Hey.
I can recognize myself very well with your feelings. I know it is hard right now, it may be for a while longer too. You will become better and then you'll have bad days too. I was devastated when my T started. A lot of self-blame, went to a concert in a small underground venue, didn't even think about plugs. I used to party a little now and then during 20-22, attended two concerts (at big venues where sound didn't bounce back the same way as in a small concrete one). Never had a "scare" of T, never really reflected with the fact that the ringing I had gotten several times after clubbing could be permanent. So I hated myself for going to the concert, ME, who wasn't even really hyped, I just tagged along because my boyfriend's sister wanted me to come (and I didn't want to say no because it was the first time we'd meet). I remember how I complained to a friend that I was sleepy and tired, had a fight with my boyfriend a day before and I wasn't really feeling the whole "go out and hang with them and act like you're still not mad at him".
But I did anyway out of courtesy and it lead to having permanent T. Now there is not just the concert that played a role, my headphone usage, the volume I listened to etc all had something to do that this one, single concert that lasted roughly over an hour would lead to T. I spent 5-6 hours in clubs before and got some ringing afterwards that was gone by the time I woke up.
I knew something was off when I woke up the day after and still heard the ringing. Tried to talk to myself and be logical, I only slept 4 hours so the body probably didn't recover yet. But the days went by, I called doctors that told me to wait it out, then I found out that you can get steroids for the inflammation but now it was too late by the time I called the "right" doctor. Fell into hopelessness again, I had a potential cure or maybe at least something that would lower my T, but it was just at the grasp of my hand and I missed it.
I stopped talking to my friends, they couldn't understand and it just made me miserable to talk to people that tried to be like "oh but it'll go away". No it won't, how can you not know more?! But it wasn't their fault, I'd given the same shitty advice it was someone else that had T and I never experienced it. Don't be too hard on them, or on yourself.
People do get over it, in the sense that they stop feeling that bothered by the noise. We all have bad and good days, sometimes the T is more intrusive and some days you forget about it almost completely. I had lots of those days, where I didn't think about T until bedtime. Now I am in the middle of a bad week, the T has been present and bothersome and I try to remember how on Earth I wasn't bothered before. Usually I scare myself when I have been exposed to any louder noise that I think could harm my hearing more. It starts with a feather and then I end up with a giant hen. A lot of that is in my mind, so I haven't (most likely) damaged my hearing or worsen my T in anyway, the sound is probably the same, but I feel that it is louder because I allow myself to keep listen and compare it. Likewise with the quote "happiness is a state of mind" - it is the same with T. I know it is hard and you see no light, I didn't either. Somehow days go by and slowly you'll accept the sound. You will feel shit and horrible about it, we have all been there too. But it will get better, even if you don't believe it just yet, believe in us!
Take care and hoping for the best for you!
F.