. xxxxxxxxxx
Dave x
When her fur has grown back TC I'll send another picture - she's a bit self-conscious at the moment, being a woman an all....x
One of your first posts here. This has definitely got to be me...hahahah
(No tattoos!!)
Although somedays is like this...
(No tattoos!!)
Although somedays is like this...
I don't mind - wild look - wild woman - xxOne of your first posts here. This has definitely got to be me...hahahah
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- Feb 17, 2017
- 10,400
- Tinnitus Since
- February, 2017
- Cause of Tinnitus
- Acoustic Trauma
Did the surgery take place as a result of an injury or was it a result of a disease?
Hi Bill
She had a number of ulcers on the same site, which never fully healed, and with the last one the fluid leaked out and she went blind, leaving her in terrible pain.
Apparently with 'flat faced' cats, as opposed to long snouted 'common or garden' moggies the eyes are more susceptible to infection.
The danger in removing their eyes is that - because the focal length of the optic nerve is so short, (the cross over left brain to right eye etc) extricating one nerve without damaging the other is a very touch and go situation.
But they managed it.
So she is now free of pain, and adapting really well.
As the fur grows back she will look lovely again.
- Feb 17, 2017
- 10,400
- Tinnitus Since
- February, 2017
- Cause of Tinnitus
- Acoustic Trauma
You must have felt horrible and anxious during the surgery. I am happy that it worked out.
I hope your other cat is not experiencing any health problems.
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