@OnceUponaTime, so here we go. Waiting for the so called relations to agree to a meeting, I searched the church graveyard. In it is a lot of D'Arcy graves. In old times names especially male they just turned the names around. Such as William Arthur, to Arthur William. It's a long process but it has to do with fathers both sides of family. Now my uncle, who was brother to my mothers mother was Arthur William he lived in Spokane Washington his wife her name was Marion, (now remember these names as they are going to shock you).
In the graveyard is Arthur William who passed in 1998. About the same time as uncle Arthur in Washington. So searching, and behind the church I found a headstone dated 1743. On it is the name William D'Arcy and buried later his wife Mary.
On Tuesday that week the cousins decided we could meet. You must understand the Irish play very close to their chest, and any outsider may have a skeleton hanging with them. I did not I only wanted to see if they would or could recognise any of the 50 pages of paper and pictures I brought with me. I was met at the church by the wife whom I followed to their home. Now this gentleman was silver haired and big, but I noticed he had the same chin as myself. He was very standoffish. But I talked with them and he became more relaxed. I pulled a paper from my stack and handed it to him, he glanced it over, stood up and left the room returning 5 minutes later then proceeded to hand my paper back, but he also handed me the a paper which was exactly the same as the one I gave him. "I guess, he said, we are cousins welcome."
Now since that time we have visited many weekends with them.
Now this piece is the most strangest part of it all. Sit down it's going to be brain clogging.
I left back to Montana after 5 weeks of travelling Ireland but at the last became very very I'll so booked to go home earlier than planned. After arriving I seen my own dr. He had no idea what I had picked up but boy was I sick. He handed me a bunch of meds if you don't get better in a week come back. So I did the meds with whiskey chasers and after feeling better went to town and managed to consume a lot of whiskey then drove home. At which point I turned on the computer and drunkenly joined some damn dating site, wondering if there were any lovely lasses wanting to chat. Nope. But 4 days later an email appeared from a lady from Wicklow county who lived in a village. Which I had passed through on my first visit. Well we visited for a while back and forth. I had planned to return to Ireland to do more searching on grandfather side. Planning to go in March of 2002. My mother had just been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer so I postponed my trip. I wrote to this lady in Ireland explaining why I wouldn't be coming. She being the lovely person she is sent back asking how my mother was doing. "Well now, I said to myself, that's the only person who has questioned about my mom, I want to meet her."
Which we did finally and it was the greatest thing to happen with my life at that time. After 3 years of going to and from Ireland and her coming to Montana, after 4 attempts at asking her to marry, she agreed.
Now her Maiden name is Larkin, remember where my moms mom came from. In America many irish were arriving, and in 1850 the Iowa census was being done. In my grandmother's home at that time they had 2 families staying with them, and yes one family was Larkin.
Now we must go back to that headstone in Dungunstown dated 1743. My birth name is William my wife's birth name is Mary, but she goes by Marion because of 1954 the year of the Marian. It's some religious thing.
I always wondered why that every time I stepped into that graveyard and that headstone what made me drop to my knees and cry, and the eery feeling that comes over me. I truly am questioning that. Now Mary has learned that her past relatives the Larkins lived less than 10 miles from the D'Arcy farm.
We were married 200 some years ago.
How's that? Who knows.